PlentyLV007 Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 My mom usually rents out rooms from her 3 Bedroom/2 and a half bath house and an Extra back house. Now my mom announced that she's renting out one of the rooms since my sister is moving in the back house. I haven't lived at home for over 2 years now. Now my mom asked if me I knew anybody that would be interested...so I asked my guy that I'm dating if he knew of anybody...like he's guy friends that were interested... What got me is that he said he's interested! I mean....he lives two houses away from my mom's house. He is not happy living with his parents. I was pleased and actually excited...but then I got to think.... My mom's house is like my lounging place....my sanctuary....my home away from home....I wouldn't mind seeing my guy at my mom's at all, but I'm thinking ahead ok...what if things don't work out and he's still at my mom's!? Is this a bad idea!? My peeps...help me out.
jerbear Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 IMO, it is like fishing in the company pond. Makes it very awkward when it comes to being intimate and IF it doesn't work out.
Walk Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 Definitely a bad idea, especially at this stage of the relationship. Personally, I think it'd be a better idea to have him move in with you then to move in with your mother. Also... think about the position that puts your mother in. What if, for some reason your guy can't pay rent for a couple months... not saying he would, but what if. She can't just evict him without potentially causing problems between you and her, or you and him. She's put in a situation where her hands are tied. That's not terrible fair to your mother. Don't mix business and lovers... really bad. (I don't think your guy would intentionally not pay rent, but what happens if he lost his job and couldnt' get another right away... something that's out of his control.) Plus, he'll have insider knowledge of all the family secrets. Are you ready for that leap in the relationship yet? And taking away your place of refuge could potentially really harm your relationship. What if you're arguing, because all couples argue at some point. Where will you go? Where will he go? It causes more problems then benefits. I can't imagine he's so desperate to get out of his parents house that the only other place he can go is your moms house. There has got to be other places for rent around there. Besides, it kind of seems like he's just switching parents at that point. Trades his in for yours. Really don't think it would be wise.
MadDog Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 I'd say pass on it. Without being pessimistic, there's no telling what the state of your relationship will be like months down the line. You don't want to be caught in an extremely awkward situation if things between you two don't work out for whatever reason. On top of that, even assuming things work out, I think it'd be kind of lame to have to see your boyfriend everytime you visit your mom. I'd keep your family and boyfriend separate if I were you.
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