dlshaffer Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 Hi all, I need some advice So I met this guy who is really hot and when we started talking he said he really liked my personality and really thinks I have a good head on my shoulders. He and I are both divorced he has 2 children I have non but had a step-child when I was married. He says that he is ready to get into a realationship and has told me things like he wears his heart on his sleeve and wonders if he can really find a girl who really understands him. His job is demanding because he is a cop for the federal goverment, however he said is kids come first then his utter happiness. Now I know he worked this weekend and the last time I spoke with him was Wed. the 19 of April. He asked if he could call me on Thursday and I said of course you can you don't have to ask. I haven't heard from him since. we fooled around but never slept together. So I was brave and just called him this morning - didn't call all weekend-he answered and said he was very busy and i said ok I'll let you call when your not busy. he said ok and thanks for understanding. So now I'm confused HELP!!!
Lishy Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 Stop panicking!!!!!!!!!!!!! Dont call him again, if anything send a text asking HIM to call YOU when he is not too busy. If he is interested he will make time to call you. But in the mean time ask if you could deal with a guy who is too busy to call regularly. Do you need more attention than he can offer?
prfrogkisser Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 dlshaffer no man is too busy if he truly likes you. Wouldnt you want to be the one he thinks of after a hard day at work? I understand women crave time and attention but please arent we good enough for one damn phone call? I dont accept excuses and actions speak louder than words. I truly believe when a man is into you you will be the voice that brightens his day:love: .
Walk Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 Back off and wait. You let him know you'd like to hear from him.. it's still very early in the relationship to begin making demands of his time. I think he was attempting to tell you earlier that he wouldn't have much time for a relationship. Stating his job demands a lot, then his kids, and then anything else. At this point, you fall third. Nothing against you, but he has his priorities already set at this point. Any fits of temper, or demands aren't going to change that. Over time this may change, but it's a good time to evaluate how little time you are willing to live with, what would make you happy, or how much affection/attention from a SO you desire in a relationship. This may not be the man for you. Don't get caught in that trap of ego where you're attention is focused on getting his. Take a step back and decide if that really is the best course of action for you and what you want out of life.
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