Twink Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 That Thursday I went into a bar, ex knew I was there, we have only been broken up for two weeks. He showed up knowing I was there, came up to me said hi. Did not talk to him until the end of the night, he came up to me to give me something I had left at his parents. I told him I don't want it, he asked for me to come out side and talk. He started telling me how me not calling for three days crushed him, how he misses my son, how he is scared this is not going to work. He said his friend asked him if he wants to make his friends happy or yourself happy. I told him I want to make myself happy. He grabbed me and started to kiss me hug me. He said alot of things about our relationship. He followed me home, kissed me told me he loves me and for me to call him tomorrow. He said he was scared, asked me if we are going to make it. I told him he knows how I feel. He left saying he loves me just doesn't know if we are going to make it. Then I call him the next day, he told me Thursday night was a mistake, go home it is over. I told him no, I love him and want to talk about things. So I told him about all the good times we had and why I love him. He said he loves me will sleep on it come over tonight or not and he loves me. Well he did not show up. So I went into this emotional break down and texted him about how he can just run when he is scared and confused, well I don't need that yes, he is everything I want in a man, but I don't want a runner, I went off about his past with women and how he can go back to that. I am going to be happy, I mean I went on and on. Then yesterday, I texted and told him I was sorry, I was feeling very rejected and my emotions were running high. I told him he still has things at my house, and it is hard because I am still very hurt, not only that but my son is freaking out about him. So I told him I would leave him alone, I know he does not want anything to do with me and blah blah how I hurt and miss him. Then at 10:30 at night I get a text that said Sounds good When. So I freak out ask him why he texted me that, call him no answer left message why did you text that did you text the wrong persons? Then I get a duplicate text from him saying the same thing Sounds good when? So I text him and say I don't understand why you are texting me can you tell me why, then I text saying Maybe you texted the wrong girl . Then I text and say If you sent this to me to hurt me because it should have went to another girl please stop you have hurt me enough. Please stop. Then this moring I send another text did you send me that text to mess with me? I don't need to be teated like that I hurt enough I am sure you already found someone else to mess around with to comfort you and make you feel better what they call rebound, we had something that was so wonderful and you tossed me to the curb not very many find that kind of love Then to be tossed a side really really hurts of course you don't know waht that feels like cause you the one doing all the tossing. I am sick in the head over this, I miss this man so much, I hurt so much over this break up that I am freaking out from one extreme to the next. Please help. When I talked to him on Friday about what he said on thursday, he said I was not holding him enough at night, when we lived together, I was defencive. He does not want a relationship. I tried everything to make it work, now I am still just hurting myself. I need to get made but I can't, I mean the guy just moved out without a warning. tells me he loves me is always his last words, kisses me and hugs me then leaves me again, tells me he will be over or he wont. Well when he did not come over I told him I hope he went to the bar with his friends. I am sick, please someone help me I need to get over this.
daphne Posted May 3, 2006 Posted May 3, 2006 Twink, I think you should try to get off of this emotional roller coaster and go no contact. This guy is insecure and you're highly emotional about it and you are pushing him away. It's better to walk away with dignity. If he comes back, it was meant to be. But you need to start taking care of yourself and the contact is very odd and sounds highly manipulative. When people know they can still have you, they seem to take it for granted. You can live without this guy, that I promise you. You are going to have to start moving in the opposite direction for now to regain your own sanity. Focus on yourself and your son. Right now, neither of you is good for the other until and unless you can get your emotions under control and your head on straight. We've all been there. You can minimize the damage but stopping the craziness now and look at it again later.
Author Twink Posted May 3, 2006 Author Posted May 3, 2006 Monday, my mom ended up in the hospital having a stroke. So I called him crying left a message, texted him telling him I need to talk to someone. No response from him. I called and left a another message saying sorry for calling just upset and I keep running to him because he was my best friend and I know he doesn't want anything to do with me. I just still stook up on him I love him and miss him being my best friend. He never called to even check on my mom. Nothing! Gesh, I am having a really hard time with this no contact.
KittenMoon Posted May 3, 2006 Posted May 3, 2006 Monday, my mom ended up in the hospital having a stroke. So I called him crying left a message, texted him telling him I need to talk to someone. No response from him. I called and left a another message saying sorry for calling just upset and I keep running to him because he was my best friend and I know he doesn't want anything to do with me. I just still stook up on him I love him and miss him being my best friend. He never called to even check on my mom. Nothing! Gesh, I am having a really hard time with this no contact. While it's kinda cold not to even check to see of your mom is ok and offer condolensces, he probably doesn't know what to say and doesn't want to get into a situation where he feels obligated to support you emotionally.
GB111 Posted May 3, 2006 Posted May 3, 2006 "When people know they can still have you, they seem to take it for granted." Trust me, this is the truth. I allowed myself to be "hung on to" while my ex dated TWO different people over 2.5 months. I just found out about the second last night. She has always reeled in and then let the line back out, but never really let go. Finally, yesterday, after a horribly embarrassing and public incident, she finally said "we will never be anything more than friends. We are over forever". Her Sister told me she had finally had enough time to fall out of love with me. I was always available, and this is what I get. Please, don't do this to yourself. DO NOT TALK TO HIM ANY LONGER IF YOU CARE AT ALL ABOUT GETTING HIM BACK. Also, the time will help you to look at things through clearer eyes, even if you don't feel like you want to right now. You're only hurting yourself by giving him any of your time or attention.
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