Rand Posted April 28, 2006 Posted April 28, 2006 Hello There: I really need your advice here. About 6 months ago a good friend of mine called me and told me that she was in love with me; over the next months we began talking to each other, emailing, etc and the words and emotions that were expressed were very intense. My friend told me that she has had a "hopeless marrriage" for years and that she was going to leave him regardless when the youngest son turns 18 (they have two kids aged 17 and 14). In the meantime we could fly back and forth to see each other because she wants to be near her kids. She anyway told her husband that she was going to leave him and get a place of her own and just a week after that she was involved in a car accident. The problem is that she has dizzy spells and can't drive (she must drive to and from work) and because she has no family where she lives (I live in Seattle, she lives in SF) she has now attempting to 'reconsile" with her husband because she has nowhere to turn to. To say that I was very sad was an understatment because I really do love her and the fact that she was willing to leave him and move to a new place shows that she was serious. Then about two weeks ago she calls me and tells me that I have not been giving her support, etc. (It's not like I can exactly phone her at the family apartment or spend an hour on the phone during work.) She told me that she didn't want to talk to me. Two days after tearing me up she calls me to see how I'm doing and if I'm ok. Help me out here because I'm really confused... - What do you think the odds of them reconciling are? Will they divorce or will they muddle through for the next few years until the kids leave for college and then go their seperate ways? - Why does she freak out on me telling me she doesn't want to talk to me ever again and then two days later calls me? Do you think she's either feeling guilty or worse :unstable? - I have persued a NC policy because I can't be there if she wants to reconcile but at the same time it doesn't appear to be a real reconciliation but funnier things have happened. My friends tell me the marriage is doomed no matter what. - Also because of the past nature/problems of the marriage, there maybe a lot more issues under the surface. Help...
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