XMizer Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 Did she reject me? Me and this shy girl had dinner. Afterwards, I walked back to her place. I said to her, "you probably know this but I like you". She looked down and smiled and said I didn't know. She also said nothing afterwards....I didn't want to press on for a definite answer, so I just good bye and left after that. I wasn't going to tell her how I felt but I won't be seeing her for at least a few months. Did she reject me? I sent her a birthday card yesterday. She told me over e-mail she really liked it because we coiuldn't meet in person. It's been a week since I told her I liked her. Isn't it safe for me to assume she rejected me now? The shock from me telling her is gone and she hasn't said I liked you or anything.
ddnnee Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 ya probably u got rejected. From what i read TONS here and real life: if a girl likes you, she will persue you. don't worry, she's not the only girl out there. Plenty of girls in 3rd world countries are just waiting to be picked.
phyrespryte Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 Um have you tried to talk to her since? Have you asked her out again? Why does she have to say she likes you back? It's not like you asked her if she felt the same. And I don't think that you should ask her that. Just ask her out again. If she says no or makes up some excuse that she's not available without offering another time...then you can assume she's not interested.
Adunaphel Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 Don't assume you have been rejected. She might like you, she might not. Phyrespryte gave you great advice.
erika2610 Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 ya probably u got rejected. From what i read TONS here and real life: if a girl likes you, she will persue you. don't worry, she's not the only girl out there. Plenty of girls in 3rd world countries are just waiting to be picked. I wouldn't automatically assume he got rejected. There are girls out there who don't persue guys.. especially shy girls.
ddnnee Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 erika: yea but even shy girls will take a step if she actually were interested. Besides, with the OP, at that present point in dating, she should not be as shy anymore. If she were a complete stranger to the OP, then it would make sense. However, we see that the OP has taken her out for a dinner AND revealed his feelings for her. All she has to do is say "i like you too" or "i do not". of course, being a shy girl, she may be too shy to say "i just want to be friends". The shyness should be less than before the dinner. "I sent her a birthday card yesterday. She told me over e-mail she really liked it because we coiuldn't meet in person." Notice that she liked "it", referring to the birthday card, and she did not say "i really like you". Girls really have the meanest tricks up their sleeves to play with guys. I swear that the girls i have interviewed take a great delight in toying with guy's feelings. One of the 3 girls who admit to this behavior said she is addicted to it and cannot stop. oh ya, i live in southern california by the way... maybe girls here are just whacked from all the LA smog.
ddnnee Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 oh ya, to add a story for comparison. I ALSO did the samething the OP did. Last few years ago i liked this girl a lot. I took her out at night for drinks, about 3 times (I paid of course and I drove all three times). She seems shy too. after a few times, i TOO said i liked her. she was silent and said nothing, just smiled and i greeted her goodnight. I went home that night and went on AIM and I chatted with her. Before, she would respond to my msgs within 10 seconds. But after that night, she does not respond for at least 60 seconds. Then after a while she totally ignored me. Then it turn to NC. SO if there's anything, the OPs situation MAY be similar =). we on da same boat yo! real story.
erika2610 Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 erika: yea but even shy girls will take a step if she actually were interested. Besides, with the OP, at that present point in dating, she should not be as shy anymore. If she were a complete stranger to the OP, then it would make sense. However, we see that the OP has taken her out for a dinner AND revealed his feelings for her. All she has to do is say "i like you too" or "i do not". of course, being a shy girl, she may be too shy to say "i just want to be friends". The shyness should be less than before the dinner. "I sent her a birthday card yesterday. She told me over e-mail she really liked it because we coiuldn't meet in person." Notice that she liked "it", referring to the birthday card, and she did not say "i really like you". Girls really have the meanest tricks up their sleeves to play with guys. I swear that the girls i have interviewed take a great delight in toying with guy's feelings. One of the 3 girls who admit to this behavior said she is addicted to it and cannot stop. oh ya, i live in southern california by the way... maybe girls here are just whacked from all the LA smog. Dude.. they went on ONE date. What do you mean 'at the present point of dating'? It's not like they've been dating for weeks.. I don't see anywhere that she's playing with him. Sometimes it takes people a bit before they start opening up to people. maybe she's just not comforatble enough yet to say 'I like you too'. I dunno. But OP, I agree with the poster that said to just ask her out again and see what she says.
ddnnee Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 maybe im too pessimistic and just to cautious. I just learn too much from this website about how girls act. anyway, ya, just ask her out again.
TheSwordfish Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 Girls are indirect, guys are direct. A girl will say, I loved your card, but never (when starting with dating someone) I like you a lot. instead she will give all kinds of signs to show she's interested. She will not, directly say things like that. Girls will play games, to see how you handle things. The MSN part could be explained in various ways: A.She didn't like you that much during the date and broke contact. B.She likes you but wanted to see if you would be able to deliver after teling her how you felt. C.She is completely confused, and doesn't want a relationship, because it would ruin her perfectly planned life (this actually is a problem with certain girls) The being friends bit always comes at the moment someone decided you aren't as good a partner as she thought. Coudl happen after one date, after sex, after a few dates or after years. My motto is: You want to be my friend? Make sure you get a moustache, fart a lot and be an a**h*** like me. (Have lots of girls that hate me nowadays though )
everybody_chill Posted April 25, 2006 Posted April 25, 2006 I really find this thread interesting. I will try my best to give you honset advice from my own experiences. There could really be a million reasons for her behavior. So what you have to decide if it is worth the effort for you to find out the answers with her. Some possible reasons are: 1) She has a boyfriend 2) She is just really shy 3) She is insecure 4) She got messed up by her ex 5) She is having a mental breakdown 6) She is immature and the list goes on and on... you get the idea I have found it pointless to even think about why a girl acts strange because it's like thinking in circles. All you got it to be upfront and direct with her and find out. You may like the outcome you might not.
Author XMizer Posted April 25, 2006 Author Posted April 25, 2006 Well she did break up with her bf in February. Early January, her bf confessed to her that he cheated on her. She was devastated by this but they still remained bf and gf but they broke up soon after. But she said they are still good friends but she still flew to his town (they were in a long-distance relationship) during Spring Break.
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