KittenMoon Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 Two stories: ------- Went to coffee with a friend last night. Wasn't going to talk about my ex, didn't want to talk about my ex, and then DAMMIT, we were talking about my ex. Anyways, we talked about relationships in general and she told me about the brother of a friend of ours, who I have met briefly. This guy had a fiance for a while, they were all set to be married. Then one day, totally without warning, he came home and found all her stuff gone and a "Dear John" note. She had basically gone back to her parents. He decided if she was going to be like that, then to screw her. He threw himself into school; later on, met a great girl, had an adorable baby with her, and now they are happily married. ------ Later on that evening, I talked to my mom. Somehow she had forgotten to tell me this story about a couple we know (her good friends and people who I had baby sat for in high school), but had been reminded of it while recounting my recent break up to the wife. So this couple too was engaged to be married. Then, suddenly, the guy broke it off and began dating another woman. My mother's jilted friend also began dating another guy, but made it clear to him it wasn't serious (my mother actually used the phrase "boy toy" to decribe it ). Anyways, six months or a year down the line these two reconciled, having learned the grass was not greener, having grown emotionally in their time apart, and have now been married for quite a while (not exactly sure how long but between 12-15 years at least) and have two beautiful daughters. -------- So I guess my point is that happy endings can come out of any situation. What made you happy might make you sad, only to make you realize down the line there was something better waiting. Or maybe that good thing really was a good thing and time will not only fix it, but make it work better. Anything is possible.
shelters Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 Thanks for this thread, KM. That 'have faith' attitude is what has really helped me these past two weeks since I went NC. I've been doing pretty darn well actually up until today. Today was a significant day, one that I thought just maaaybe would result in contact from my ex. Even though 99% of me knew he would not be reaching out to me today, that 1% has been enough to cause that lump to return to my throat. On my way home from work I even had this stupid vision that he might be at my place ready to share a bottle of red wine & make dinner together like we usually would do. Bah! I'm glad there is no significance to tomorrow at least. Onward! Thanks again for this thread. Needed the reminder.
Author KittenMoon Posted April 29, 2006 Author Posted April 29, 2006 Thanks for this thread, KM. That 'have faith' attitude is what has really helped me these past two weeks since I went NC. I've been doing pretty darn well actually up until today. Today was a significant day, one that I thought just maaaybe would result in contact from my ex. Even though 99% of me knew he would not be reaching out to me today, that 1% has been enough to cause that lump to return to my throat. On my way home from work I even had this stupid vision that he might be at my place ready to share a bottle of red wine & make dinner together like we usually would do. Bah! I'm glad there is no significance to tomorrow at least. Onward! Thanks again for this thread. Needed the reminder. Everyday I still wish for some contact: will he email me, call me, be at my place when I get home, with dozens of roses and apologies and a magic wand that solves all our problems..... etc etc etc. ANd yet, when faced with the idea of seeing him.... I know I don't want to. Not yet, I;m not strong enough. I feel your pain, hon.
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