littlepiggy1 Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 *sigh* The past week has just sucked. First I find out that my ex had "met" someone. Then I had to see her again to pick up various stuff she still had. Then I found out that she definitely has a new b/f. And today she calls me... (I don't have caller ID so I couldn't screen it). We talked a bit. I told her I wasn't over her yet and that hearing she had a new b/f was rough, along with seeing her and being at her place again. She admitted that she isn't over things either and that maybe this new b/f is merely her way of "dealing with it". I admitted I had hopped on the dating site because I didn't want to come off as a hypocrite. But I know that I am not really ready for anything new and being on that site has taught me that. She also did the same thing... She said she wasn't initially looking for anything either... Just did it to get attention. But this one guy caught her attention and I guess they have started dating... Finally, she asked if me not talking to her would be better. I told her, yeah, I can't heal and keep reminding myself of the good things we had together. I need to move on. So she's not going to contact me anymore (or so I hope for now). And I won't contact her. She sounded upset, though. In some ways, it felt like breaking up all over again. When we broke up what kept me going was the thought that at least she wasn't out of my life entirely and that maybe we could still remain friends on some level. But now... I think it's true what other people say. It just isn't possible. It sucks. Now I'm completely depressed all over again. Oh well, at least I know it will pass and I will be able to get on with my life... again.
lovelorcet Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 I know it sucks… I feel for you man, I really do. Opening up the lines of communication with the ex is really dangerous. I too would like to talk to her sometimes but then I always try to remind myself. Ok, if you talk to her you might feel better maybe even for only a second but in the end it is always the same. Making contact is like standing there with your legs wide open and say alright kick me in the nuts! At some point the foot lands and then you are in even more pain. Stick to NC and save your balls and most of all the heartache.
malcontent Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 My ex-gf had a new man a week after we broke up. We live in a small town and she was flaunting her new relationship all over the place. I told her I needed my time and space, but she refused to honor that. A couple of weekends after the break up, she called about six times and left these pathetic sounding messages, I didn't answer or return her calls. Then, at about one in the morning on Sunday night, my cell phone buzzed and like a fool I answered it. She proceeded to tell he how she was still totally in love with me and that she'd take me back in a second if things could be different. At first I felt better, because I felt like "well, at least she's suffering, too", but later I realized she was just manipulating me; having her cake and eating it, too, so to speak. I'm going on three weeks with no contact, other than seeing her out with her new guy (he's 61, she's 37). I didn't say anything, I just waved and went on my way. The last time she called was this past Sunday night. Up until that point she had been calling pretty much every day at least once and either leaving a message or just hanging up when my voicemail picked up. Monday I got into it a little bit with her new guy when I saw him out. He's a guy I've known my whole life and I feel like he disrespected my by working my gf while he knew we were still together - no matter how badly the relationship may have been going. I'm sure he told her I flipped him off and then gave him some s***. Unfortunately, that only gives her the satisfaction of knowing I'm still pissed about the way things went down. I really set myself back by letting my anger get the best of me. There's something really upsetting about having someone take your place so soon after you've left. Again, sorry for your situation. Don't contact her.
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