Another Love but not IN Love Story

[DesperateDad]

"""""Our conversations are really strange lately because she throws in all this stuff about how will she be sure I'll never cheat again or how will she be sure I'll never turn back into the ANGRY, DEPRESSED guy that I've been or how can she be sure we'll do better financially"""

 

Desperate Dad, pay close attention to your part in this mess, because in all honesty only you can change you/your will/and go to counseling to ensure that you don't do the things above that she's mentioning again. Take personal inventory, aplogize, and buy flowers, and give her space if she's needing it, I say....ask a counselor very quickly for advice and admit to her as part of your amends to contributing to this situation that your going into counseling and will ACTUALLY work on your ANGER(as I alluded to before) and you DEPREESSION(yes, it does affect others in your immediate house hold). Quit pretending as if pointing fingers at her, making demands(instead of requests) will somehow get you somewhere positive with her and START acting mature and like an appreciative spouse by buying flowers and writing reasons on long lists why you appreciate her and your grateful for HER in your life. :::::You get more bees with honey::::::

 

I will readily admit that I bear much of the fault in what is happening in my relationship and I've already talked about it a lot earlier in this thread. I'm not perfect, but I'm trying to be better.

 

I AM in individual counseling and I AM on antidepressants (I mentioned this above). I've read up on the love busters on marriagebuilders and I avoid those as much as possible. The ONLY demand I've made on her is to have NC with the OM. She gets as much space as she wants. I watch the kids several times a week while she goes out, shops, goes to meetings, sleeps in on the weekends, etc and I've also watched the children over night twice in the last two months so she could go away for activities with our oldest daughter and also with a mother's group (not with OM).

 

I can't lay on the affection stuff too thickly at this point because she doesn't take it well. I've been mainly focusing on being generally upbeat and avoiding angry outbursts, making demands and disrespect toward her. I demand that our children respect her as well.

 

This week has disrupted my plan A a bit and I'm going to make an effort to go back to it for a while and see how it turns out. I'm not being vindictive and I don't want to hurt my wife at all. If after I've given our marriage and family as much of a chance as I can and she still wants to go, I won't stop her.

[DesperateDad]

I don't know, DD. From where I sit, six months is a drop in the bucket. I've been married for a long time though. And having experienced marital recovery.... I've found it's a damn good place to be. Well worth the hassle.

 

Just take it a day or two at a time, and see where it goes. You don't have to make a decision on it today. Don't forget, some of the same stressful factors that are affecting your wife, are also affecting you. 5 little babies and a hormonal teenager are going to make for a hectic home life. Throw in a wayward wife.... and hey, you're lucky if you know your own name most days, let alone what you want to do with the rest of your life.

 

Hang in there, kiddo.

 

Thanks, LJ. You're the greatest!

[Mz. Pixie]

Yeah, more than 6 kids on a budget and she doesn't want to work??

 

OM cannot support her. Hasn't she said she has all these expectations of how she wants to live??

 

Give me a break, she'll never have them with him!

[Billy Bob]

Yeah, more than 6 kids on a budget and she doesn't want to work??

 

How could she, what would daycare be for 5 kids under 7 years old? Guess you could maybe get her to work nights.. but that wouldn't do much for the marriage.

 

DD, why the heck did you have 5 kids? Mormon?

[Lollie72]

DD, she needs to know you remember her and what she appreciates in life. Pick things she likes that are small, not just watching the kids...not sexual...her favorite candy if your filling up gas,...show her when she's not around, your thinking of her, and want to pamper her a bit....this isn't a whole lot of indulgence...but it's psychological, it's sends a message...(and remember, don't expect anything in return, don't resent (even if she's not thankful openly at first) and continue doing these things randomly, write a poem and leave it under her pillow, love her, as if she weren't a mother, as if she were a wife, and not showing love by just doing dad duties like baby sitting! These are two different things.

[DesperateDad]

How could she, what would daycare be for 5 kids under 7 years old? Guess you could maybe get her to work nights.. but that wouldn't do much for the marriage.

 

She has to realize there's only two options on the table for now: stay with me or try to make it work with the OM and hope he can hang. My attorney mentioned that the judge might require her to get a job. He didn't think the OM would want to support her either.

 

DD, why the heck did you have 5 kids? Mormon?

