kubic2 Posted April 28, 2006 Posted April 28, 2006 If a girl tells you that she just can't have a boyfriend ( meaning you has her boyfriend ) because she has too much to worry about in her life, and believe me she does. But she never said we're through or any other typical "I'm dumping you phrases" She even told me that she still likes me but we need to be friends right now what does this mean Do I still have a chance in the future??
NightsInWhiteSatin Posted April 28, 2006 Posted April 28, 2006 im in a pretty similar situation as you...just wanna give you a *hug* not much helpful advice i can give you here...cant even help myself...sorry
gfto Posted April 28, 2006 Posted April 28, 2006 If a girl tells you that she just can't have a boyfriend ( meaning you has her boyfriend ) because she has too much to worry about in her life, and believe me she does. But she never said we're through or any other typical "I'm dumping you phrases" She even told me that she still likes me but we need to be friends right now what does this mean Do I still have a chance in the future?? "I just can't have a boyfriend" IS a typical "I'm dumping you" phrase! They ALWAYS tell you they still like you and want to be friends. What does it mean, you ask? It means, "I'm finished with you; leave me alone." Do you still have a chance in the future? Not with this girl. Sorry.
Author kubic2 Posted April 29, 2006 Author Posted April 29, 2006 Do you guys think if I talk to her mother about what happened would it help? Her mom loves me and my family and the only reason I want to is because she ( my ex ) was wrong about a lot of things. I don't mean wrong just misunderstood -basically she thought she was obligated to see me every night not true at all actually I felt I needed to see her every night or she get upset with me -She said I can't dwell on my past I only brought it up because she was doing to me what every girl has in the past -Lastly I got mad at her for "flaking out" on dates we set I was scared she was thinking about going back with her ex-boyfriend ( she did that to me in the beginning of our relationship )
Pantero Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 To me, "not wanting a boyfriend right now" translates to she doesn't want YOU as a boyfriend. I could be wrong, but that's the way I would've taken a comment like that. You obviously care for her so if you're fine with the current status quo (as luvmy2ns said), then stick it out and see where it goes. Chances of you two being together in the future are totally up to the both of you, though I don't know if it will happen. I don't want to say NO, and discourage any potential and I don't want to tell you YES, and give you false hope. Take it one step at a time and let us know how it turns out. Good luck!
JJx23 Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 Usually when they say that they either mean they are not interested in a relationship with you or that they aren't ready. I've noticed this with a couple of my friends and it's hurtful, but you could give it time and get to know the person.
MadDog Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 "I just can't have a boyfriend" IS a typical "I'm dumping you" phrase! They ALWAYS tell you they still like you and want to be friends. What does it mean, you ask? It means, "I'm finished with you; leave me alone." Do you still have a chance in the future? Not with this girl. Sorry. Yup. I agree with this analysis. Think about it. If a girl is into you, she'll never be too busy for you. She's only too busy to be in a relationship with you because for her, what she gets out of being with you isn't worth the time and effort. If she had just gotten out of a relationship, that's one thing but just being busy isn't a good excuse. Don't talk to her mom (makes you seem desperate.) Just part ways, wish her the best, and find another girl.
blind_otter Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 Yup. I agree with this analysis. Think about it. If a girl is into you, she'll never be too busy for you. She's only too busy to be in a relationship with you because for her, what she gets out of being with you isn't worth the time and effort. If she had just gotten out of a relationship, that's one thing but just being busy isn't a good excuse. Don't talk to her mom (makes you seem desperate.) Just part ways, wish her the best, and find another girl. I dunno. Dealing with my Dad's serious illness has made me think that there are some phases of your life where it's really not possible to deal with a relationship that is in it's early stages, or starting a new relationship. I couldn't handle starting a new relationship right now, no way, no how. So I can see not being too busy, but having too much on your "emotional plate" so to speak.
Guest Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 If a girl tells you that she just can't have a boyfriend ( meaning you has her boyfriend ) because she has too much to worry about in her life, and believe me she does. But she never said we're through or any other typical "I'm dumping you phrases" She even told me that she still likes me but we need to be friends right now what does this mean Do I still have a chance in the future?? I am going thru the same situation right now and I think that its best to ask him why she thinks that. and you guys should have a heart to heart convo..
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