Trying to Move on

[ATrain]

It's been 2 months since my breakup and there hasn't been any contact. I'm having a real hard time moving on. I still dream about he ex, still miss our "routines" and worst of all I have no interest in dating right now. We were together for a year so in reality it wasn't that long but I'm just torturing myself with thoughts about her. She lied to me countless times so you would think that I would be happy she is out my life but I'm not. I've been making an effort to keep busy but I just can't get her out my head. Are any of you going through the same thing?

[BBetsy]

yes, definitely. I think about him constantly, even when I'm TALKING about something else, the back of my mind is thinking about him.

 

Honestly, I never wanted to go out with anyone else ever again, but it really helps to get out there and meet some people and maybe even have some fun. It will give you something else to think about, even if just for a few minutes at a time. And is a step in the direction of "moving on".

 

I know part of you wants to be alone forever, or die, (me, too) but really you don't want either of those things... (me, neither!)

 

The first couple of times I went out was right after we broke up and I was so miserable without him I would start crying. So I sat home for almost three months before trying again and it was better. I met a couple of girl-friends out and actually ran into a guy I met a while back and had a good time. Of course, I was still thinking about *HIM* a lot, wishing he were with me instead, and hoping word got back to him that I was out with another guy, etc., but I never mentioned it to the new guy.

 

Everyone's time frame is different, but you should be about there...?

 

-BB

[witabix]

Keep focussing on the reasons why you broke up. You said she lied constantly.

 

You will find it easier as time goes by. (Big cliche, but true)

 

It is ok not to want to date for a while. Just give it time.

 

Have a rant on LS, usually helps me.....

 

Keep smiling, peace!