sunnie23 Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 on saturday i called my boyfriend to see what he was up to that night. He had a tux fitting, one of his best friends is getting married. He told me that the guys were going to have a barbeque after and chill at the groom-to-be's house, so I made plans with my girls. the next morning (sunday) i checked my phone, he had sent me a txt that said "miss ya". i thought that was really cute, i love it when he does stuff like that. So on Sunday I called him. he was super hung over. he said him and the guys drank a lot more than usual and he was sick. we talked for a little bit and he let me go so he could go back to bed. on monday we talked through txt's during the day and made plans to hang out last night. i called him before i came over and he mentioned how bad his eye looked. i asked him what was wrong with it and he said "i thought i told you?" i said, no, and he said "i have a black eye...i got in a fight on saturday." i was shocked. this guy is the most laid back easy to get along with person i have ever met. i asked him when it happened and he said saturday. thinking he had spent the night at his friends i asked who he fought - he said some jerk i don't know. i asked where it happened and he named a pool hall that's in his neighbourhood. he asked me again if he had already told me this, and i said no. you told me you stayed at ken's all night. so i let him go because i was mad that he lied to me. when i got to his house he told me that he had completely forgot about the black eye and didn't remember until he got out of bed and saw it the next day, that it didnt hurt and it wasn't puffy or anything. he says that he can't remember anything about the fight except who it was with. he can't remember how it got started. i asked him why he didn't tell me and he said he completely thought he did. he said he might have still been drunk when we talked the next day. i told him that he lied to me about staying at his friends and he said sarah, i swear, i thought i told you everything. i don't know what to make of this. i believe him but then i think if i do i'm an idiot. we talked about it last night so i don't want to beat a dead horse but i'm still feeling uneasy about the whole thing. i don't want him to think he can lie to me but if he's telling the truth it wasn't a lie just a mistake...
catgirl1927 Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 It doesn't sound like he did anything wrong, so why would he lie? It just doesn't seem there's anything to cover up, which makes me think he did just forget. Although, if your eye is bruised and throbbing, you don't really forget. But still, boys go out and just because he didn't stay at his friend's house all evening isn't anything bad. I think you're overreacting and worrying about nothing.
tikigods Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 as someone who has been super hungover before I will say that it is very easy to forget what you tell people while you are still recovering the next day ;D that being said, it sounds like he was just super tired hungover and just wanted to sleep. When he woke up he told you what was going on and didn't try to hide a thing.
aleatoryd Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Okay let me ask a question: how would you react if he ate a burger and said it was a hamburger but you could smell the cheese and knew it was a cheeseburger. He lied to you. Or maybe it doesn't matter. I think he genuinely forgot - haven't you ever forgotten when a library book is due back, or to write a letter to some aunt thanking her for a lovely pair of socks, or to water the plants... etc etc I don't think your boyfriend is lying he just forgot it happens. If you still aren't happy about it then break up and find someone who never makes a mistake and you have 100% confidence that they aren't going to forget. When people are drunk they forget things. When you forget things they seem less important. I suggest you forget about this whole thing and drop the issue. It sounds like you know that's what you should do anyway. No harm in having concerns but don't over react. I agree that trust is crucial to a relationship but so is understanding. Take care.
MadDog Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 There is no motivation for him to lie to you therefore he probably isn't lying to you. Obvious logical conclusion.
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