whichwayisup Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 Remember, men can have sex without 'feelings'... It still doesn't mean he's actually gay, he could be bi-sexual. I don't know, only HE knows. I see your point though.
Author BUTAFLY Posted April 29, 2006 Author Posted April 29, 2006 Butafly, That coworker is GAY... all the way!!! But he is in a very deep denial. No way would a straight guy want to join in a homosexual sex. I think the tall tail sign was having the girlfriend use a dildo on him. now that he is having gay sex.. i don't see how thats not gay or the very least bi. my friend makes the same point as wichwayisup makes...men can have sex without feelings. any way the argument started because I say tell the gf her boyfriend is gay...thus the argument ensued he was not gay and she doesn't need to know.
whichwayisup Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 I think she should be made aware, if anything, that he IS bi-sexual and experimenting...Still doesn't mean he's gay. And I also hope he's using condoms and protecting himself.
Pendawn Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 I think the tall tail sign was having the girlfriend use a dildo on him. now that he is having gay sex.. i don't see how thats not gay or the very least bi. Because it does not in any way mean that the man wants to have a man attached to the dildo or that they wnat relationships with men - THAt is what makes a man gay/bi. If a lesbian uses a dildo does that make her straight becuase she wansts omething vaguely penis shaped inside her? No it's do with what shapes bring pleaseure to our bodies, not which gender we are attracted to. But a guy having SEX with 2 men does likely make him possibly gay. But I think it's no-one's business expect the guy and his girl's unless he is cheating on her.
TeaCooler Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 for guys to fool around, it's "gay". for a bunch of girls...it's spring break. or tuesday evening happy hour. or whatever. all i can say though is that i have messed around with a few women, and it was never for love or about being a lesbian. curiosity, yes. experience, sure. attention, maybe. probably. in any case, i could not have a romantic relationship with another woman. so for me, people can mess around with whoever, but only they know how they truly feel about it.
visotech Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 Sexual activities don't make a person gay, its just another form of fulfilment. If you want a more than sexual relationship with exclusivly members of the same sex that makes you gay - this would be the same type of love relationship a man and woman would have. And with the same logic, it doesn't necessarily make you bi if you are just looking for sexual fulfilment. Also trying something doesn't mean you assume the title...Just because some of us have tried smoking marijuana does not make us drug addicts. The anus is a big center of nerves, and the prostate is the male g-spot. If you are a male, regaurdless of your sexual orientation, and learn to enjoy these for enjoyment, more power to you!
Author BUTAFLY Posted April 30, 2006 Author Posted April 30, 2006 Because it does not in any way mean that the man wants to have a man attached to the dildo or that they wnat relationships with men - THAt is what makes a man gay/bi. If a lesbian uses a dildo does that make her straight becuase she wansts omething vaguely penis shaped inside her? No it's do with what shapes bring pleaseure to our bodies, not which gender we are attracted to. But a guy having SEX with 2 men does likely make him possibly gay. But I think it's no-one's business expect the guy and his girl's unless he is cheating on her. Excellent Point!!! I get it now P.S. This is way past expiermenting...they have been sleeping together for almost a year. And no one is telling the girlfriend now that she is pregnant.
longlegzs80 Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 Not sure why it is disturbing, but putting my finger in someones pooper doesn't sound appealing. It doesn't sound gay though, but just a helpful suggestion from someone who used to work at an adult store, buy anal beads. Men get big time pleasure out of it, and make sure to do it slowly when pulling each bead out. And the beads into. Slow is a good thing. Is it gay if your b/f or husband askes to be penetrated in the rear by an object (dildo, finger, ect...) by his wife/gf?
mental_traveller Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 Is it gay if your b/f or husband askes to be penetrated in the rear by an object (dildo, finger, ect...) by his wife/gf? No, gay means you are attracted by the same sex and not by the opposite sex. Being into having things stuck up your ass is kinky rather than gay IMO.
