Vertex Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 I agree but it seems like I just can't find girls like that... everyone seems to be attracted to tools. Regardless, KISS! HER!
Author MadDog Posted May 2, 2006 Author Posted May 2, 2006 I agree but it seems like I just can't find girls like that... everyone seems to be attracted to tools. Regardless, KISS! HER! Are you trying to brainwash me or what? I'm not going to call her up right now and go over there just to make out with her dude. That kind of stuff is acceptable once your relationship is established, not before. Anyway, younger girls tend to go more for the tools. It's cause they have more time left on their biological clock and can afford to mess around without worrying if the guy will be supportive, kind, etc. Only once they hit their mid 20's do they realize, "Uh oh. I might want to get married and have kids sometime soon. Maybe I should consider if the guy is long-term potential from now on." Of course, that can get lame for guys too because some of them go into "I want to get married" mode and you have to wonder if she wants you or just an engagement ring. So I have concluded then you need a girl about 24-25 who is mature (e.g. looking for Mr. Right) but not in panic mode. Let me know how that age group works out for you.
PlentyLV007 Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 God I can't believe I'm having to work this hard for a kiss. I would have normally been laid backwards and forwards by now. Being mature is lame. :confused: :confused: Honestly me neither... MD I'm cheering for you really...but, I don't understand....your such a keeper, what the hell is taking her so long? Your taking this stuff fairly well....I mean...for a kiss you know? I mean getting to second base okay...but a little nibble on the lip....?
Vertex Posted May 2, 2006 Posted May 2, 2006 Are you trying to brainwash me or what? I'm not going to call her up right now and go over there just to make out with her dude. That kind of stuff is acceptable once your relationship is established, not before. Anyway, younger girls tend to go more for the tools. It's cause they have more time left on their biological clock and can afford to mess around without worrying if the guy will be supportive, kind, etc. Only once they hit their mid 20's do they realize, "Uh oh. I might want to get married and have kids sometime soon. Maybe I should consider if the guy is long-term potential from now on." Of course, that can get lame for guys too because some of them go into "I want to get married" mode and you have to wonder if she wants you or just an engagement ring. So I have concluded then you need a girl about 24-25 who is mature (e.g. looking for Mr. Right) but not in panic mode. Let me know how that age group works out for you. I'm just kiddin, man/messing with you. Take it at the pace that you feel works best. I will let you know how that age group works, however.
Author MadDog Posted May 2, 2006 Author Posted May 2, 2006 :confused: :confused: Honestly me neither... MD I'm cheering for you really...but, I don't understand....your such a keeper, what the hell is taking her so long? Your taking this stuff fairly well....I mean...for a kiss you know? I mean getting to second base okay...but a little nibble on the lip....? What's taking her so long? Hell if I know. How any girl could resist me after this long puzzles me even more. I suspect that maybe she's been burned in the past and is taking it slow. I don't care anymore though. I'm going in for a kiss at least and if she still doesn't want to, then I'll have some kind of talk with her about it to see what's up. Who knows. Maybe she's a lesbian? I think the reason why I've been so patient is because I saw a lot of potential in her early on. Now I'm somewhat having my doubts though. Like last night she called me late after she got off work and we talked for a while. She said she'd call me back in a bit and never did. I assume she fell asleep because she woke up early and worked late/hard. If that's the case, I'd be fine with it. Any other reason besides falling asleep though would make her lame. Even if she did fall asleep she'd better be somewhat apologetic about it. I've been really nice to her but if she's not mature enough to realize it and is starting to take me for granted, it's time to hit that eject button.
amerikajin Posted May 3, 2006 Posted May 3, 2006 MadDog, We're dating the same type of girl. You already know what comes next, right? This chick is going to take time, and in that time, you're going to have to judge her to see if she's really worth the wait. Some girls are, some aren't. Be objective about everything.
