How long is the love process?

[samsungxoxo]

I was wondering approximately how long does it really take to fall in love once you have become officially b/f and g/f. It's only been just two days since he's my b/f. And this my first relation by the way, so it's like a suprise to me, even I'm feeling weird, guess cuz that's completely new to me. Off course my parents don't know it, ain't telling them, and I'm 19 already, old enough to make my own decisions. And well I do find myself thinking about him, about the first kiss we had lat year and when we were making out but it's more like an infatuation, not love, I'm not in love. Or is it that I'll just have to wait a while and then I'll eventually fall in love.

[tikigods]

I think everyone is different you can be b/f and g/f without loving eachother, and I think lvoe comes over the course of several months as you two learn about eachother spend time together and grow together. I told my hubby I loved him about 3 or 4 months in and he told me aobut 2 months later that he felt the same (now four years later here we are).

[MadDog]

It's different for every relationship. It's good that you understand the difference between infatuation and love. Lots of people in their first relationship think they're the same but they're completely different.

 

I think you're in love with someone when you know all the significant things about them, the good and the bad, and you are happy being with them for who they are. Also, their happiness becomes the most important thing to you--you'll willingly put their happiness in front of your own. Finally, they make you happy and it's hard to imagine your life without them.

 

Developing all these feelings take time. I wouldn't worry too much about it and just take it day by day. Let nature take its course. Good luck.

[Fadi]

Hello, Ailec1987

 

A recent research study suggested that we could fall in love in eight minutes. Dr. Helen Fisher of Rutgers University says, "I think that you can fall in love with somebody in much less than eight minutes of conversation, but eight minutes will do. I think we are an animal that was built for love at first sight." Some personality types adore the "new love-chemistry high" and they fall in and out of love with happy abandon. Are you enamored with (addicted to) the experience? Hey, I am not criticizing-I think it is a fascinating hobby. However, if that is the case, you (and your partners) need to be aware that it is a hobby.

Since we are not perfect creatures, we were given a chemical to mask our new love interest's faults. Researcher Dr. Robert Friar assures us this is true: "Falling in love involves Phenylethylamine, or PEA, which causes a person to be less likely to be aware of the faults of the other person." Ask yourself, would you fall in love with someone who throws his underwear on the floor if you were not highly inebriated by amour? Serotonin and dopamine, two mood neurochemicals, create much of the decidedly pleasurable love intoxication that overwhelms us. Do people who fall in love rapidly and habitually have more of the "love" neurochemicals? We really don't know.

 

Falling in love is one of the most spectacular and utterly magnificent experiences that can befall a mere human. The symptoms are similar to some psychological disorders. One study indicated that subjects who had recently fallen in love had more in common (chemically) with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) subjects than subjects without OCD. Thus, our world is turned upside down and we are perfectly happy not knowing what we are doing, where we are, or even who we are. Other people cease to exist as far as Romeo and Juliet are concerned. We walk around with the silliest grin on our face, completely unaware it is there. Schoolwork suffers, careers suffer, and we couldn't care less. Life is good, the world is filled with bliss and we are in LOVE. Do you find that you say, "This is the real thing" frequently? Do your friends yawn because they have heard that before? Are you in love with love?

 

Regards