Guest Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Ok. I caught my husband talking to another gal on his cell and through email. I saw a very flirtatious email between the two of them, put two and two together and checked our phone records and text message records... In the email that I saw she was basically saying its been a while since they chatted and for him to call her... He sent a email back and said 'ya, let's make your dream a reality, haahaa'... So that lead me to believe that she had been telling him that she had a dream about him, ect ect.... This is the same woman that a few weeks before I saw a text message on his phone and she said to him ' you are playing hooky from work playing golf huh???' and he replied 'I'm not playing hookie, your the hooker!"... When I saw the hooker text message weeks before I wrote her number down and low and behold it was the same number in the phone records and the person in the 'dream' email... I called this girl and she said it was totally innocent, that she had met him when he was networking at a gathering one evening, he had given her his card, and she called him because they knew a mutual friend... She said 'it was just flirtation'.. and that she knew he was married with two young children. She said she had never met up with him except that one night where she met him... that it was all phone conversations. So, making a long story short, he admitted to talking to her and said he was sorry and he knew it was wrong.. he also said he was feeling guilty and had cut off conversations with her until she emailed him that day I found the email... (ya he's so guilty he's telling her he wants to make her dream a reality!)... anyway, he says he's all bark no bite... He said he's totally in love with me, loves our sex life and that this was 'all ego' on his part. He admitted that it was wrong but that it felt good talking to someone with no strings attached that he could bs with and float his ego a bit. I think its totally inappropriate. It made me feel sick to my stomach that I'm at home taking care of our kids, have sacrificed a career to do this while my husband is out meeting cute girls and getting ego boost from talking inappropriately with them. I really have true trust issues with him now and don't trust his intentions. If I hadn't caught him who knows where this would have gone. The phone records indicate them talking everyother day or so, text messaging ect for a couple months.... The phone conversations wern't very long, maybe minute to 5 minutes tops but it still bugs me. He says he would have never 'met up' with this gal, that it was all talk. He said he is in love with me, loves our sex life, ect ect and wouldn't ruin our marriage... He's ALL BARK NO BITE he says... I feel disgusted... is he lying??? what should I do? I'm reaelly confused. fcr
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