daphne Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 After he agreed, a second time not to contact me unless I contacted him first, he's texting me again to see if the water's safe. I haven't texted him back. I know I want him back, but I know that it's nigh impossible since teh conditions are entirely too high at this point. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice ,well you know. I need reinforcements please. I feel extremely weak right now. I was ok until I started hearing about him from friends and him texting. The only way it'll work out is if we have a really long period of nc where he gets to figure out what he did wrong and either make it right or move on. Either way, I'll be moving forward so it's an added benefit.
GiveAndTake Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 I recall you responding to my post last week about the No Contact. I don't know what you mean by the conditions being too high but if it's anything like my situation, I understand completely. My ex will never admit any wrong doing and it's the most frustrating feeling. I keep thinking that's all I want is his admission of guilt. I don't think it's going to happen. I just posted tonight in the coping section...lol I wonder if we have the same ex?....lol I'll keep telling you not to call yours if you keep telling me not to call mine.
Author daphne Posted May 1, 2006 Author Posted May 1, 2006 Yes please! Keep reminding me not to contact him. Yesterday was extremely difficult but today is better. I'm committed to no contact because anything else would slow down the healing process and I want to move on. If he comes around then he knows I won't accept his terms. Actually, my ex had no problem admitting culpability. That was one of his strong points. He'd make me laugh when he made a mistake. "i'm sorry I'm such an insensitive prick." I'd be extremely mad at him for something and he'd pull that out and I couldn't stay mad. The reason I can't go back without him changing is that he lied to me twice. He didn't tell me until a month into the relationship that he wasn't moving. When I specifically asked him how long he'd be staying, he said 3 more years. When he finally told me, I was flabbergasted that he'd lied to me and led me on and I broke up. He came back, said if I changed my mind that that would affect his decision to stay. I took him back, a month later he finally told me the real truth. He never had any intention of staying in teh first place. On top of that, he was becoming entirely too aloof and not remotely trying to make me happy. Of course when we first got back together he was on his toes. Towards the end when he told me he was super aloof and I got tired of that. Anyway, you see the obstacles to us actually getting back together. Even if he stayed, I wouldn't take back the aloof guy. I know he really likes me but he may not be strong enough.
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