robsdeli Posted April 23, 2006 Posted April 23, 2006 Here's the deal. I'm a guy who has had many friends of both genders his entire life. Two of my best friends, and neighbors, happen to be girls. Both of whom I have liked in the past but any of those feelings have been long gone since I began dating the girl who is now my current fiancee. The problem is that she knows I used to like them and has always been a little wary of them. I guess she was a little jealous but it kicked into overdrive when I was home, away from my fiancee (gf at the time), and went to a line dancing club with the girls as well as some other friends of mine (guys too). A slow song had come on and for fun my friend Melissa and I danced, just as friends of course, and had a laugh about it later. This behavior is normal amongst any of us though and I feel it's just a dance. Also, we were all doing goofy poses and one of the poses had me being kissed on the cheek by my friends Steph and Jen. Like I said, this behavior is normal for any of us and means nothing although now I see that the behavior there might have upset my gf a little. When I explained about the dancing and the pictures my gf flipped out and we almost broke up. It is now months later and I have put it all behind me and have reminder her several times that I realize it hurt her and I would never do something like that again. Lately she has been thinking more and more about them and it has gotten to the point where she finds herself having dreams about my friends and crying at random times. I tell her that once she meets them, it will all be okay but she is afraid of what she might see. I don't know what to do to get through to her and I don't know what others would say about my past actions. Please, help me.
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