Lishy Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 I met a guy last night! We chatted for about an hour and he was a really nice guy! He asked for my number and I gave it to him (I rarely give out my number) He text me later saying he enjoyed talking to me and said that I am good looking and funny and did I know how rare that is in a woman! awwwwwww The problem is ... He had a big head and his chest looked really hairy and it has put me off!!!!!!!! Am I shallow? Why do I always talk myself out of any kind of relationship? Grrrr I hate being like this! Damn my exH for the s*** he put me through and the fears he has left me with!
TheSwordfish Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 Not shallow, some poeple just don't seem to fit. I'm really tall, a girl thought I was good looking, but to tall for her. Shallow.. maybe... I don't care. I want a girl with certain looks as well...
Author Lishy Posted April 30, 2006 Author Posted April 30, 2006 This guy has a lovely face - I am not too into looks. If I see a guy who looks like a model I do not fancy him at all although I appreciate he is nice eye candy, I would not be interested. The problen is not him, the problem is ME! I am forever talking myself out of getting close to anyone!
TheSwordfish Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 This guy has a lovely face - I am not too into looks. If I see a guy who looks like a model I do not fancy him at all although I appreciate he is nice eye candy, I would not be interested. Now this is something that frustrates me, I have been called a fashion puppet, a hottie and so on, but I'm never more then that. Why is this way of thinking common in girls? (I don't think I'm that good looking myself). The problen is not him, the problem is ME! I am forever talking myself out of getting close to anyone! Why not get close to him? (I've been in the position that a girl was crazy about me and talked herself out of it more then once, it feels so strange)
basscatcher Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 Ahh Lishy, You sound a bit like me with Charlie in the beginning.. Do you recall?? Go out with him a couple times. Your image hang-up might change quickly. If not, then say your sorry and move on.
whichwayisup Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 He had a big head and his chest looked really hairy I'm laughing, not at you, just the way that reads.. I agree with Pada, go out with him afew times, get to know him better...Then maybe those physical issues won't be issues anymore. He could just have one hairy patch on his chest and the rest of it may not be as hairy...As for his head? I'm assuming you're meaning he has a big melon, not 'big head' as in ego.
Touche Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 That's so funny. When I first met my husband he had chest hair coming out of the top of his shirt which wasn't buttoned all the way to his neck. I thought Mmmm...hairy chest! I LOVE that! Never was attracted to men with a hairless chest BUT I came to find out, he was one of those who just had that little hairy patch at the top like Witch was saying. The rest of his chest is not hairless but not hairy either.
Author Lishy Posted May 1, 2006 Author Posted May 1, 2006 Yeah that is it! He has that hairy patch at the top of his chest! He has a wide forehead! Oh guys .... Today he has text me all day and it has been fun! He told me he thinks I am gorgeous and that he woke up smiling today when he thought about me! I didnt even kiss him! Lets see how it goes eh! He has asked to take me out but we have not made a firm date yet! Lets see!
hyakku Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 Yeah that is it! He has that hairy patch at the top of his chest! He has a wide forehead! Oh guys .... Today he has text me all day and it has been fun! He told me he thinks I am gorgeous and that he woke up smiling today when he thought about me! I didnt even kiss him! Lets see how it goes eh! He has asked to take me out but we have not made a firm date yet! Lets see! If you don't like his physical looks, just move on. You're not shallow, you have your own standards, theres nothing wrong with that. It's like telling a man that he's wrong for not dating ugly (ugly by society's standards: Obese, sweaty, smelly, etc) fat women because they have a "good personality". If you aren't going to want to look at the person's face when you are riding on top of him than don't be with them .
Yamaha Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 You need to give him a chance. There are always reasons not to get involved if that is what your looking for but you need to focus on the reasons to find out about this nice man ( who seems very smitten by you ). I don't think your shallow, just scared. It is hard to put yourself out there but if you don't you'll never know. I know you have had bad experiences in the past with men but don't let your past influence your future. Find out about him and if you don't like him for is personality or morals then fine but don't just blow him off for having some hair on the chest or a large forehead.
whichwayisup Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 I have to ask this...IF the situation was reversed - And the guy met a girl who he liked but she had afew 'noticeable' features that were 'questionable', would you all (meaning the men) be offering up the guy advice to give her a chance, get to know her and "look past" her unfortunate features, even if she had some other nice qualities?? Be honest now....