 

We both came from big families of 4 and 5 kids and we both wanted lots of kids. It HAS been really hard at times, but I don't regret having all the kids for an instant. I've talked to lots of older couples about it and have never heard anyone regret having too many kids, but plenty of times heard them say they wished they'd had more.

 

I know it makes the present situation all the harder, but that's life.

[DesperateDad]

DD, she needs to know you remember her and what she appreciates in life. Pick things she likes that are small, not just watching the kids...not sexual...her favorite candy if your filling up gas,...show her when she's not around, your thinking of her, and want to pamper her a bit....this isn't a whole lot of indulgence...but it's psychological, it's sends a message...(and remember, don't expect anything in return, don't resent (even if she's not thankful openly at first) and continue doing these things randomly, write a poem and leave it under her pillow, love her, as if she weren't a mother, as if she were a wife, and not showing love by just doing dad duties like baby sitting! These are two different things.

 

I have to tread very lightly when it comes to showing affection right now. Remember, she's in semi-withdrawal from the OM and still very angry with me. She's also still convinced that she no longer loves me and that our marriage is over. She's adamant that nothing will change her mind.

 

I'm working on being cheerful and solicitous of her needs as much as I can. I'll gradually try to ease back into some displays of affection and see how she takes it. I'm expecting this to take some time.

[Gunny376]

I have to tread very lightly when it comes to showing affection right now. Remember, she's in semi-withdrawal from the OM and still very angry with me. She's also still convinced that she no longer loves me and that our marriage is over. She's adamant that nothing will change her mind.

 

I'm working on being cheerful and solicitous of her needs as much as I can. I'll gradually try to ease back into some displays of affection and see how she takes it. I'm expecting this to take some time.

 

"Make it so, Number One!"

 

You're on track, man! Keep on keeping on doing!

[Gunny376]

While I agree with you more than I disagree, and completely agree with your stance when it comes to GF's, and most wives ~ and I hear you when you say "Stay with her because of HOW many children?"

 

But, DD in a 10 years+ marriage with six children and with all that comes with that. It took 10+ years to get up into "this" and he's only been up in the s*** for 2 months.

 

And, I hear you, when you say that at some point somehow, somewhere, DD's got to have some relief from all this BS! There ain't no doubt. But 2 months? 10 years? Six chldren? I'd have to ride this "bitch" {of a situation} to the ground ~ no matter how rough the ride.

 

Life's a struggle for everyone no matter who you are. You can bet your boots, hat, saddle, guns, and horse that Bill Gates is catching grief from his old lady about something!?

[Lollie72]

Life's a struggle for everyone no matter who you are. You can bet your boots, hat, saddle, guns, and horse that Bill Gates is catching grief from his old lady about something!?

 

LOL....good one..Yes, if I had kids like that I'd think, 6 times over before I'd give up. But sometime time apart, like staying with friends away helps both people think alone on the situation. And why not start a thread in the cheating/other men/women's sections of this chat board. Maybe you don't have all of the info. on why people cheat and what drives them into falling for others.....

[DesperateDad]

It's been a long weekend of babysitting and then last night partying with the neighbors. I drank a bit too much, but had a good time.

 

My wife had been gone from early morning Saturday to about 10pm Saturday night and then again Sunday morning until almost 6. She was at a meditation seminar of some kind. We had planned to do something with the neighbors and I went ahead and got it all going so when she came home there were a bunch of people there and we were having fun.

 

It was weird, though, because she kept shooting me these angry looks all evening and avoided me like the plague. I wasn't pursuing her at all, though. I did my best to be polite, but just focused on having a good time. I don't know what she was thinking.

 

Later last night, there were just a couple of the guys around and I mentioned in our conversation that we were having relationship problems and that the OM was somehow involved. I didn't disclose much at all, but I felt like I wanted to offer some explanation as to why he wasn't hanging around with us anymore because they had been asking about him. I don't know if this was the right thing to do, but maybe a little exposure will increase the pressure on them to stay away from each other. Did I do the wrong thing?

[Gunny376]

I don't think so ~ you didn't go into details ~ just eluded casually that "there were issues" - of course it'll spread like wildfire ~ if it hasn't already. They already had their suspciscions or they wouldn't have asked.

 

In the WW eyes, yes. But, WTF seems to me like everything your do or don't do is wrong in her eyes ~ to include the way you breath.

 

I was you 16 years ago when I was going through it ~ the guy that I've become because of the experience would put the WW to the curb quick, fast and in a hurry like with no hesitation ~ no regrets.

