missinhim Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 Ok so here is my story... He was 18 at the time and I was 19. I had moved in with him a month after we started dating, then when we were together for 4 months i ended up getting pregnant. After that shock and deciding to keep the baby I thought I'd lose him. He never left till now.. see I moved out when I was pregnant, I had been 2 hours away from my family and at that time i wanted to be near my mom for it, it seemed like that actually was a good idea.(that was in jan of 05) Ever since having our baby I have not in many ways been the person I was before. I know about the hormone change and I know alot of it was that. Ever since having our baby we've been fighting, sometimes it was just every day or every week. Since then our relationship hasn't been what it was before. He's told me he loves me this whole time and I thought he did. We had talked about moving to w.virginia and he's talked a bit about us having a business etc. well anyways the other day he was talking about going there alot sooner then planned, but he didnt mention at all of us going with him anymore. So i tried to find out what was going on. Well I finally found out, he's been for the last year and ahalf trying to tell me that he doesnt think of me as more then a best friend. He cares about me alot but he doesnt love me like I want him to or as much as I want him to. Now the thing is that if that was the case and really was then why even if its so hard to tell me would he have stayed so long? He's afraid of committment and love scares him which makes me think that he is just scared even more. Keep in mind that we've been living 2 hours apart since I got pregnant, in the beginning of the relationship we were together all the time. Since having our baby we have basically never been alone and I really think thats something we should've done. What my question is that i don't know what to do, he wants a break at least and time to figure things out and figure out what he wants. I'm so scared because I know he is the one, I just know it. I know he doesnt want to hurt me anymore then he has but I can't just let him go. I can't give up on us, we never focused on our relationship after becoming pregnant. What do I do?
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