Pantero Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 Hello all. I've been lurking on these forums for quite awhile and decided to post. My g/f and I broke up about 2 months ago. It was a short-term relationship meaning it lasted about 2.5 months. She dumped me and it hurt like hell since I really liked her and got attached. Since the break-up I've done the whole NC thing as is suggested time and time again on these forums (which were a TREMENDOUS help). I feel as though I'm over it and still have not talked to her at ALL. She did initiate contect with me 2 weeks after the break-up via email asking how I was, etc. etc.. I responded to it, but I did so a day later and kept it very, very short. Now, for some reason, I feel like a jerk for blowing her off. I've gotten past the shock and the anger stage. I'm not depressed or sad any longer as I've been very busy with working and being in school, but for some reason I feel bad for ignoring her. I used to wonder what she'd be doing on the weekends (when we'd see each other the most) and I'd get all suspicious and pissy about it. I pictured her going out with her friends and getting chatted up by other guys, going on dates, etc. Then I hear from a good friend of mine whose dating my ex's best friend that she hasn't gone out much and mostly stays home on the weekends. I've been going out trying to get over it, and I assumed she'd be doing the same. But she hasn't according to what I'm hearing and now I feel bad...because, nobody should have to really stay home and sulk with no friends. That sucks. I dunno...is it normal to feel bad for doing the NC thing after awhile?
westernxer Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 It's normal since you're not completely over it. But remember, she dumped you...
visotech Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 I used to wonder what she'd be doing on the weekends (when we'd see each other the most) and I'd get all suspicious and pissy about it. I pictured her going out with her friends and getting chatted up by other guys, going on dates, etc. I soo know what you mean...Im spending most of this weekend doing homework (procrastination has seriously caught up with me) and she is out visiting her friend for a 4 day break...Although she assured me that its too early for her to go out and get into something, I just can't stand the idea that shes getting hit on, shes chatting with guys, and who knows what else it can lead to...More than anything I'm scared for her rather then jelous, maybe as a father would be protective of his daughter. I know I lost her, but I want to see her happy and with the right person, but "Oh, baby, baby, it's a wild world".
Author Pantero Posted April 30, 2006 Author Posted April 30, 2006 But remember, she dumped you... Point taken, sir. I suppose if she's got something to say, she knows how to contact me. Other than that... Visotech: I see where you're coming from. It's strange though. In order to move on, you've got to kind of "demonize" your ex and knock them off that pedestal you had them on before. It's hard to do since some feelings might still be lingering. Eh, what can ya do but move on, right? Good luck to you.
BBetsy Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 You're not being a prick, you're taking care of yourself and your own heart - something your ex failed to do, even though she probably promised to at one time...
whichwayisup Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 You still have feelings for her so ofcourse you're going to be concerned for her, but with that being said, she did break up with you and hasn't tried to pursue you again in that way, right? You can't control what she does, or how she is handling this. It's by her choice that she's sitting at home sulking. You can't fix this and you shouldn't try. Look out for yourself and hopefully she'll do the same for herself.
Author Pantero Posted April 30, 2006 Author Posted April 30, 2006 Whichwayisup: No, she hasn't tried to make contact or pursue anything further. Thanks everyone, for your advice.
Mary3 Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 Hello all. I've been lurking on these forums for quite awhile and decided to post. My g/f and I broke up about 2 months ago. It was a short-term relationship meaning it lasted about 2.5 months. She dumped me and it hurt like hell since I really liked her and got attached. Since the break-up I've done the whole NC thing as is suggested time and time again on these forums (which were a TREMENDOUS help). I feel as though I'm over it and still have not talked to her at ALL. She did initiate contect with me 2 weeks after the break-up via email asking how I was, etc. etc.. I responded to it, but I did so a day later and kept it very, very short. Now, for some reason, I feel like a jerk for blowing her off. I've gotten past the shock and the anger stage. I'm not depressed or sad any longer as I've been very busy with working and being in school, but for some reason I feel bad for ignoring her. I used to wonder what she'd be doing on the weekends (when we'd see each other the most) and I'd get all suspicious and pissy about it. I pictured her going out with her friends and getting chatted up by other guys, going on dates, etc. Then I hear from a good friend of mine whose dating my ex's best friend that she hasn't gone out much and mostly stays home on the weekends. I've been going out trying to get over it, and I assumed she'd be doing the same. But she hasn't according to what I'm hearing and now I feel bad...because, nobody should have to really stay home and sulk with no friends. That sucks. I dunno...is it normal to feel bad for doing the NC thing after awhile? She dumped you by the roadside like a bag of trash. Why should you consider the feelings of someone who OBVIOUSLY did not care about your feelings at the time ?
Guest Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 Uhm..if you found out that she indeed was happy and going out with friends and what not. You would have felt bad too. Its her life
JJx23 Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 It's hard to get over something like that, but there are millions of fish in the sea, and as tough as it may be for you, you'll get over it. I would still talk to her though, if you're really interested her, maybe you'll get back together.
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