[Ladyjane14]

Later last night, there were just a couple of the guys around and I mentioned in our conversation that we were having relationship problems and that the OM was somehow involved. I didn't disclose much at all, but I felt like I wanted to offer some explanation as to why he wasn't hanging around with us anymore because they had been asking about him. I don't know if this was the right thing to do, but maybe a little exposure will increase the pressure on them to stay away from each other. Did I do the wrong thing?

 

She's going to be mad about exposure no matter how you do it. Just the glaring absence of the OM was enough to have her shooting dark looks at you. She knows that other people are going to notice that he's not there, and because her conscience is guilty, she'll picture the other neighbors imagining THE WORST.

 

No.... I don't think you did anything wrong. But don't expect your WW to see it that way!

 

 

 

I have two other words for ya..... Iced Tea.

Stay off the sauce until your home deal is straightened out. You'll feel better.

[Gunny376]

Just the glaring absence of the OM was enough to have her shooting dark looks at you. She knows that other people are going to notice that he's not there, and because her conscience is guilty, she'll picture the other neighbors imagining THE WORST.

 

Sign!!!! I have so much still to learn. When I read this part ~ I was WTF? But, as always you've hit the nail on the head ~ once again :bunny: :bunny: Five bunnies for that one

 

 

I have two other words for ya..... Iced Tea.

Stay off the sauce until your home deal is straightened out. You'll feel better.

 

For real! Talk about pouring gasoline on a raging fire of depression. That stuff is part of the problem not part of the solution! :bunny: :bunny:

[DesperateDad]

She's going to be mad about exposure no matter how you do it. Just the glaring absence of the OM was enough to have her shooting dark looks at you. She knows that other people are going to notice that he's not there, and because her conscience is guilty, she'll picture the other neighbors imagining THE WORST.

 

No.... I don't think you did anything wrong. But don't expect your WW to see it that way!

 

 

 

I have two other words for ya..... Iced Tea.

Stay off the sauce until your home deal is straightened out. You'll feel better.

 

Thanks for the advice (you, too, Gunny). You're probably right about the absence of the OM being a reason for her anger. This thing was originally supposed to happen on Friday and actually was supposed to include the OM. They started planning it without me and that was when I realized I couldn't keep going like this pretending it was okay.

 

I have to admit I'm feeling pretty shaky today. I hate having her angry with me. It's like I can feel it from a distance. I'm trying to stay cool and I'm not intending to contact her while I'm at work or be anything but upbeat and cheerful when I get home.

 

I'm getting really paranoid about her meeting him and contacting him, but I'm trying to always remember that she knows how I feel and there's nothing I can do about it if she does talk to him.

 

And you're both totally right about the drinking. I'm going to seriously tone it down or stop it for now. It also affects me a little more with the anti-depressants as well. Ugh.

[Billy Bob]

She's going to be mad about exposure no matter how you do it. Just the glaring absence of the OM was enough to have her shooting dark looks at you. She knows that other people are going to notice that he's not there, and because her conscience is guilty, she'll picture the other neighbors imagining THE WORST.

 

You let a little bit about the situation slip out to a few of the nosey neighbors....ahhh, I love it.. I think your on the right track here DD. Your finally past the point where you care what other people think, trust me she will aknowlege that fact... Keep the pressure coming, I think I hear a soft hissing.

[Gunny376]

]................................I think I hear a soft hissing[/i].

 

Yea! And, usually it the last thing you hear, just before a train runs over your azz, but in this case I do believe its more of the kind you hear when someone's fantasy bubble has sprung a leak!

 

Whooopppps! There it is!

 

So what if the WW gets pissed off? What she going to do? Let me see?

 

a. Get even more pissed off?

b. Have an affair with the neighbor next door?

c. Tell him the marriage is over?

d. Threaten to divorce him?

e. Yell and scream ~ fuss and fight?

f. Call him names?

g. Leave him for another man?

Besides, how can she lead the trail back to DD? In so long as DD keeps his mouth shut and becomes Joe Cool.

 

She's embarrsed? She should be, she ought to be! I would be as well lif it were me. What person in their rational mind wouldn't be?

 

One things for sure and certain ~ the other husbands around the "hood" will be keeping an eye on this joker ~ just to make sure their dogs are still barking when he comes around.

