Dagny Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 My favorite movie was Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. It was just a very beautiful movie, and the message was pretty cool. It did not matter that their very very flawed relationship did not work out like a fairy tale ending, it mattered that once they loved each other and they had great memories. For that, it was worth it. Even if she will one day grow bored of him and he will resent her for her wild ways. I really liked that, because then to me my memories were special. A first kiss under a rainbow with boy number 1, holding boy number 2 as he cries, they come and go though. Its funny how those memories never seemed to hold them. Its just though funny how over the years, as more people come in and out of your life, those memories start to fade. They were special once, but they just were'nt anymore. How many kisses to different people do you give before it just becomes a kiss? Its like a blur of faces in and out, taking a piece of your heart. How much more heart do you have to give to someone new? You then learn to be careful and depend on yourself. And with so many "special" memories, which one is truly special? It took a certain naivety to really believe in rainbows. When you lose it, you're just surprised when you fall and get hurt all over again. I think I'm just mourning the loss of that naivety instead of concentrating on Arbitrage Pricing Theory. Random thoughts.
MadDog Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 I think the "truly special" memories end up being the ones associated with the person you eventually end up loving for a long time. Of course, lots of people never end up in this situation so they're left with fading memories, like you said. The human mind is a funny thing when it comes to memories. They are constantly being modified depending on the context of what's happened between the time the memory was made and the present. For example, a first kiss might be the best memory of your life until you realize you can't stand the person. Then it becomes a "what was I thinking?" memory. Conversely, what used to be bad memories can change to neutral or good in retrospect. Like the memory of breaking up with my ex sucked until I met a special girl a little while down the line. Now I'm really glad the breakup happened because otherwise I would have never found the new girl.
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