Guest Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 Is it possible for a man to not have sex for a few months at a time and not masterbate at all either? I have completely cut off my b/f from sex over the past 4 months. We are still together, but he has been mean and rude to me so there fore I with hold. Is it wrong that I do that? Sure it is, but its no more wrong than him being mean or rude to me. I have no feelings to be sexual with him right now, until he fixes his attitude problem. I have asked him sincehe wasn't getting any from me, if he was taking care of business himself by masterbating, and he tells me no he doesn't do that. Personally I find that hard to believe especailly as sexual of a person as he is.
JackJack Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 I will be blunt on your question. 1. Sure its possible. 2. Or he is lying about not masterbating. 3.Or he is getting it from somewhere else. Both of you need to communicate a little better on things. Tell him how him being mean to you makes you feel. So you all can hopefully get beyond him being mean and you feeling the need to cut him off.
catgirl1927 Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 If he's mean and rude all the time, why are you still with him?
BeFree Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 I really never agree with someone with holding sex from their partner. If this guy is not what you are looking for, with holding sex will not change that. He will not suddenly become a nice caring man because he wants the sex you will not give him. If you aren't happy then move on, don't play games.
tikigods Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 why are you guys together? Neither one of you seem mature enough to have a relationship
HokeyReligions Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Being mean and withholding are not a good foundation for a healthy relationship. It will only get worse the longer you are together. You are each attempting to control the other. Perhaps some couples counseling and/or individual counseling will help you both be better communicators. If not, then it sounds like the relationship is doomed to hurt and resentment. You both might be happier finding others that will be a better fit.
whichwayisup Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Two wrongs do not make a right! If he isn't meeting your needs, physically or emotionally I can understand you not wanting to have sex, but to purposely "withhold" isn't right either. You two need to talk about what the real problem is, fix it and go to couples therapy, or break up. If this continues like the vicious circle you're in now, things will only get worse and do alot of damage to BOTH of you.
Guest Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Two wrongs do not make a right! If he isn't meeting your needs, physically or emotionally I can understand you not wanting to have sex, but to purposely "withhold" isn't right either. You two need to talk about what the real problem is, fix it and go to couples therapy, or break up. If this continues like the vicious circle you're in now, things will only get worse and do alot of damage to BOTH of you. Thanks to all that replied. You all are right I shouldn't withhold it. I don't want to , but sometimes not sure what else to do when he is being mean. I had a long talk with him last night and we decided to break things off. I can't keep putting up with him treating me the way he does, and its not fair to him that I withhold. Hes verbally abusive to me. Says mean things, calls me names such as, dumbf*ck, b*tch, tells me I'm stupid etc. Then he wonders why I'm not in a loving mood to have sex with him. So I just told him its time to go our sperate ways. Of course hes telling me now he is sorry and that he will change etc. I have this feeling that after being together for almost 4 years, he probably wont. Thanks again.
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