whichwayisup Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 There's no way you can hold back if you cuddle for hours, night after night. Imfreakingpossible. That's why I said maybe once a week. Not night after night. That is just painful and blueballish for the poor guy!
nicki Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 And very difficult for the girl, too. That's why it's best not to be alone inside until you both want more to happen. Making out once or twice in private quarters is fun...but any more times than that without follow through is PURE tortue....and can kill timing of the "big deal." When my switch is thrown, watch out. Nothing will stop me.
Author MadDog Posted April 27, 2006 Author Posted April 27, 2006 And very difficult for the girl, too. That's why it's best not to be alone inside until you both want more to happen. Making out once or twice in private quarters is fun...but any more times than that without follow through is PURE tortue....and can kill timing of the "big deal." When my switch is thrown, watch out. Nothing will stop me. Really? Sometimes I feel like many girls could hold out forever if I didn't make the first move. If there is a god, he played a cruel joke on mankind by giving the average guy a much higher sex drive than the average girl.
nicki Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 Hopefully your girl is a perfect match for you, with a high sex drive...and just waiting for you to make the first move. Some women like the guy to do that. It's hard to tell about sex drive until you are actually in some kind of relationship where you are having sex on a regular basis. When I'm not in a relationship, I can go months without sex, but with the right guy, I'm a complete and utter nympho...shameless... It's tricky, isn't it? You want to make the first move, but don't want to get shut down if the woman isn't ready...it sounds like things are heating up nicely for the both of you...just need a little more cooking time... I'll say a prayer to the sex gods that she has a sky high sex drive! Better be able to handle that
Author MadDog Posted April 27, 2006 Author Posted April 27, 2006 It's tricky, isn't it? You want to make the first move, but don't want to get shut down if the woman isn't ready...it sounds like things are heating up nicely for the both of you...just need a little more cooking time... Yeah. I think she feels it too but is restraining herself. We're on a low boil at this point. It's a matter of time before she gets "hotter than an oven and needs some lovin'." I'll say a prayer to the sex gods that she has a sky high sex drive! Better be able to handle that Haha. Oh yeah, I can handle it! Man all this talk of getting busy with her has got my mind going in circles. It'd be easier to hold off if she weren't so damn hot.
amerikajin Posted April 28, 2006 Posted April 28, 2006 For those of you who held out for a while before having sex, I want to ask you, how did you keep yourself distracted so you didn't keep thinking about having sex? It's especially hard when we're lying there all alone, just the two of us. I'm holding her but I'm thinking of how it'd be to undress her. I think that you take things at her pace. There has to be some reciprocation and some action somewhere down the line, but some women want to take things really slow, and you need to respect that. My guess is, she's probably a pretty hot chick and gets hit on all the time, so good job for snagging the arm candy. Just try not to get too caught up in it all. What I've done in this situation is to gradually up the ante. It starts with just a small kiss, and sometimes it can take several dates for that to happen, so don't rush it. Once you get the kiss, then you go for a deeper kiss. Once you get a deeper kiss, you spend the night at her place and just hold her close to you at night. Gently caress her body - women need to be touched, and touched the right way. Just make sure you keep your hands in 'safe' areas at first such as the upper back, neck and shoulders. Offer to give her a good back massage, and you'll gradually get her into a comfort zone so that touching doesn't get her guard up. Gradually start caressing her in different parts of her body, such as behind her knees - that's actually a great place, because it's not near the vagina, so it doesn't immediately get her guard up, and yet it's a hidden erogenous zone and produces the desired effect of arousal. And once a woman gets aroused, even the most prudish of women have a hell of a time flipping off the switch. If you manage to hit the trigger, I'd focus on making sure her sexual needs are met first (i.e. give her some oral). Once her needs are met, it's almost guaranteed she'll want to return the favor.
Author MadDog Posted April 28, 2006 Author Posted April 28, 2006 She's so hot she's on fire. Your approach is a good one but I think if I go for a "small kiss," I'll end up going for a makeout session. It'd be virtually impossible for me to put my lips on hers and not let my instincts take over. It'd be like starving and taking only one small bite out of a nice juicy steak. You must just have a lot more self control than I have. I think what will end up happening is a whole lot of tame stuff then BAM, hot and heavy sex until the break of dawn. At times it can be sheer torture but I'm holding on the best I can here. I should give her the code-name, "Cold Shower."
a4a Posted April 28, 2006 Posted April 28, 2006 She's so hot she's on fire. Your approach is a good one but I think if I go for a "small kiss," I'll end up going for a makeout session. It'd be virtually impossible for me to put my lips on hers and not let my instincts take over. It'd be like starving and taking only one small bite out of a nice juicy steak. You must just have a lot more self control than I have. I think what will end up happening is a whole lot of tame stuff then BAM, hot and heavy sex until the break of dawn. At times it can be sheer torture but I'm holding on the best I can here. I should give her the code-name, "Cold Shower." MD you are going to have to spank the monkey before you hang out with her. Maybe twice.....
