Noos Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 I've been told that if a guy puts a girl int he friend zone, it means that she's not pretty enough for him to date. Is this true?
MadDog Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 It's not always about looks. I know attractive girls I put in the friends zone because I knew they wouldn't be a good match for me (e.g. they were too much about the drama.) But yeah, sometimes it can be that the physical attraction isn't there. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder though.
riobikini Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 I'm all for friendship to begin with, with anyone I date...it kind of seems silly not to be friendly before thinking about any kind of possible advancement of the relationship without it. And being 'pretty' or not has little to do with it. -Rio
glittergurl Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 I've been told that if a guy puts a girl int he friend zone, it means that she's not pretty enough for him to date. That sounds like one of those silly high school rules. It depends on the people and the situation. This is really a case by case type of thing. And friendships and relationships evolve, by the way. People come and go, some get closer at some point, and some become distant. That's the way life goes.
jerbear Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 I've been told that if a guy puts a girl int he friend zone, it means that she's not pretty enough for him to date. Is this true? Not really, some things that I have done. Timing. One of us moved, so friend zone. Met/have someone else, she is in friend zone. Feelings Just not there, friend zone. Age/maturity level (she is still emotionally younger)
aleatoryd Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 This "friend zone" isn't a hole you just throw people in. To shallow people it may come down to looks. For me it's about how well you connect and relate to a person. It's also personality. 2 years ago I liked someone and we got on really well - going out, doing stuff, picnics lol! Except back then I'd had negative experiences and carried too much emotional baggage. I was as a result sometimes bitter and sarcastic. Not surprisingly she stuck me in the friend zone - you see we were great friends (and still are) and we care for each other, we share values and life goals - but the fact I was soo pessimistic and negative was a big turn off to her. I understand that now and learnt that lesson. But it's not a fixed thing. Sometimes people get out of it sometimes they are never anything else. Sorry it's hard to explain it. To the OP it's not about looks. Like the U2 song goes "I still haven't found what I'm looking for." Experience has taught me that there is a type of girl out there who I can relate to, care for and hopefully love. I've made a lot of mistakes and been put in the friend zone. Similarly I've found that when you aren't infactuated (LOL) you start to realise whether a person is suited to you and you are suited to them. It works both ways and I believe that out of this "type" will come a one. There is nothing wrong with the girls I put in the friend zone they just at this moment in time (subject to change how fickle we are!) not suitable for long term relationship. Maybe we change our minds as we get to know them better and sometimes "problems" can be resolved or seem petty so we can all get out of the "friend zone". I hate being in it and as I'm sure most people are who've held feelings "unrequited love" for another... but I think it's better than if we all wanted to go out with everyone we need. We need to show discernment in our choices else we don't really value people. Oh and remember people change and what we thought we wanted in the past probably isn't what we want now. So people maybe move in and out the "friend zone" - it's complicated!
TheSwordfish Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 Many people wnat to become friends first and get to know someone. Wheter you are in the friends zone or not will be more about actions and less about words. A friend of mine has a girl who's crazy about hime, he asked her out after a while. Before they went out, she said: We'll be going as friends! Even though she kept on saying that, they kissed that night. Friends can become lovers, way easier than lovers becoming friends.
TheSwordfish Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 Friends first... well I think it stinks... but many girls want to know you before they decide if you are more then that.
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