konfuzd Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 I went on a first date with a guy on Saturday, and everything went real well, conversation was great and we got along wonderfully.... but there's one thing.... I have a total tattoo fetish and this guy has 4 tattoos that I can't stand. They are all very cliche and very poorly done. He was ranting and raving about this one piece that he designed, spent rediculous amount of time on it, ensured that the artist destroyed the stencil and wouldn't do another one similar to it... was completely hideous... it was his initials that he made look like some cheap corporate logo, and the artist didn't even get it straight on his arm, it just looks awful. I don't know how to handle this. It is a complete turn-off, but I feel really bad for feeling this way and that I'm being really superficial and petty, but for some reason it bothers me a lot. Am I being irrational?
tikigods Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 hey you gots to look at that body you know! seriously though I can kinda see where you are coming from since I like to laugh at bad tattoos (cause you know I'm a bad person ;D) so I honestly don't think I could ever date someone with bad tattoos, I would be to busy giggling at their misfortune
Coochie Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 My boyfriend and I were talking the other day about how shows like Seinfeld demean relationships because of that reason (he thinks they do, I have a past habit of doing exactly what you are thinking of!) & your post made me realise that he too hates tattoos and I have a couple - only one is a bit dodgy though! If he hadn't been man/mature enough to look past the superficial me and into who I am, we wouldn't be where we are now - falling even more in love every week. And it was only because I finally realised that there was more to a person than the perfect length fingers and cool shoes that I discovered what really makes me tick. For years I ran away from relationships for the most obscure/petty reasons. It is now that I realise that was a sign of committment phobia and any excuse was good enough for me. I'm not at all assuming that that is what's going on for you, I just know with out a doubt, that in the end those things are completely & utterly unimportant & focusing on them can mean missing out on a really wonderful experience. If everything else about this guy is good - go for it. If it craps out, you can always blame the tats:laugh:
Coochie Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Sorry - just noticed that you said you had a tattoo fetish - in which case dodgy skin art is a whole different ball game! The things I said still apply re:appearances, but choices in art/culture reflect personality and are therefore a completely different thing.
Author konfuzd Posted April 27, 2006 Author Posted April 27, 2006 Thanks all for your responses! hey you gots to look at that body you know! seriously though I can kinda see where you are coming from since I like to laugh at bad tattoos (cause you know I'm a bad person ;D) so I honestly don't think I could ever date someone with bad tattoos, I would be to busy giggling at their misfortune I guess we are both bad people... lol She eats her peas...one at a time! but choices in art/culture reflect personality and are therefore a completely different thing. Thank you so much for the validation on that. Art is a huge part of my life, and I do wonder if it is a sign of his lack of individuality and a need to conform and fit in to a certain pre-conceived identity.
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