silentcharon Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 To make a story short: My best friend broke up with his ex, Rob about six months ago, they dated for two years. She says that she was never in love with Rob, and eventually got tired of the relationship. Rob was in love with her, and was devastated by the break up. I'm assuming he initated somewhat a limited nc on her, for this reason. Tonight, I was sitting beside her at this computer while she chatted on msn. R was online and she im'ed him, I told her not to (I recently broke up with my bf of 7 years so I know how R feels about my best friend, and I disagree with her breaking R's wish for nc.) but she went ahead and imed him anyway. I'm going to post the convo, and I was wondering what you guys make of this convo. Let me know if my feelings are unreasonable, because my best friend thinks I'm unreasonable. I think what she is doing is cruel. My name: Shannon Best friend: ~ Dee ~ says: R: Rob - One Day at a Time. says: Rob - One Day at a Time. says: why cause your ready to move on and u want me to be so you dont have to feel bad about dating ~ DEE ~ says: now or never ~ DEE ~ says: yeas Shannon says: oh ouch Shannon says: just stop talking to rob Shannon says: he's obviously not ready Shannon says: seriously it's kinda cruel to rob Rob - One Day at a Time. says: so you have met someone ~ DEE ~ says: i meet ppl all the time just like you ~ DEE ~ says: i just wanna know why the messages i get from you keep coming ~ DEE ~ says: you''re leaving youre dissappearing .. do you want me to do wave bye ~ DEE ~ says: why do you tell me things like that ~ DEE ~ says: shannon it'll hurt him more if he finds out 6 months from now that i've been with ryan for the last 6 months and didn't tell him Shannon says: i know ~ DEE ~ says: so i want to know this eamil is about so i can close it and tell him ~ DEE ~ says: Rob - One Day at a Time. says: part of me wants to never speak to you again. and part of me cant let go of you because contrary to you believe i was very much IN love with you and you fell out of love a long time ago. Shannon says: what is the email about ~ DEE ~ says: i dunno ~ DEE ~ says: that's i am trying to get out of him Shannon says: ok i'm confused Shannon says: who emailed him ~ DEE ~ says: i'll explain r but this is he does to me Rob - One Day at a Time. says: so some days i only of you and other days i of only how much i hate you for some of the you put me through. ~ DEE ~ says: fair enough but you said you had somethings to say so just say them Rob - One Day at a Time. says: so I really dont f***ing now how i feel about everything yet and thats the f***ing reason i cant ever finish this f***ing email now will you stop bothering me about it cause it sure as f*** aint helping Rob - One Day at a Time. says: dissapear as in change my number and not talk to you for a long time. but i cant do that either because i cant imagine my life withou without you being a part of it. DEE ~ says: ok i want to know caus ei it's the right thing to know and i want to know now before i hurt you in a way i don't want to hurt you and if you put it off it'll backfire so just tell me now or never and if you ch se never then you can't get mad ever Rob - One Day at a Time. says: ive basically just said everything i wanted to say aside from petty details which i call the little things but you have no idea they are. ~ DEE ~ says: are you done with me or do you want something still Rob - One Day at a Time. says: basically the little things amount ot why im still in love with you, but you dont that all you is how it needs to be a certain way that you have predetermined and there is no compromise ~ DEE ~ says: becasue you don't call you get mad if i call you then you say you got things to say but you won't f***ing say them do you want me to come back and say it's ~ DEE ~ says: it's ok ~ DEE ~ says: and drop this i have put you thro crap ~ DEE ~ says: you are equally guilty Rob - One Day at a Time. says: you still dont get it Rob - One Day at a Time. says: all the you put me through i really dont get mad about or hold against you. all i remember from us is the things that made me so happy. ~ DEE ~ says: i was never hapy DEE ~ says: maybe when i was drunk i was happiest and that's not even real ~ DEE ~ says: ask anyone rob seriously Shannon says: just let him finish writing the email ~ DEE ~ says: DEE ~ says: i haven't been this happy now as i am in 4 years Shannon says: you broke up with him, are you trying to see if he wnats you back or what ~ DEE ~ says: yeah Rob - One Day at a Time. says: us running after mikka and me falling in the mud, coming home after work with you sleeping in bed and getting to hold you and smile as i watched you sleep sleepovers at your apartment with the kitties on the bed, play fighting with you for no reason at all, getting hi with you and laughing at everything, going to ferry corsten, going camping with you, the l k on yo our face when you got your ring. Rob - One Day at a Time. says: THATS the i remember. ~ DEE ~ says: and i remeber that t Rob - One Day at a Time. says: but if youll excuse me i need to log off now because i refuse to become emotional right now, and cry. ~ DEE ~ says: i really do rob but those feeling didn't stay they were there temporarly ~ DEE ~ says: and i rest my case ~ DEE ~ says: you would know best when was i happy with him ~ DEE ~ says: and how often was i sober with him ~ DEE ~ says: i really wanna tell him i'm sleeping with someone for f*** sakes and he s i don't care about his feelings ~ DEE ~ says: i wanna know 's going on with him before i tell him ~ DEE ~ says: if he says he's done great i'll tell him if he says he's not the great i'll tell him well ~ DEE ~ says: meet ryan . ~ DEE ~ says: he's like you but meanrer ~ DEE ~ says: won't let it go ~ DEE ~ says: you just try to be there all the time and make it work he tells me he's not done yet he doesn't try anything then gets mad if i talk to another penis ~ DEE ~ says: ahhhhhhhhh ~ DEE ~ says: but he wants me there i'm off now so.. ~ DEE ~ says: remeber when i said it's gonna hurt when richard f***s a new chick well i'm there now and i'm trtying to soften the blow ~ DEE ~ says: but he's threatening me with losin ghim but he doesn't want to let me go but he's not there and never is
lovelorcet Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 umm... sorry but what a bitch... I think she did Rob a favor by leaving him.
Author silentcharon Posted April 27, 2006 Author Posted April 27, 2006 yeah, apparently so. But I'm in a bit of a bind, my friend thinks I'm being unreasonable for getting upset with her. How do I explain it to her that she needs to spare Rob some room and stop coming back to fish??? I don't want to have this come in between us!
KittenMoon Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 She sounds like a c*nt and her new bf sounds like a tool. Tell your friend about what's going on and tell him to cut her out of his life forever!
Author silentcharon Posted April 27, 2006 Author Posted April 27, 2006 yeah, I did, I told her to give Rob a break. He's obviously not over her and she's calling him to see how he's doing so she can tell him she's seeing someone else now. I disagree with what she's doing, she thinks that he'll be more hurt six months down the road if he doesn't find out NOW. I told her, yes, that's true but he's not calling her, so I thought that she shouldn't be volunteering that information. I imed Rob and told him that if he was trying to move on, it would be best if he didn't answer any of my friend's calls/emails or texts. He is so upset with my friend right now, he was doing okay for a few months until now. I'm not exactly friends with Rob, I only know him through my best friend. I just feel sympathy for this guy and my friend's mad at me for that, for not being on her "side" or whatever the heck that means. Has anyone had a similiar thing happen???
BBetsy Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 You shouldn't get too involved. NOw you know what kind of person your "friend" is and let it go at that. If you get in the middle of their thing, you'll regret it later.
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