angel583 Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 hello, i'm new here and just wondered if i could ask for some advice. i have been seeing a guy for about 5/6 months now. when we got together he had not long split from a 5 year relationship, in which he was very unhappy. we meet through a friend and things started off really great. He told me he was really happy and that he really liked being with me. We spent a lot of time together and even went away together for a week and had the best time. After a couple of months thou things started to go down hill, he was getting a lot of hassle from his ex, who wanted to get back with him. He hadn't told her about me and didn't want to yet coz he was affraid of hurting her. We ended up spending less and less time together and i was getting blown off alot, even when we had made arrangments. Eventually he said that it was probably best if we had some time apart coz the situation was upsetting me and he felt bad coz he said he couldn't give me what i wanted and deserved right now. I understood this and appreciated his honesty. Thing is after we had split he then texts me and messages me a lot saying he misses me and wants to see me. I am really into him and sometimes i do give in and go and see him but then he goes all distant again. His behaviour really confuses me. He talks like he really likes me but can't seem to put it into actions. I find it hard to understand when in the beginning everything was soo great and i'm sure he started to feel things for me like i did for him. Sorry for the long post but any advice at all would be aprreciated. Thanx
whichwayisup Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 Seems he shouldn't have gotten involved with you so quickly. He has feelings for his ex, he's not over her - Or their relationship isn't 'quite' over either. I don't know. I think though, him telling you he hasn't told her about you has two truths to it. Ofcourse he feels it will hurt her feelings (which means he still has affection and care for her to make sure she isn't going to be hurt) and also, her not knowing about you leaves the door open a crack incase they get back together. And sadly, it also means he's not that serious about the relationship he has with you. On another note, this is NOT your fault, you've done nothing wrong! He DOES like you, but he's still very much into her or he's definately not over her. You deserve someone who will put you first, and not be looking backwards to his ex...So, back off of him for a while and let him sort out his feelings. You don't wanna be the rebound girl.
Yamaha Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 And sadly, it also means he's not that serious about the relationship he has with you. You deserve someone who will put you first, and not be looking backwards to his ex...So, back off of him for a while and let him sort out his feelings. You don't wanna be the rebound girl. Good advice...
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