Author MadDog Posted May 3, 2006 Author Posted May 3, 2006 MadDog, We're dating the same type of girl. You already know what comes next, right? This chick is going to take time, and in that time, you're going to have to judge her to see if she's really worth the wait. Some girls are, some aren't. Be objective about everything. The chick I'm seeing isn't worth it. She didn't even bother texting me or calling me all day today. MD doesn't accept being blown off. I don't care how hot she thinks she is. I'm going to a strip club this weekend. At least I'll get something for my money.
Lishy Posted May 3, 2006 Posted May 3, 2006 Honey I respect ANY girl who does not have sex with a guy quick ... Its a smart move! BUT not even a kiss? BIG alarm bells!!!!!!!! If you are attracted so someone then you want to kiss him! You go and have fun and dont contact her anymore, dont be her ego boost!
Author MadDog Posted May 3, 2006 Author Posted May 3, 2006 Honey I respect ANY girl who does not have sex with a guy quick ... Its a smart move! BUT not even a kiss? BIG alarm bells!!!!!!!! If you are attracted so someone then you want to kiss him! You go and have fun and dont contact her anymore, dont be her ego boost! Yeah it's quite unf***ingbelievable. What she doesn't realize is that I'd normally be out of her league and she just happened to find me at the right time. Just because I'm nice to her she thinks I can be taken for granted? Big mistake there. I won't call her anymore unless she calls me. And if she does call me, unless she has a great explanation as to why she didn't call or text (basically an emergency type situation), I'm gonna be the one blowing her off.
amerikajin Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 MadDog, Hey man, try not to overreact here. I think the way to handle this woman (if you still have an interest in her) is to go with the flow. The thing is, a hot woman like this is probably going to be the one setting the pace in the relationship early on because she has so many guys coming after her. As I said, you have to look at her objectively. Is she just a taker, and not a giver? That's the kind of stuff you have to look at. At the same time, see if there are ways you can communicate your expectations without coming across as insecure or pushy. I think sometimes the way to communicate in this situation is through action. If she doesn't call or text, then don't call or text her either. If she's interested, she'll wonder where you've gone and drop you a line. If she's not, she won't, and if that's the case, why bother? Today may just not have been her day. May not have felt like talking or anything. Don't let that get to you unless it becomes a pattern of behavior.
Author MadDog Posted May 4, 2006 Author Posted May 4, 2006 Yeah, good call. I really don't know what's gotten into me. There's something about this girl. I've dated plenty of hot/interesting girls before but I never seemed to give much of a damn. I figured if things don't work out, there will always be more. I guess in the back of my mind I realize it's the same deal with her; if things don't work out, there's more. But it's kinda like going to a store and picking up the last copy of a new video game that came out. You you know there's another copy at a different store but you don't want to have to go through the hassle. Maybe I'm just getting lazy in my advanced age.
amerikajin Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 I've realized more and more that it's my own insecurities that do me in when it comes to relationships, not so much the woman I'm seeing. It's easy to start thinking and analyzing behavior when, in reality, no such analysis is required. I've nearly thrown away my current relationship two or three times already because of my insecurities and my inability to control my mouth. That's not to say my concerns weren't valid, because I still think they were. It's just that now I know how to deal with things better. Communicate through actions, not words. It's more effective, and it's safer. You never have to take back anything you say that way And even better, you look more 'in control' of the situation, which naturally makes you look more masculine and sexy.
Author MadDog Posted May 4, 2006 Author Posted May 4, 2006 MD - dude. Please. For my own sanity... Just call her up, ask her to meet you somewhere, and then walk right up to her and KISS HER. KISS. HER. NOW. Go. Pick up the phone, for crying out loud. NOW. Haha. I can hold out a little longer. That seems a bit desperate to call her and tell her I want to meet her just to kiss her. We'll probably end up hanging out tomorrow. I'll go for it sometime, probably at the end of the night.
AriaIncognito Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 if you dont, i think all of LS is going to throw things at you.... LOL Jennifer
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