Author MadDog Posted April 28, 2006 Author Posted April 28, 2006 MD you are going to have to spank the monkey before you hang out with her. Maybe twice..... At this rate that's what it's going to come down to. I don't know what it is about this girl. I'm normally Mr. Cool but she's definately getting to me. I've met my kryptonite!
PlentyLV007 Posted April 28, 2006 Posted April 28, 2006 Mad DOG!!!!! I'm very happy about your new girl!!! Okay so...you know it took me about a good month and let me tell you ...it was pleasurable pain to resist him....He told me he's never wanted any other woman as much as he's wanted me...true or not....it sounded and felt so good!!! Everything... The first time he slept over and no sex...it was the most irritating thing ever...I couldn't sleep and all I kept thinking about was me on top of him...even him hugging would get me hot!!! We started making out like 3 weeks into dating....HOT!!! I didn't feel him out till about 1 week before we initiated the deed. Then 1 day of oral sex before the big finale!!! Man oh man....it was nice.... The thing is that I see him every weekend...so during the week I crave him. At work I think about him...HMMMMM (mouth watering) ...any who... Distractions....let me think.... Oh man...I CAN'T LIE....I THOUGHT ABOUT SEX EVERY TIME I WAS ON THE PHONE WITH HIM, WHEN WE WERE OUT, HIM TOUCHING MY LEG...IT WAS INSANE..... I've never...ever waited that long...but it's so worth it.... I still can't think of any distractions!!!???? Well there was one thing....I kept thinking his pennis was small! That helped in the beginning. I mean he works out.....so I assumed ...yeah it's small.... CONCLUSION....QUOTE: Sex in the city: (Samantha) It's long, pink, Beautiful !
alphamale Posted April 28, 2006 Posted April 28, 2006 I have a feeling it's going to be at least a couple months before we have lift-off and I'd like to make it as easy on myself as possible. Any good tips would be appreciated. watch a lot of porn.
PlentyLV007 Posted April 28, 2006 Posted April 28, 2006 watch a lot of porn. OMG that works....I watch porn all the time and I still crave sex all the time.... Hmmm....maybe not watching enough??
nicki Posted April 28, 2006 Posted April 28, 2006 Yeah, MadDog, that's exactly how it's going to go down (um, up;) I use the same "juicy steak" simile....hmmm, do you know me? It's true, though! That's what it's like. Who can only take one bite? Best to hold off serving any "steak" until it can be devoured. You can kiss and make out a bit in public. Like I said before, I only make out once or twice in private until I just don't want to control it anymore....It's fun to lose control at the right moment....but don't wait too long...frustration is no good, but sweet anticipation is very gooood... So, in the meantime, enjoy Mr. Right Hand and fantasize about her. I'm sure she's doing the same.
Author MadDog Posted April 28, 2006 Author Posted April 28, 2006 Mad DOG!!!!! I'm very happy about your new girl!!! Okay so...you know it took me about a good month and let me tell you ...it was pleasurable pain to resist him....He told me he's never wanted any other woman as much as he's wanted me...true or not....it sounded and felt so good!!! Hey, long time no see. Ya things have been pretty well with her. We've gone out three times now and are supposed to go out again tonight. She's already the girl I've wanted the most over. We started making out like 3 weeks into dating....HOT!!! I didn't feel him out till about 1 week before we initiated the deed. Then 1 day of oral sex before the big finale!!! Man oh man....it was nice.... So neither of you made any real move to do the nasty until 3 weeks in? We're moving at a snail's pace so far considering we haven't even kissed yet. On our first date she told me she waits a while for the physical so I've been looking for signs she wants more. I figure it's a matter of time before I see an opening and go for it (at least a kiss anyway.) The thing is that I see him every weekend...so during the week I crave him. At work I think about him...HMMMMM (mouth watering) ...any who... Yeah I've only been seeing her about the same (twice a week). All week I think about the next time I'll see her. Jesus I feel like I'm 10 again. Distractions....let me think.... Oh man...I CAN'T LIE....I THOUGHT ABOUT SEX EVERY TIME I WAS ON THE PHONE WITH HIM, WHEN WE WERE OUT, HIM TOUCHING MY LEG...IT WAS INSANE..... I've never...ever waited that long...but it's so worth it.... I still can't think of any distractions!!!???? Haha. So basically, you're telling me there aren't any distractions and you were obsessed about it the whole time. Nice. Well there was one thing....I kept thinking his pennis was small! That helped in the beginning. I mean he works out.....so I assumed ...yeah it's small.... CONCLUSION....QUOTE: Sex in the city: (Samantha) It's long, pink, Beautiful ! I somehow don't think pretending she has a large vagina will have the same effect. I just know it's gonna be a great fit.
