Zeppelin456 Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 Okay, I have a somewhat petty issue at the moment but it's bugging me so I'm gonna type it out. It's a somewhat random story so read it if you want. Basically, I got dumped by girlfriend of 2 years back in December. It was painful, yadda yadda, I'm still working on getting over it/not thinking about her/etc. Now here's my current problem: I'm an amateur recording engineer and before the breakup, I'd been recording my friend Spencer; we'd been working on getting enough songs to put together an album for him. After the breakup, I threw myself into the project differently than before, really working many hours on it to distract myself and to convince myself that I was worthwhile at doing SOMETHING even if ex-girlfriend maybe didn't think so. Anyways, I've gotten very very involved in this project and that's been a great thing, something that's really held me together. We've been nearing the end of tracking for the 11 songs that would be on the album and Spencer was talking about possible cover art. My ex-girlfriend is an artist. For some stupid reason, I decided that she should do the cover art. Now, it one light, maybe it makes sense. She is a great artist and she's made me album covers in the past (even when I didn't have albums to put out!) and they were great. Thinking this much, I called her (essentially breaking NC for something that I considered 'business') and left her a message telling her we were interested in having her do the cover art. She called back and left a message as well, and at this point, I got upset hearing her voice, so I just put her in contact with Spencer via email. They worked out what he was looking for and that was that. A few days later, I began to get doubts though. Why should I pick THIS one artist, out of the millions? Why should I give my ex-girlfriend the satisfaction of doing this project? Why was I helping her out? Would it upset me to look at the cover of this album that I'd worked so hard on producing simply because my ex girlfriend's style would be all over it? It became too much to think about, so I told Spencer that I'd rather him not use my ex's cover. He emailed her and that was that. Last night, I found out through a mutual friend that my ex had spent a good deal of time working on preparing a cover and was disappointed. APparently, she feels like she was "left out to dry" by us, since we asked her for something and then suddenly cancelled. All of this upsets me. But then I think, why should I feel bad for her? She feels left out to dry? I 've felt alot worse! I tell myself I shoulnd't feel bad for her, but I do a little bit. I'm tempted to email and apologize for the confusion...but I don't reallye know. All of this is really upsetting me and I don't know what to do.
KittenMoon Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 Well, you mixed business and pleasure (or in this case DISpleasure) and now you know better. Chalk this up to life experience. If you have to say something, not to her but to your mutual friend, casually mention it wasn't the direction you wanted to go in for the cover and you guys wanted to explore other options. All business.
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