Yamaha Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 I have to ask this...IF the situation was reversed - And the guy met a girl who he liked but she had afew 'noticeable' features that were 'questionable', would you all (meaning the men) be offering up the guy advice to give her a chance, get to know her and "look past" her unfortunate features, even if she had some other nice qualities?? Be honest now.... I would give her a chance. If I really was intrigued by her and wanted to find out about her I would overlook a large nose or a wisp of hair on her upper lip. Lishy said it wasn't him but her as to why she was holding back. Now if the features were just to much for you to look at then you should pass. In the end it is the person that keeps you there but you do need a physical attraction to want to be intimate.
jerbear Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 For me yes, she would need some nasty and I mean nasty issues. Depends on what it is. The attraction has to be there to begin with. I would not say hi to anyone that I have no interests in. It is the overall package that I look for.
whichwayisup Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 That's true. I guess it would depend on what exactly was wrong and if one could get past it.
Krisnakay Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 I have tried dating men that I was not attracted to....It never worked for me...I don't it's shallow not to want to date someone that your not attracted to.
Author Lishy Posted May 1, 2006 Author Posted May 1, 2006 Ok, looking at the plus's he has a great smile, he is funny and he seems like a genuine,sweet guy! I have decided to meet up with him at some point and see what happens! What do I have to lose? I stress over men so much because I am so scared - I know I am not that fickle that I cant get over silly things! My FWB had a hairy back, a hairy bum, a gut and he wasnt the best looking of guys and he suffered with premature ejaculation but I was nuts about him!
TheSwordfish Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 My FWB had a hairy back, a hairy bum, a gut and he wasnt the best looking of guys and he suffered with premature ejaculation but I was nuts about him! Now that was one of the funiest sentences I've ever read.
Author Lishy Posted May 1, 2006 Author Posted May 1, 2006 You know what hon ... When I wrote that I laughed myself, cos it's true and yet I feel for that guy like a ton of bricks! So looks mean nothing I guess I am looking for ways to talk myself out of anything as I am so scared ...... Damn my exH!
PlentyLV007 Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 girl!!! c'mon...."try" not to base toooo much on the looks...sure appereance is most likely to be .... 65% of interest in a relationship...but then...the more and more you get to know someone...then that percentage starts dropping and their personality starts gaining percentage...you know!!???? I'm gone out with really attractive guys but ,are so cocky and arrogant and their confidence is just too much!!! Give this guy a shot!!! Example!!:: This guy I've been seeing... Now he's appearance...is sooooo not what I'm use to. I like men to look like well full figured or if you like to call it "HUSKY"...!!! HMMM NICE.... Now my guy...he is very cut...nice arms , chest...I mean...my own mini calvin klein model! At first I was very intimidated!!! yet our first date/second /third....he has a great heart! Very sweet and tends to me....I love it!!!! Very sweet! I've never met any guy who is that attentive to someone he really likes. Now I see him and well my mouth waters! I said why not....I desearve to be treated right! Now it's been over a month and we are still very good! NO ARGUMETNS!!! EVER!!!? No insecurities...nothing! Love it! Good luck to you sweetie!!!!
No Stress Lady Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 Ok, looking at the plus's he has a great smile, he is funny and he seems like a genuine,sweet guy! I have decided to meet up with him at some point and see what happens! What do I have to lose? I stress over men so much because I am so scared - I know I am not that fickle that I cant get over silly things! My FWB had a hairy back, a hairy bum, a gut and he wasnt the best looking of guys and he suffered with premature ejaculation but I was nuts about him! I'm speechless. Sounds like you should definitely go for it with this new guy - big head and hairy chest or not :lmao:
Sassy Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 Lishy it is perfectly normal what you are feeling !! Give him a chance you never know he just might be the one. Good luck let us know how things go for you.
Art_Critic Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 You know what they say " Big head upstairs means big head downstairs"
alphamale Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 You know what they say " Big head upstairs means big head downstairs" agreed A_C....maybe he's got a penis with a small shaft but a huge bulbous head. maybe his cock looks like a mushroom... just think, if LISHY went to the beach she wouldn't need an umbrella
PlentyLV007 Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 wow...so that means that when you meat a guy with a small head.. Does that mean he has a big head down there!!! =)
Author Lishy Posted May 1, 2006 Author Posted May 1, 2006 Well .... I have just been speaking to him on the phone for an hour! He is so easy to talk to and we were laughing like crazy! He says such sweet things but not over the top! Oh I like him! I am meeting him on Friday night!
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