 

It'll be Fort Apache around there with the other wives ~ those couples are very aware of the "dommino syndrone". There's already one divorce (the OM and his wife) on the block, and now he's drug DD's household into it! They'll be circuling the wagons for sure and certain!

[DesperateDad]

Good one, Gunny. Tonight, though, she had her ring off for the first time ever. I was shocked by how much this hurt me. It was like a kick to the gut and I felt physically sick.

 

She was pretty cold to me, but seemed to cheer up a little as she saw that I was being nice and upbeat. It's hard to be mean to someone who's being nice to you.

 

I do think the fantasy bubble is springing leaks, but it's not going to die easy. I'm trying to hang in there, but tonight has been extremely tough. It was all I could do to maintain my composure through supper. I had to walk away for a few minutes and I read your last few posts here. That cheered me up enough to make it through the meal. Thanks, guys!

 

I'm still hanging in there. Day by day, minute by minute.

[Gunny376]

Blow it off man ~ you up the ante' ~ she called and up the ante' ~ blow it off ~ don't let her get in your kitchen (head) its all smoke ~ that's all she's got. She played her hand way early in the game.

 

The moment you get tired of all this s***e ~ (and she's driving and herding your there quick) and you get to the point to where you don't care if the sun comes up ~ she's for real got nothing.

 

I realize your trying to "hang in there" for you babies ~ but you do realize that there are people such as myself who don't have to deal with this s***.

 

But, kid yourself not, its taken me years to get the XW's meathooks out of my back. And, kid yourself not that single life ~ the bachelor life is all that its cracked up to be ~ and Hell I enjoy being by myself. I'm the kind your can put in a room by themseleves with nothing but a rubber ball and I'm good. Either lifestyle has its ups and downs. At least I'm not setting up nights wondering who my old lady is scroggin'

 

But what I'm realing posting about is to encourage you to keep your self esteem, pride, respect in tact. That's what really threw me under the bus ~ and I was the one that did it. The XW was a mistake of my youth ~ thing is it took me years to get my self esteem back.

 

Yea I went through the depresssion + the heavy drinking. But, there was a bunch of other incidents of the pitbull named Reality bitting me in the azz! The Storms of Life just kept coming and coming, and coming ~ like the Indians at Bull Run.

 

I'm going to give you something that took me years to realize. s*** happens! You can sit around on your azz could have, should have, would have, digging up bones, examining it, analysizing it, picking at it, taking it apart, and putting it back together again looking for the answer to "Why?"

 

People are always talking about getting couseling ~ theraphy and all that crap. I've been through some heavy s*** in my life and it all comes down to this:

 

What was ~ was!

What is ~ will be!

What will be will be!

 

Really bad s*** happens to good people.

 

Whatever s*** a person has been through ~ ain't nothing but a "thing" and it doesn't mean anything. Nothing! All that matters, regardless of what happened to you in your chldhod, your marriage, in combat ~ is what are you going to do about it right here and right now ~ that's all that matters ~ because right here and now is all you've got. You don't have the opportunity to go back and get it right ~ and as likely as not your azz may not be here tomorrow. All you've got is right here and right now ~ that's it ~ that's all any of us have got. Every morning you wake up alive ~ what you've got in this life has just been given back to you.

 

In retrospect ~ NOW ~ I've been through so much s*** ~ that I can walk through this life ~ in this country, the greatest country in the world with the attitude of: "Hey! I could give a f**k what life throws at me! F**k it! I'm alive!" Wife or GF bails on me ~ I know there are others just down the street and around the corner. I know there's a greater shortage of good men than there are of good women.

 

You're a good man DD, you've hanged when most would have long ago bailed! Even if it comes down to going through the Big "D" she'll have to look long and hard to find a man willing to take on her on those six children. Let alone a man of your characther. You've got Honor, characther, inegrity.

 

I know CTA and I sometimes come down on your azz, but in the end what you're doing isn't about you, your wife alone, its about being a part of something greater than just you an her, your marriage ~ its about those children and the family. You've saddled up and are "maning up" even if she can't see it.

 

I don't give guys bunnies, but to you my friend I'll give you five big Cool Dudes! :cool: :cool:

[iron_m]

I am amazed at how simmilar some cases are here. I have been following DD's case and despite differences I can not avoid seeing the simmilarities with my situation.

 

DD:

What you said about the wife getting mad about other people knowing what's going on is the same in my case. She's all pissed because of "what the other people may think of her" when they hear my version! man! she is not even comfortable telling hers . So, I see that you did the right thing here, you gave a vague explanation of the situation and noone can say you were unfair in the description of what's going on.

