Dagny Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 After a few years of observing my friends, male and female in relationships. Its just kinda sad to see people behaving badly. Why do people do that? For example, I have a really close male friend who sings praises of his girlfriend. He says she's the sweetest thing in the world. Then we went to another location and he hooked up with a blonde and then say hey..hehe know what happened that night? I thought the world of him, he doing that made me kind of sad. What happened to your gf? I have another male friend who cannot forget a girl he left in a foreign land. He's dating someone else now and frankly is the perfect boyfriend. But she does not know he will eventually dump her because he knows that this girl and him in the foreign land is "destiny" Its just sadder when they are your close guy friends you care about. Why is this so disappointing to me? How do you even know if someone is real to you anymore? Just seeking opinion..im bored.
Curmudgeon Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 There are players and there are sincere people. Sometimes it's hard to tell the difference. I guess time is the true test. I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve so when I began to show real interest in my wife, it was very obvious to her. Also, she'd known me for five years and is very intuitive and intelligent. She knew I had a great deal of integrity and could be believed. I guess the best any of us can do is try to trust our intuition and our gut feelings. Sometimes they will fail us but there's no other litmus test I'm aware of. In 10 years I've never proven her wrong, nor she me.
MadDog Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 It's because being responsible takes maturity and integrity which are pretty rare in the general population. It's a lot easier to cheat on your girlfriend and bang that slutty blonde or not be honest with the people you date. Bottom line, your guy friends are being selfish (a characteristic of immaturity). What I've come to realize during my 2+ decades on this earth is that the average person blows. The average person is lazy, boring, lacks integrity, and pretty stupid. That's why a vast majority of relationships fail and even the ones that don't break up are pretty lame; it's because one or both people fall under the average person category. Seriously think about it: when's the last time you saw a couple that was genuinely happy and have been together for at least 3+ years? There aren't too many. So what I've concluded is I'm willing to hold out for a long time, potentially my whole life if necessary, to meet that special woman who's intelligent, hard-working, interesting to talk to, and has integrity. I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than to settle for a lame person. I suggest you do the same.
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