mental_traveller Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 Thanks for your responses,but just to make it clear....Its ok if a women does it to him, but if a man does it, its gay? I'm having a huge debate with a friend of mine... I thought I would ask the peanut gallery the situation goes like this..... one of my best guy friends who is openly gay let a straight co-worker move into his apartment after the coworker got kicked out of his girlfriends home. one night my friend and his boyfriend began to fool around in their bedroom while the coworker was asleep on the living room. all of the sudden my friend hears the coworker walking around so they stop. (didn't want him to her them having 'gay sex' its likely to freak him out.) so they get up and join him in the livingroom and watch TV. the cowork did hear them and started asking questions a neive straight person would ask about gay sex. he shares with them that he lets his girlfriend penetrate him and he likes it. later that night my friend and his boyfriend go back to their bedroom and begin to quietly fool around and they coworker askes to join in. My friend wouldn't give me details but I figure he penetrated the straight coworker. Now ... I say He ibeen gay all along and this was his opportunity, or at the very least experimenting with his sexuality. My gay friend says the coworker is straight and many straight men like being penetrated,( by a man or women) it doesn't make him gay. well he moved out of their apartment but still hangout and have sex from time to time. ps. he is back with the girlfriend and she is pregnant. If a gay takes it from a guy, he's either gay or bi. Straight men don't willingly take other men's dicks up their ass.
darrren12000 Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 Is it gay if your b/f or husband askes to be penetrated in the rear by an object (dildo, finger, ect...) by his wife/gf? no -- i'm gay and i dont want a woman to penetrate me with an object....i dont even want a man to do that.
burning 4 revenge Posted May 3, 2006 Posted May 3, 2006 I still think it's kind of gay. He wants to be the reciever instead of the giver. How long before he wants a dildo with skin on it?
darrren12000 Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 I still think it's kind of gay. He wants to be the reciever instead of the giver. How long before he wants a dildo with skin on it? trust me, it dont work like that.....being gay really isnt all about sex. i knew i was just because of the emotions i had for other guys. and i NEVER wanted women to "insert" anything in me...i think that's the major distinction here.
Author BUTAFLY Posted May 9, 2006 Author Posted May 9, 2006 trust me, it dont work like that.....being gay really isnt all about sex. i knew i was just because of the emotions i had for other guys. and i NEVER wanted women to "insert" anything in me...i think that's the major distinction here. explain the phenomenon of men being on the "down low"?
ms_jnj Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 Joder = F**k around in a non sexual way No jodas = Stop F**king around I swear i only curse at these damn FLORIDA tourists "Chinga tu madre" --- That one is my favorite. Though I don't know if I spelled it right.
darrren12000 Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 explain the phenomenon of men being on the "down low"? it used to be called the closet, now it's the downlow. lol. well, a downlow guy doesnt want his female partner to "f***" him, instead he wants a guy to do that. these are the married men who go to gay clubs, bars, theatres, cruisy areas, or who use male escorts. they want MEN, and there is a huge market for men sexually. a man who simply wants his wife to penetrate is prostate is just being a man. it is very sensitive and a turnon. if he wanted another man to do this, then that would be different. Ps: many downlow men are BISEXUAL . bisexuality does exist and all of the drama about the DL seems to assume that there are only two sexual identities -- heterosexual or gay. that is just extremism.
933KJL Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 I will chime in here. I thin k that he was horny and vulnerable the first time and opportunity presented itself to explore something new and possibly intriguing. At this point, I chalk that up to simple experimentation--maybe coupled with a gay or bi fantasy. FANTASY FULFILLED. Now, that he is back with his woman and has her knocked up--obviously he is capable of being aroused by a woman. Hence, not gay--per definition. But, since he is still smuggling bones on the side, it also indicates that he is aroused by men as well. I say he is bisexual. Nothing wrong with that at all if that is what he enjoys. But again, he should make his GF aware.
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