tattooedfirebird Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 Ok, I need some advice here. Here is the situation: Been on 2 dates with this woman. Both dates were amazing.....we both had great times. Lots of touching, kissing, making out, etc, etc. Good conversation too. We seem like a great match. In between the first and second dates we talked everyday on the phone. After the second date which was a Saturday night/Sunday afternoon thing, we talked everyday the following week up until Thursday. I called her Thursday evening to see how her day went and she told me she would call me back. It's been 4 days and I haven't heard anything. I e-mailed her on Satuday to say hi and she replied back saying hello. So I broke down and called her last night and left her a voice mail saying it's wierd I haven't heard from you in 3 days and for her to call me back and let me know what's going on. I usually give a woman once chance if they say they will call me back and they don't. I'll call her once and if she doesn't return my call, I'll blow her off. Anyone have suggestions on this one? Everything seemed to be going so well and she seemed really interested and then this bomb drops. Any feedback would be much appreciated! Thanks!
MadDog Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 It seems like she's blowing you off before you had the chance to blow her off. She stopped calling for any number of reasons (e.g. she got back with an ex, is emotionally unstable, was looking for a quick fling, etc.) I'd pretty much forget about her at this point and look elsewhere.
everybody_chill Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 I have been in the same situation more than once. I really don't have a reason to give you, and I don't think you may ever find the reason. This is what happened to me once, except it was more like 2 weeks. To me, if she does not call she is doing it consciously. I was with this girl, had good times. Then one evening when we were supposed to meet up, I call her and we got disconencted..... tried to call her back like 5 times and now answer. Next day she told me she had a mental break down and I had to pry that out of her. Later on I found out she was trying to dig dirt on me with this guy I barely knew (of course he wanted her). So he told her every bad thing he could of. Just another possibility. Some girls are very flaky and will flake out over the smallest issue. Other times they have boyfriends, soemtimes they are just out for fun. I would not call her. Let her call you and enjoy the flaky excuse she gives you for not calling:)
gfto Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 In between the first and second dates we talked everyday on the phone. After the second date which was a Saturday night/Sunday afternoon thing, we talked everyday the following week up until Thursday. HUGE mistake. The phone is strictly for making dates; not chit-chat. Call, make the date, then get off the phone, and don't talk to her until the actual date. You have to be a challenge. You were anything but with this girl, and it lowered her interest level (if it was ever high to begin with). This has happened to me too. A handful of great dates, and then she disappears. It was primarily because I wasn't being a challenge and/or the girl just had a lousy attitude or was a professional dater. As for this girl, sorry to say it, but her interest level in you is about zero. Don't analyze it or look for reasons. She just doesn't dig you. Case closed. Forget about her and move on!
My_Other_I Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 HUGE mistake. The phone is strictly for making dates; not chit-chat. Call, make the date, then get off the phone, and don't talk to her until the actual date. You have to be a challenge. You were anything but with this girl, and it lowered her interest level (if it was ever high to begin with). EXACTLY! People have lives that are not to be wasted on the phone. She's not interested. Don't call, don't think about it, just forget it.
Art_Critic Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Both dates were amazing.....we both had great times. It doesn't seem that she feels the same way.. Another she isn't interested to throw on the pile
My_Other_I Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Just wanted to add that I just did the same thing to a guy. We went on 2 dates, it was fun, but the second time around he started to be a bit too clingy, demanding and controling. He kept calling after I said I was busy and then play the 'poor me you never call me back' game. Deal breaker. Not interested in another daddy who won't let me do my own things.
Noos Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 Too full on, too fast. Delete her number from your mobile - she isn't into you (and that's not your problem - it's her problem).
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