Big_A Posted April 22, 2006 Posted April 22, 2006 She came home and gave me a hug and a kiss. She said she still wants to be friends. She was so sweet and nice and I love her so much that I just couldn't throw her out. We dated for three years before she met someone else. In that time this is the only thing she's ever done that I can point to as bad. I know it is stifling my recovery to say that I forgive her, but we’re both good people in a bad situation. I still feel like she’s my best friend and that I should support her in her decisions. Normally I have my head screwed on tighter then this.
Rosalind Posted April 22, 2006 Posted April 22, 2006 Normally I have my head screwed on tighter then this. I hope so. She lied and cheated on you, right?...is this the type of friend you want?
RecordProducer Posted April 23, 2006 Posted April 23, 2006 She came home and gave me a hug and a kiss. She said she still wants to be friends. She said "friends", not an item. We dated for three years before she met someone else. In that time this is the only thing she's ever done that I can point to as bad. One, but big. She met someone else and left you for him. Accept the reality, get over, and move on. It happens to millions of people every day. Don't hold on to something that you don't have. She is not the only one. And if you are a good person, you'll find a girl that will love you forever and not leave you.
Curmudgeon Posted April 23, 2006 Posted April 23, 2006 But you do have something to point to and it's over. You have to accept it and get on with your life without her. It isn't easy!
Author Big_A Posted April 23, 2006 Author Posted April 23, 2006 I know... I know... I'm a tool. I did confront her and tell her that she needs to deal with getting her belongings out. She cried a lot and I told her that she needed to go and figure out what she wants. Not that it matters, because you're all right, I have to move on with my own life. I figured posting that would get some people fired up and I needed that backbone. Thanks.
lovelorcet Posted April 23, 2006 Posted April 23, 2006 Don't worry too much man, I wish I had the balls to have given mine a swift kick in the ass out the door a few months ago. Oh well, I have learned my lesson and you will learn yours as well I hope.
RecordProducer Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 I did confront her and tell her that she needs to deal with getting her belongings out. She cried a lot and I told her that she needed to go and figure out what she wants. Not that it matters, because you're all right, I have to move on with my own life. I figured posting that would get some people fired up and I needed that backbone. Thanks.The thing that gives us most pain in break-ups is that while the dumper has realized they want out of the relationship long before they informed us about it, we can't accept it's over for a long, long time after we start sleeping alone. We hear bulls***, love statements, excuses, see tears, go back to memories, their emails, and whatnot... But the only healthy thing is to repeat yourself every day that IT'S OVER. It's over, it's over, it's over... Because it IS over and there's nothing you can do. You didn't make any mistake that you could possibly correct. Perhaps you were not perfect, but that's not why she left you. I am sorry, but you'll get over it. Everyone else has.
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