candykisses Posted April 22, 2006 Posted April 22, 2006 I am really into this guy at work, the thing is he is a manager and until recently he was working a different shift from me. He is now working my shift, which makes me happy but.. I want to find out if he does like me. I get the feeling he does and the signs are there that he feels the same but not so sure. Some of the signs are that he will do anything that I ask of him, he is more attentative towards me than any of the other people on our shift and when he is talking to everyone he will always make eye contact with me the most. I take my break in an office where the managers go and do some paper work or whatever they need to do, for the most part they spend maybe 45 minutes or so a day there so it is quiet during the day. Well anyway, last week I was in there and he came in and did some paper work and stayed the entire time I was there. I had turned to light off so I could maybe try to get a couple of winks in before the start of the rest of my day and I asked him if he wanted to turn the light on and he said no but as soon as I left he turned on the light and only stayed for a few more moments. So later that day he needed someone to stay a few hours extra to help out and he asked me to stay, I told him I could stay a few extra hours and he said "you can stay until 8, I am here until 8" now he didn't ask anyone else to stay that has been with the company longer than me, which by co policy he is suppose to. So on my second break he did the same thing came in there to do some paperwork, which he did not work on the entire time during the day which he could have done. The other day I was in the office while he was doing something on the computer and I put my head down and he said to me that I could turn of the lights and I told him that I didn't want to hurt his eyes and he said I will turn off the lights, which he did. There is another girl that I work with and she has made a comment to me that he has a crush on me, just be the way he always wants to be around me and the way he looks at me. Yesterday, he told me his schedule for next week, I didn't ask him he just came out and told me, but he didn't tell anyone else. I don't know if he was trying to get a reaction out of me or not. I have become a little more touchy towards him, to let him know that I like him. He knows someone has a crush on him, he continues to ask a friend of mine who it is. I think he may have figured it out but not sure. The other day he walked over to me and he was starring at me and I said "what" and he said "nothing" and gave a very small grin but then he got called away. What was that about? I don't know if he is just being nice or if he truly does have a crush on me? Anybody have any advice or thoughts?
Rosalind Posted April 22, 2006 Posted April 22, 2006 never get involved with a co-worker...especially a manager.
SuperMonk Posted April 22, 2006 Posted April 22, 2006 I would only get involved with a person at work if knowingly the person or me plans to leave within 1-2 months after the beginning of the relationship. If it's an expendable job like you're at Mcdonalds or doing retail sales, go for it. But plan to ditch out within a month or two. Which is somethign you should do in those type of jobs.
mental_traveller Posted April 23, 2006 Posted April 23, 2006 Another vote for not swapping bodily fluids with co-workers. But if you insist, why don't you just ask the guy? Wait till there's a bit of an awkward silence and he's looking at you that way, then move closer, look into his eyes and say "So, are you going to make a move on me or what?"
Spank'n'Rationality Posted April 23, 2006 Posted April 23, 2006 Another vote for not swapping bodily fluids with co-workers. But if you insist, why don't you just ask the guy? Wait till there's a bit of an awkward silence and he's looking at you that way, then move closer, look into his eyes and say "So, are you going to make a move on me or what?" Aww, that got me all hot-and-bothered just reading it... Anywho, I guess I'll play devil's advocate, and suggest that you go for it. I mean, if this is your career and your livelyhood depends on it, then I would suggest thinking twice about dating a co-worker, let alone a superior. However, if this is just a job that doesn't really mean much to you, what have you got to lose? I mean, other than your ego if he says he doesn't feel the same way. I have a thing for my boss as well, but seeing as how my livelyhood depends on this job, I supress my feelings; though we both have our moments of harmless-flirting, but I digress .
Noos Posted April 23, 2006 Posted April 23, 2006 Don't dip your pen in the company ink. I think some workplaces actaully have rules about this now. It is distracting for both of you and if it ends, it ends bitterly for one of you and you can't escape the other person.
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