ImWithHim Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 For anyone that was following our story...he left home today and ships out tomorrow. He'll be gone for 6 months. We will be able to write, but that's it... I'm completely heartbroken. He is my best friend, my everything. I can talk to him, confide in him, he supports me and guides me. He's only been gone one day and I miss him like crazy. Please don't critize or say it's good that he's gone. I just needed to get this off my chest. He's been urging me to talk to this forum while he's away and not go at this alone, so here I am trying to do as he thinks is best because in the end he's usually right... "Two Sparrows In A Hurricane" She's fifteen and he's barely driving a car She's got his ring and he's got the keys to her heart It's just matter of time They'll spread their wings and fly Like two sparrows in a hurricane Trying to find their way With a head full of dreams And faith that can move anything They've heard it's all uphill But all they know is how they feel The world says they'll never make it, love says they will There's a baby crying and one more on the way There's a wolf at the door with a big stack of bills They can't pay The clouds are dark and the wind is high But they can see the other side Like two sparrows in a hurricane Trying to find their way With a head full of dreams And faith that can move anything They've heard it's all uphill But all they know is how they feel The world says they'll never make it, love says they will She's eighty-three and he's barely driving a car She's got his ring and he's got the key to her heart It's just a matter of time They'll spread their wings and fly Like two sparrows in a hurricane Trying to find their way With a head full of dreams And faith that can move anything They've heard it's all uphill But all they know is how they feel The world says they'll never make it, love says they will.
whichwayisup Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 It will take some time, but you will survive this. I know deep in your heart, as much as you love him, you know that it could never workout between you two. Cry, grieve and then get on with your own life. Each day that passes will get easier, just like everything else in life...It goes on. Take this time to get over him, not to "wait" for him. Be with friends and family, even go out on dates too. Not saying you have to fall inlove with someone right now, but putting yourself out there and gaining self confidence is something you need. Good luck and keep posting.
Author ImWithHim Posted April 26, 2006 Author Posted April 26, 2006 I have absolutely no desire to date anyone...everyone I meet, I compare to him. Of course they don't match up (they never do when you have your heart set on someone). It does not even occur to me that I am "waiting" for him. I don't find it a struggle, just consider it a long pause in our relationship. If that even makes sense...
climbergirl Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Glad you're still here.........write away-every day, even if you don't send it to him.
whichwayisup Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 So this distance apart is just a "pause in your relationship" and you don't have any intention of thinking it might be best to end it? Because from what I remember about ImWithHer, he has mentioned that HE was going to take this time to figure things out. There is NO guarantee here that life will continue as it was before he left. I'm just saying, don't sit and wait for him to come back...Remember he does have a wife, whom he's happy with and not considering leaving. That sadly for you, is the bottom line...Unless you're prepared to be the OW for a very long time...
Author ImWithHim Posted April 26, 2006 Author Posted April 26, 2006 you don't have any intention of thinking it might be best to end it? None at this point in time Because from what I remember about ImWithHer, he has mentioned that HE was going to take this time to figure things out. We both have a tremendous amount of things to figure out both personally and together, but will keep in close touch via writing and keep up to date as best we can under those circumstances. Neither of us, including him, was using this as a "goodbye" by any stretch of the imagination. There is NO guarantee here that life will continue as it was before he left. You are correct in that neither of us knows where we will be or how we will feel in 6 months time of limited contact. We will, at the least, remain extremely good friends. If the rest is still there...all the better.
Walking away Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 We are here for you in this difficult time. Keep posting.
OzGirl Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 We are here for you in this difficult time. Keep posting. Ditto. This is survivable - we're here and we know it hurts like it's too much to bare. Let it out and don't question your feelings. At this point, I think you just have to stock up on the tissues...
Author ImWithHim Posted April 26, 2006 Author Posted April 26, 2006 I'mWithHIm - do you have your PM enabled? I don't appear to have that option. I think you have to have a minimum number of posts or time here before the forum allows that.
Blind Illusion Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Don't worry, I'mWithHim, you'll get through this separation somehow. Just keep writing and venting. Of course, continue to write to him. You never mentioned where exactly he is going so I will presume (perhaps incorrectly) that this is some type of military endeavor. It's a possibility that he might not be able to write to you in the same volume that you are able to. I mention this not to discourage you but it could very easily be a reality that has nothing to do with his feelings for you. I can understand you not wanting to date others at this point. There's an interesting thread going on this same forum with many diverse, but convincing viewpoints. Worth checking out for readings sake, if you haven't already done so. Anyhow, dating is not something you have to deal with right now. If at this point next winter, you have to, then we'll worry about that then. You might however, want to do something totally totally new. Anything from some interest, travel to some place, a new class....it doesn't matter. Just to have another focus right now. Besides, that will make for some interesting letter material to I'mWithHer. If your heart isn't into it just yet, try again in a week or so. You might have to even force yourself a little at first. That's okay, though. Keep writing, all right...you're among friends.
zarathustra Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Don't worry, I'mWithHim, you'll get through this separation somehow. Just keep writing and venting. Of course, continue to write to him. You never mentioned where exactly he is going so I will presume (perhaps incorrectly) that this is some type of military endeavor. It's a possibility that he might not be able to write to you in the same volume that you are able to. I mention this not to discourage you but it could very easily be a reality that has nothing to do with his feelings for you. I can understand you not wanting to date others at this point. There's an interesting thread going on this same forum with many diverse, but convincing viewpoints. Worth checking out for readings sake, if you haven't already done so. Anyhow, dating is not something you have to deal with right now. If at this point next winter, you have to, then we'll worry about that then. You might however, want to do something totally totally new. Anything from some interest, travel to some place, a new class....it doesn't matter. Just to have another focus right now. Besides, that will make for some interesting letter material to I'mWithHer. If your heart isn't into it just yet, try again in a week or so. You might have to even force yourself a little at first. That's okay, though. Keep writing, all right...you're among friends. I'm with BI on this one. Try something new or revisit an old hobby. I got back into art because I needed a venue to express myself. I'm ever so glad I did it. Take one day at a time. You don't have to date anyone if you aren't interested, but just keep yourself open to meeting new friends and hanging out with old ones. Good luck!
Author ImWithHim Posted April 27, 2006 Author Posted April 27, 2006 A letter and gift arrived in the mail today. It's dated before he left, though he didn't tell me. It was a wonderful surprise to come home to after work tonight.
Walking away Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 It is a difficult thing that you go through. I hope this gesture cheered you up a bit. Hugs WA
Blind Illusion Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 A letter and gift arrived in the mail today. It's dated before he left, though he didn't tell me. It was a wonderful surprise to come home to after work tonight. ;) Oh, wow. I love it!! I like it when men think ahead like this and anticipate towards making a sad day just a bit brighter.
Author ImWithHim Posted April 27, 2006 Author Posted April 27, 2006 ;) Oh, wow. I love it!! I like it when men think ahead like this and anticipate towards making a sad day just a bit brighter. He's just amazing...there are no words to describe how I feel about him.
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