Ex says she misses me (sorry for double post)

[jimeny]

Ok basically my Ex came back and after 5 months of NC we saw each other out but we didnt get a chance to speak. She then later in the evening texts me saying, "hope i had a nice time out and also said that she heard that me and one of my friends were now seeing each other and said why didnt i tell her that i was seeing her! But then im not seeing this girl as we are just friends and never be anymore. But i dont know why she wants me to tell her if i end up seeing someone, as she didnt tell me when she was seeing somone a friend just knew and told me.

 

So i say that i wasnt seeing her and how she manage to hear that and said that i was sorry that i didnt get a chance to speak to her that night as i was catching up with other university friends.

 

She then replied saying thats alrite it was a hectic night catching up with people. no matter what any of my friends said to her that i would never stop caring, which im kind of guessing me caring for her but my friends tell her that they think i dont, but of course i do still so i said to her, why would i stop caring thats stupid.

The next day she then phones me during the day and we talk on the phone for 2 hours catching up and having a nice chat to each other and it was realy nice to get along with her again.

I then recieve a text later in the evening from her saying that it was realy nice to speak to me again and hoped i was having nice evening.....but at the end of it she puts, " you know im still missing you loads"...

That last part has completly thrown me, we went out for about 7 months and had a great time together and ended because she had to go to university. She met someone at university and has been with them for a couple of months now, so i dont understand why she has to feel the need to come and say this to me when she knows im single and she is with someone. It has put me into a place where that im thinking about her again alot more frequently and missing her alot again. I was missing her still before she said this but it resurfaced it all again.

 

 

What do you think it means her saying this, or what do you think i should do?

 

sorry for a double post, log in didnt work first time

[clynn]

Well, just because she is dating someone doesn't mean that she doesn't still have feelings for you. In fact, she may just be trying to move on with someone new, but seeing you and talking with you made her realize that perhaps the two of you are more compatible?

 

It doesn't sound as though your relationship ended on bad terms or because of any incompatibility issues, but more because of bad timing.....is that right?

 

Is there a chance of reconciliation, if she was single? Or does she live a long way away or something?

[jimeny]

We didnt realy end on bad terms, she was away for a summer job and she said that she was finding it hard not seeing me and that it would be the same at university. We talked about it and couldnt find a way for it to work so decided that spliting would be best, which was fine as i wanted her to go and settle at university without the burden of me.

We kept in contact for a bit at first when she went to university with texting a calling. She once randomly text saying that she still missed me. But after that happened contact died between us and i didnt realy know why, until she was back and i found out she was with someone else.

 

Then she came home and when we met up she said she still missed me and this is when she was seeing this new guy, but then she didnt want to get back together as she didnt want to take the risk as there was a chance it wouldnt work and also because she wasnt single anymore

So i just said NC would be best for now then so i can start to move on.

 

So we didnt speak and then this time she came back was first time and then all what i said in the other post happened...

[clynn]

I think you should tell her how you feel. Tell her that you also miss her. And let her know that her expression of feelings in this way is confusing for you.