Angeleyez2583 Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 Ok someone help me figure this one out. The guy I'm dating got mad at me. He wants to go camping with me this weekend. I told him I'd come down one day this weekend.... WELLLLL.... My friends whom are graduating from college and I've been friends with for over 4 years are leaving for good. I want to spend time with them because I may never see them again before they leave in 2-3 weeks. I explained this to him and he got MAD. He wants me to go camping with him for 2 days instead of one. So he got mad, hung up the phone with me, and sent me a text saying "we need a break" just because I can't spend as much time with him as he'd like.. so he gets all mad at me...(we've only been together for 2 months) i feel like I'm in hs again... am I in the wrong?
Author Angeleyez2583 Posted April 25, 2006 Author Posted April 25, 2006 btw.. he never once said he wanted me to come down for the whole weekend
MadDog Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 Whoa. This is a huge red flag. Talk about being selfish and being completely unable to put himself in your shoes. To top it off, he's controlling and manipulative (e.g. getting mad and hanging up on you). If you're only two months in and he's acting like this, just imagine how he'll be a year or two down the line. I would take him up on his offer and take a break, the permanent kind. Run away as fast as possible. Best case scenario, you're dealing with an immature tool. Worse case scenario, you're dealing with a complete psycho (think "Sleeping With the Enemy.")
Guest Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 Hello, Angeleyez2583 You didn’t mention anything about your 2 month relations and how it was going with him?? You should at least brief us with little information about his feeling towards you and your feelings towards him. With that information we can put our finger on the problem to judge who is wrong Regards
fadi20 Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 Hello, Angeleyez2583 You didn’t mention anything about your 2 month relations and how it was going with him. You should at least brief us with little information about his feeling towards you and your feelings towards him. With that information we can put our finger on the problem to judge who is wrong Regards
catgirl1927 Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 What a brat. I agree with MD that it's a huge red flag. Sure, there could be more to the story, but based on what you've posted here he sounds a little childish. It sounds very like HS. I say give him his "break." Screw that. What a pain. Surely there is more to the story than just this.
Yamaha Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 Yes. He is very selfish and not a good sign in a b/f. I would sit down and explain it to him and if he can't see he's being selfish then it might be time to reconsider your relationship.
Toni_no12002 Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 If this guy has been dating you for a short time i can understand why hes being like this even though he shouldnt.He would want you all to himself but otherwise its unfair.If you have been dating a while he should understand!How long have you been going out for?
Walk Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 How long prior to this had he been talking about going camping this weekend? Is it normally implied that you would do things with him, or does he normally "invite" you if he wants you along? Did you know about the graduation prior to the phone conversation? If so, did you tell him about it before this conversation and what your plans were that weekend? Did he know about it before this? In my experience, guys normally will talk about a camping trip weeks prior to going on one. I think that's half the fun for them. Anyway, he may have assumed you were going to go and that's why he didn't specifically invite you. Especially if you never mentioned having other plans at any point up until that conversation. So both of you may have been assuming very different things. Him - that you were going camping with him all weekend, you - that you weren't invited and free to make other plans. Yes he's a jerk for blowing up, but if he had assumed you were going and didn't know of the graduation, or didn't know it was that weekend, then he may see this as a last minute and blowing him off. In which he'd be valid in being upset, but not to the degree he was. On the other hand, if both of you are thinking of taking a break this early into a relationship, it doesn't really lead me to feel you two are "head over heels" for each other. (2 months should still be the honeymoon stage) So it might be best to cut your losses now and move on.
aleatoryd Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 I guess it depends on whether he had any special plans arranged for the weekend - romantic or potentially bad intentions. Who can say. I like camping and have loads of pro gear for extreme conditions. I can't say I'd make a big deal if all I had planned was a camping trip and something like your situation came back. Camping trips can be moved and he's a jerk for not understanding your position. If you've only been together 2 months I think that taking a break means because you haven't done what he wants you are in the doghouse. This is a bad sign because the guy may be the controlling type. Certainly he has maturity issues. I also agree with MadDog and Walk they make sensible points. You can understand part of your b/f position if he's upset and miscommunication and all that but really give the way he reacted can you see a long term future with him? If you can well good luck, but whatever you decide to do it'd be good to talk it through with him. That way you can understand where he is coming from and you'll be able to tell if he's worth a second chance or you can do better. Good luck.
mental_traveller Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 Immature, rude, selfish, demanding...why are you with this guy exactly?
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