 

Second: the ring-off-thingie: It hurt me like hell also. But I know she's done it on purpose and I guess is the same in your case. Think about it... why now, why in this moment? So do not show your pain, let her think you didn't even noticed it. what else can you do? plus, other people will note it and she'll have to answer questions to other people about it, just pay atention and appear to be amused by her explanations. I bet they'll be "very creative" to say de least.

 

Third: about she having contact with OM, I feel for you. That's been a hard one for me. If you don't say anything and pretend not to be affected, then she takes more and more atributions and if you protest, then you have to confront her and argue with her about it (and you loose because it is her will).

 

fourth: she's angry with you... again very same thing here. She goes from "happy" (after chatting with OM) to angry (if she sees I am having good time without her) to sad (and comes crying that everyone will hate her for what she is doing) to angry again (saying that if someone hates her it is because I gave them "my version")... and there goes the cycle... It is very hard not to fall into the same cycle, but not imposible. Do not let her feeling to drive yours.

 

Lastly: drinking... do you know what my first hobby is? fishing. second? homebrewing. third? drinking my homebrew .

now, I have put drinking the HB on hold if I am alone (the after dinner desert HB has been banned for example)... sincerely I've never been drunk in my life, but loneliness and drinking are bad friends and I do not want to start drinking too much right now.

 

I have not stoped brewing though, so the stuff is accumulating... the friends happy, because they get an extra 6-p quite often .

 

hope you stay on course and things turn out the best for you and your kids.

[Ladyjane14]

Tonight, though, she had her ring off for the first time ever. I was shocked by how much this hurt me.

 

She's just trying to 'get your goat'. She's peeved and she's too chicken-sh*t to start something verbal with you. You did EXACTLY the right thing by blowing it off. You've very gallantly afforded her the opportunity to backpeddle. Good job!

 

p.s. I got a kick out of Gunny's post too.

One things for sure and certain ~ the other husbands around the "hood" will be keeping an eye on this joker ~ just to make sure their dogs are still barking when he comes around.

 

It'll be Fort Apache around there with the other wives ~ those couples are very aware of the "dommino syndrone". There's already one divorce (the OM and his wife) on the block, and now he's drug DD's household into it! They'll be circuling the wagons for sure and certain!

 

I can picture it now! :lmao:

[Billy Bob]

Originally Posted by DesperateDad

Tonight, though, she had her ring off for the first time ever. I was shocked by how much this hurt me.

 

Spot gold prices are at roughly $600/ounce.

 

Yeah, I think its funny, she's really running out of ammo now. DD, everything she's done has just been classic examples. I'm also surprised it took her this long to take the ring off, but then again if she was trying to maintain appearances..

 

It sounds like your chugging along with plan A, but it still seems to me reading your latest posts that the temperature is rising.

 

Hmmm, be interesting to put someone you know up to asking her why she isn't wearing her ring anymore.. be interesting to find out what she'd tell someone when your not around. Just a thought. Or better yet, have one of the neighborhood gals ask her if its true she's having an affair with OM!

 

Eh, maybe thats not good advice..

[DesperateDad]

Blow it off man ~ you up the ante' ~ she called and up the ante' ~ blow it off ~ don't let her get in your kitchen (head) its all smoke ~ that's all she's got. She played her hand way early in the game.

 

The moment you get tired of all this s***e ~ (and she's driving and herding your there quick) and you get to the point to where you don't care if the sun comes up ~ she's for real got nothing.

 

I realize your trying to "hang in there" for you babies ~ but you do realize that there are people such as myself who don't have to deal with this s***.

 

But, kid yourself not, its taken me years to get the XW's meathooks out of my back. And, kid yourself not that single life ~ the bachelor life is all that its cracked up to be ~ and Hell I enjoy being by myself. I'm the kind your can put in a room by themseleves with nothing but a rubber ball and I'm good. Either lifestyle has its ups and downs. At least I'm not setting up nights wondering who my old lady is scroggin'

 

But what I'm realing posting about is to encourage you to keep your self esteem, pride, respect in tact. That's what really threw me under the bus ~ and I was the one that did it. The XW was a mistake of my youth ~ thing is it took me years to get my self esteem back.