Author MadDog Posted April 28, 2006 Author Posted April 28, 2006 watch a lot of porn. Believe it or not I gave up porn. I might be one of the few guys who spontaneously gave it up. It all seemed the same to me after a while and felt like a waste of time. I was literally getting too busy to keep watching it. Yeah, you can conclude I watched a lot in the past.
PlentyLV007 Posted April 28, 2006 Posted April 28, 2006 I somehow don't think pretending she has a large vagina will have the same effect. I just know it's gonna be a great fit. Is that a turn off for you a large vagina!!??? :lmao: Or you mean Loose Vagina!!!??? I think the only thing that turns me off about a woman is when she has those loose lips....You know what I'm talking about...the cookie....when you go downtown...her vagina looks like it's going to swallow you in..... :lmao:
PlentyLV007 Posted April 28, 2006 Posted April 28, 2006 Believe it or not I gave up porn. I might be one of the few guys who spontaneously gave it up. It all seemed the same to me after a while and felt like a waste of time. I was literally getting too busy to keep watching it. Yeah, you can conclude I watched a lot in the past. :confused: :confused: You gave up porn.....(speechless) :confused:
Author MadDog Posted April 28, 2006 Author Posted April 28, 2006 Yeah, MadDog, that's exactly how it's going to go down (um, up;) I use the same "juicy steak" simile....hmmm, do you know me? It's true, though! That's what it's like. Who can only take one bite? Best to hold off serving any "steak" until it can be devoured. You can kiss and make out a bit in public. Like I said before, I only make out once or twice in private until I just don't want to control it anymore....It's fun to lose control at the right moment....but don't wait too long...frustration is no good, but sweet anticipation is very gooood... So, in the meantime, enjoy Mr. Right Hand and fantasize about her. I'm sure she's doing the same. When I finally get my steak, I'm going for all you can eat baby! She won't walk straight for a while. I hate it when other people make out in public so I won't subject the world to the same treatment. I'd probably go for it if I found a relatively secluded place though. You say don't wait too long but she's kinda the one setting the pace here. I'm totally at her mercy. Thanks for putting the idea of her fantasizing about me and masturbating in my head. That went a long way to relieving my frustrations.
Author MadDog Posted April 28, 2006 Author Posted April 28, 2006 Is that a turn off for you a large vagina!!??? :lmao: Or you mean Loose Vagina!!!??? I think the only thing that turns me off about a woman is when she has those loose lips....You know what I'm talking about...the cookie....when you go downtown...her vagina looks like it's going to swallow you in..... :lmao: Okay, I should have said loose vagina. Man, you're more on top of it than I am. There's a limit to how tight it should be though. I actually couldn't get into my ex the very first time we tried cause she was too tight. Even after I finally got in it was only like halfway. Even though we're not together anymore you could say I left my mark on her. Yes, the cookie. It looks much better when everything is nice and taut looking. Jesus I get the impression you've watched as much porn as I have.
nicki Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 Plenty, how could you get oral sex and not jump on him immediately after? There's no way I could have waited a day, or a minute...My boyfriend knows he better give it to me right after or I'm taking it anyway! Wow, you have good willpower. I couldn't go into the bedroom and engage in foreplay until I felt ready to do it ALL... MadDog, how many dates have you been on? No kiss, yet? You guys are lying around and cuddling, though, right? For me, this is backwards. I couldn't lie around and cuddle until AFTER the kiss. Even then, I could only last for one or two cuddle/make-out sessions before I had to have it all. Aw, kiss her already. I'm sure she wants it. Are you getting the signals?
CoNfUsEdF21 Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 Aww.. thats so sweet, its good to see you're respecting her feelings and everything. You're definately doing the right thing because when the emotional connection is there, sex is about 10 times better! I think that you're doing well and everyones suggestions are great - do all of the above!! Just have fun and concentrate on having fun, you'll enjoy spending time with her more if you're not trying to stop thinking about the sexual side of things. Just communicate with her
kitkat826 Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 With my current BF, we waited two weeks. I know two weeks doesn't seem like such a long time, but we literally hung out or went on a date 10 times in that 14 day period. It was hard, but I was able to maintain it by making sure no clothing came off during any makeout session before then. If he went for any "private" parts, I would playfully slap his hand away. I guess from some viewpoints, my actions could have been seen as "prude" or inexperienced in the way that I didn't let him touch ANYTHING during all those hours of hanging out. The reality is that I enjoy and am open to all types of sex, and have a rather high sex drive. When we did do it for the first time, it was great, and its been great ever since...some of the best sex I've ever had. I don't think waiting as we did "made" the relationship in any way, but it definitely enhanced the experience and strengthened our relationship in a good way in the beginning.
Vertex Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 How you guys can nibble at your tender, juicy, tantalizing steak without just tearing the motherf***er to shreds in a wild fury of passion and adrenaline is beyond me. Yeah I like steak.
nicki Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 "wild fury of passion and adrenaline." pretty passionate writing, Vertex! You are. Making me. Crave Steak. Now!
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