Playingtowin Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 I am a divorced male who is financially very secure with my own business, very nice home, and very very nice car. I believe that I am confident with woman, although I do not think that I am confident to the point of being cocky. I started dating a very attractive woman about 4 months ago. In my book she is a near perfect "10" In my recent past relationships, I have always found the woman to be quite emotionally needy, and I have felt pretty much "in control" of the relationship. Perhaps in my recent past relationship, I was in emotional control because I really did not fall in love. In this relationship, I have been open with her, and told her that I think she is beautiful, and we have gotten past the stage where we both say that we love one another. I feel that perhaps that I may care for her more than she cares for me, and it makes me feel uncomfortable, because quite frankly I like being in control of all aspects of my life. I have tried withdrawing from the relationship somewhat (Not calling as frequently, not emailing as much), and she has responded by complaining that she has noticed that I have withdrawn somewhat, but has reciprocated by also withdrawing somewhat. I tried withdrawing somewhat not because I wanted to play a game, but because I know that it is a turn-off to either a man or a woman when a partner becomes too needy or clingy. It is interesting that she has told me on one occasion that she also fears that she cares for me than I care for her. Quite frankly I have a hard time believing that based on the fact that I am almost the one calling her, and emailing her first. Quite frankly, I am not interested in playing a game, I am indeed interested in a long-term relationship leading to marriage. We have both agreed that this is the goal in our relationship. How would others proceed in this apparent stand-off.
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