Robot Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 Hey ppl, I have dated a girl for 2 years. and I just broke up with her. I'd like to think that we were very much in love at least up to the last two weeks. Nontheless, it was a very civilised break off since we both (at least ME as the dumpee) understand that sometimes to love someone is to let them go. We cried hugged, thanked each other for the times and walked away. Its difficult, I am just starting to cope now, thanx to my family, friends, and this website!!. Anyway, got one last problem that I need suggestions for: We planned a 11-day Cruise in months. We both still actually like to go (discussed during the end of the breakup)! For three reasons: 1) We never been on a cruise, and agreed its kind of cool to go 2) We spent considerable money 3) Due to staff discount issue, if we cancel, then our friends cruise tickets have to be canceled also (which is a major dissappointment). Questions 1) What should I do? 2) If I go, how do I behave? We sleep in the same room! As of writing, I have not contacted her because I want to give her as much distance as I can. But the cruising is coming in 6 weeks, what the heck should I do? Jack
silentcharon Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 I had a similiar situation happen to me. I booked a weekend get away at a ski resort (which wasn't cheap!) for valentines day. I was going to surprise my boyfriend of 7 years- well, prior to the trip and before I could surprise him, he broke up with me. Since I didn't know anyone who liked to ski, I decided to tell him straight out that I had booked a trip for us. He agreed he'd go, he felt bad that I already spent the money for the trip, so he somewhat felt obligated to go. We ended up having a great time, and I don't regret the trip. You booked the trip to have fun, just as I did with this trip, so don't be afraid to go ahead and ask. I'm not sure how to answer your question regarding how to behave during the trip. I took it easy, and stayed away from asking any questions pertaining to the relationship, because the last thing I wanted to do was start a fight and we had to share a room for an entire weekend. Maybe you could do that?
roxy_1980 Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 If either one of you feel that you can't handle it, you may have to have someone buy out the other. Is the person who gets the discount one of you two? If so, the person who gets the discount is probably gonna have to find someone else to go with and buy out the other. If you do feel that you can handle the situation, be civil and have fun with those friends. As for the sleeping arrangement, order a cot and take turns being the one that has to sleep on it. If they have cots on cruise, I don't know, I've never been.
robot Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 I had a long think about this, and my decision is not to go on the cruise. I'm going to give the place to her mother as a present. And as for my friends, I told them my situation, and offered to either still go ahead by themselves or get a full refund. For future references, I think being on the holiday together is always awkard for any exes. Especially on a boat, there is no place to hide, there is no where to sleep except in the same room as your ex. We ain't certainly not going to jump off the ship! We just broke up, so it might be really stressful for both of us to act "easy-going" for 11 days. I still care for her so much therefore I don't want her to go through the pain. At this point of time, I'd prefer to have discussions with my ex on land, not on water. In addition, our mates will also not enjoy their holiday because its simply not fair for them. Thank you for the comments. I'm glad that I found the solution. My healing process is fully going now. Jack
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