sunnie23 Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 ok here's a question, my boyfriend has had the same circle of friends since they were kids, and it's a pretty big crowd of about 10 or so. when they go out drinking, they always act gay towards each other. they joke about it, simulate sexual acts on each other, grab each other's balls, etc. most of them have girlfriends and they all talk about porn and sex constantly also. when he's with me, he doesn't act like this at all, except to make fun of how they are together. and i don't go out with him on his guy nights and have only seen this stuff for myself a few times when i have tagged along. i usually just tease him about it but lately i'm wondering if i'm missing something. i don't want to end up in a brokeback situation here, but then a lot of my friends tell me this is normal, and i do have my own guy friends who act this way...but then i don't know. where are the limits on this kind of behaviour? am i missing something, or is it ok to have the attitude of laughing it off?
Sleeps w/Butterflies Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 It seems harmless to me. Also how old is your BF? I have two older brothers that are not gay but they joke around about it and so does my bf and his friends to me its nothing. I dont see anything wrong with it, its just guys being silly. Perhaps you might want to get a guys perspective but I don't see this behavior as threatening. Have you taken notice to your bf watching gay porn or surfacing the web for gay porn? The answer is most likely no which means there is no serious threat here.
Ranyamellon Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 no real need to worry i'd say. my bf does this all the time with his suitemates. if he continues after graduating from college, then i might start worrying
TheSwordfish Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 The guy is completely gay and he probably loves George Michael and the pet Shop Boys (but not their music)...... Don't worry about this. I am heterosexual as can be, My male friends are heteroseksuals as well. But soemtiems we joke about things like that. If its playfull, funny, behaviour there's no need to be worried. It would be more bothersome if he wouldn't be acting like that in public but if he hangs out in mens lavatory's without you knowing it.
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