 

Yea I went through the depresssion + the heavy drinking. But, there was a bunch of other incidents of the pitbull named Reality bitting me in the azz! The Storms of Life just kept coming and coming, and coming ~ like the Indians at Bull Run.

 

I'm going to give you something that took me years to realize. s*** happens! You can sit around on your azz could have, should have, would have, digging up bones, examining it, analysizing it, picking at it, taking it apart, and putting it back together again looking for the answer to "Why?"

 

People are always talking about getting couseling ~ theraphy and all that crap. I've been through some heavy s*** in my life and it all comes down to this:

 

What was ~ was!

What is ~ will be!

What will be will be!

 

Really bad s*** happens to good people.

 

Whatever s*** a person has been through ~ ain't nothing but a "thing" and it doesn't mean anything. Nothing! All that matters, regardless of what happened to you in your chldhod, your marriage, in combat ~ is what are you going to do about it right here and right now ~ that's all that matters ~ because right here and now is all you've got. You don't have the opportunity to go back and get it right ~ and as likely as not your azz may not be here tomorrow. All you've got is right here and right now ~ that's it ~ that's all any of us have got. Every morning you wake up alive ~ what you've got in this life has just been given back to you.

 

In retrospect ~ NOW ~ I've been through so much s*** ~ that I can walk through this life ~ in this country, the greatest country in the world with the attitude of: "Hey! I could give a f**k what life throws at me! F**k it! I'm alive!" Wife or GF bails on me ~ I know there are others just down the street and around the corner. I know there's a greater shortage of good men than there are of good women.

 

You're a good man DD, you've hanged when most would have long ago bailed! Even if it comes down to going through the Big "D" she'll have to look long and hard to find a man willing to take on her on those six children. Let alone a man of your characther. You've got Honor, characther, inegrity.

 

I know CTA and I sometimes come down on your azz, but in the end what you're doing isn't about you, your wife alone, its about being a part of something greater than just you an her, your marriage ~ its about those children and the family. You've saddled up and are "maning up" even if she can't see it.

 

I don't give guys bunnies, but to you my friend I'll give you five big Cool Dudes! :cool: :cool:

 

Thanks for all of this, Gunny. I really needed the boost up. I can't tell you how much it means to me that you guys are supporting me through this. I don't know what I would do without having this resource.

 

I do keep telling myself, "No matter what happens, everthing's going to be all right."

[DesperateDad]

I am amazed at how simmilar some cases are here. I have been following DD's case and despite differences I can not avoid seeing the simmilarities with my situation.

 

hope you stay on course and things turn out the best for you and your kids.

 

Hey iron_m, I'm sad that others are going through the same thing, but I'm also amazed by the similarities in situations. What the hell is going on here that is making our spouses so crazy? I know, guys do it, too, but it's an epidemic. People in general are more depressed, more stressed out and unhappy than they've ever been before. I wonder if this is a symptom or a cause...

 

Good luck with your situation, too. I'm really hoping good things happen for us all.

[DesperateDad]

She's just trying to 'get your goat'. She's peeved and she's too chicken-sh*t to start something verbal with you. You did EXACTLY the right thing by blowing it off. You've very gallantly afforded her the opportunity to backpeddle. Good job!

 

p.s. I got a kick out of Gunny's post too.

 

 

I can picture it now! :lmao:

 

Thanks, LJ. I'm beginning to realize the same thing. This is a battle of wills. The passive/aggressive stuff continues, though. Yesterday I knew she was angry with me, but she didn't say anything so I acted cheerful.

 

During the afternoon while I was at work, though, she messaged me online and chatted for a few minutes, making small talk. It was almost like she was probing to see if I was pissed off at her.

 

When I got home, I could tell she was angry with me. She asked me if I was checking up on her. I asked her what she meant and she told me that our daughter had said that I asked how often the OM had been around my house. I told her, yes, I did ask her right after I looked at the phone records and before I confronted her and the OM about it.

 

That seemed to clear up that issue for her, but she definitely seems worried about what I'm doing or planning to do. I don't know if this will push her into taking some action herself or if it will just keep her off balance and guessing what I'm up to. Anyway, it does seem to be turning up the heat a bit.

 

Should I just be keeping on doing my own thing and being upbeat? I'm still working myself to the bone here. I've been taking care of the kids a lot and last night I made supper when I got home from work. I'm even doing all of the bills and grocery shopping now and I'm making arrangements to take on some more side work in the fall to make more money. I don't know how long I can keep going at this pace.