KittenMoon Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Just a curious inquiry on my part: How many of your present or past break-ups took place during the winter months? (in winter climates, mind you, forget it if you live in like Florida or Costa Rica or something) Obviously weather/seasons don't CAUSE break-ups (so please refrain from pointing this out X-million times), but I am curious if seasonal disaffectiveness disorder contributes to a higher rate of break-ups. My ex and I broke up in Feb, and we we live in an area infamous for it's winter greyness and high rates of seasonal depression.
panthera_leo Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Hmm interesting. My breakup happened Feb too. I know 3 other people who have broken up and they've all been around January/February. There's either a trend or its a freakish coincidence! Tis the season to be single la la la la laaa la la la la! Oh how depressing lol
Author KittenMoon Posted April 26, 2006 Author Posted April 26, 2006 Tis the season to be single la la la la laaa la la la la! l Of course, winter break-ups could also be spurred on by that "getting past the holidays" thing. But still curious about any weather/environmental connection.
panthera_leo Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Yeah its been scientifically proven that people become depressed during winter months. Seasonal Affective Disorder - its supposedly brought on due to shorter days and lack of sunlight. I guess as it affects your mood it would have a huge impact on personal relationships. I think it could play a part in breakups because when people get the "winter blues" they tend to avoid social contact and get irritable. But then again, as everything, its an issue for debate. Its something to bare in mind. Actually, now that you mention it... after the break up my ex said how much he's looking forward to the summer. Hmm. Now you got me thinking lol
UT_longhorn Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 There was an article explaining that January was the month of the most breakups. It had the reasons why behind it too. Pretty interesting read. I was broken up with on Jan.
Vertex Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Relationship became really bad around January and just kept getting worse from there. December was my last good month.
lovelorcet Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Hell started to break loose around the end of Jan...
Art_Critic Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Mine have always happened between Oct-Feb It's either dump em before the Holidays or just After
visotech Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 We didn't break up until early April, but I think we drifted apart during the winter months. If this were the days of log cabins and no heaters, im sure winter would have been a better month for us - damn modern conviences.
sunshinegirl Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 I've been dumped twice in January and once in December. That said, there seems to be a rash of girlfriends around me who are going through breakups right now...
malcontent Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 My ex-gf and I broke up at the end of February. I definitely have a little bit of the ol' SAD (seasonal affective disorder), which probably contributed to my general apathy towards the relationship.
chocolate_boy Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Mine have all been towards that time of year, last one was late Sept, one before was march, one before nov, one before december, one before that in jan. Had my heart broken a few times, damn the fall/winter lol. On the flip-side I always tend to hook up with them around this time of year too, anniversaries are always between nov-jan for me!
Vertex Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 It seems like everyone around me is breaking up recently. Like seriously, ALL my friends have separated from their significant others. It's like the Single-Virus hit us all.
riobikini Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 Bravo! for asking such a thought-provoking question! My answer: began the downfall in November. It does make you think "hmmmmm" , doesn't it? -Rio
Author KittenMoon Posted April 27, 2006 Author Posted April 27, 2006 Bravo! for asking such a thought-provoking question! Sadly, it's mostly me trying to find answers for my break-up. But it's another piece of the puzzle, and it seems to fit! It does make you think "hmmmmm" , doesn't it? -Rio Yes, I think we're really seeing a pattern here. In fact, let me just add that AFTER I posted this question, I overheard our visiting overseas sales rep talk about his split with his live-in gf within the recent past.
jerbear Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 ask they say, women start the break up way before the actual date. Mine was Jan 11 & March 19 (she broke NC before hand)
riobikini Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 Jerbear has a point...I do think women (myself, for example) begin the breakup decision before the male partner knows for sure. And that would mean that males, (being a little slower grasping the status of their romantic repationship, perhaps?) didn't know until sometime in the following new year or spring. Let's look back and see how that fits in to the idea...and at more responses as they post. Very interesting. Location on the globe would be interesting, too, with this. -Rio
jerbear Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 Jerbear has a point...I do think women (myself, for example) begin the breakup decision before the male partner knows for sure. I started pulling away in mid-Nov, noticed a few things in Oct and Nov. So in my case it was about 3 months before Jan. Another ex (she told me) was 1 week before the axe fell. I've done it in 2 weeks, 1 week, and some even the day before. The others I just don't know.
hopeboundheart Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 My ex began the breakup decision before i knew and he mentioned it to me in his breakup email. Mine happened on 26th Feb. Location: Australia
alphamale Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 Obviously weather/seasons don't CAUSE break-ups (so please refrain from pointing this out X-million times), but I am curious if seasonal disaffectiveness disorder contributes to a higher rate of break-ups. If your hypothesis is true KM, then there should be few, if any, breakups in places where its always nice weather. LA, San Diego, Miami, blah blah blah.
Author KittenMoon Posted April 27, 2006 Author Posted April 27, 2006 If your hypothesis is true KM, then there should be few, if any, breakups in places where its always nice weather. LA, San Diego, Miami, blah blah blah. Actually, I'd be curious to see if break-ups that DO occur in places with more temperate/warm weather (because obviously it happens everywhere) tend to be quicker and less drawn out, or MORE drawn out, or what. But that's way too hard to track, so nevermind. Anyways, about this "pulling away" thing. I feel really weird because my ex essentially ended it with me, but I feel like I was beginning to pull away first, which then sent him pulling away from me, but unfortunately not until after we said we wanted to work things out, at which point I began to emotionally REinvest myself and work at the relationship, only to obviously devastating consequences. I got hosed... But this took place over Oct 05- Feb 06. Screw you, winter.
alphamale Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 But this took place over Oct 05- Feb 06. Screw you, winter. Hmmm KM....interesting. In places where there are cold weather winters people tend to spend more time indoors and more time with their lover cuddling and s***. So maybe since they are in closer proximity for longer periods during the winter then they get on each others nerves more and then breakup
Author KittenMoon Posted April 27, 2006 Author Posted April 27, 2006 Hmmm KM....interesting. In places where there are cold weather winters people tend to spend more time indoors and more time with their lover cuddling and s***. So maybe since they are in closer proximity for longer periods during the winter then they get on each others nerves more and then breakup I'm sorta wondering if that's how it was for me. The activities where my ex and I seemed closest happened over the warm months- BBQs, going fruit picking, taking walks, etc. Being stuck indoors began to feel depressing and alienating. Not looking forward to the warm weather alone...
a4a Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 I always do my dumping in Jan- Mar that way I can have a fresh start each spring
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