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So I am here waiting for my friend to call, since we agreed that he, my other friend, and I would hit the beach this afternoon since it's so hot, right?

 

Ok.

 

My phone rings and I just flipped it open without even looking at the caller ID, since I was so sure it was my friend. I said a merry "Hello!" and to that I got:

 

"Hey, what's going on at your house?!"

"Huh?"

"What's going on at your house! Where are your parents?"

 

Finally it hit me--it's the exbf.

 

"Oh, uhm . . . what are you talking about?

"Don't ask me what I'm talking about; you know what I'm talking about. What's going on? Where are they?"

 

So, what happened? Due to some unfortunate events happening here at home, my parents decided *we* are moving to Florida. Why allll the way over there only god knows. They left this morning to "scope" the area--to look for a house, namely.

 

I had told him mom what was going on because apparently my friend let it "slip." She asked me what was up, and I told her everything. I asked her to please not tell him, and she said she wouldn't.

 

This morning I called her because she has asked me to, and she proptly asked me what was going on with my parents. I told her the truth. She told me that if worst came to worst, to not go, and that if I needed a place to stay, I was more than welcomed at her house.

 

Uh . . .

 

Anyways, that was that.

 

So I was sitting here and he calls, without a hey, how are you?--just straight to the point. He actually sounded kinda angry that I was leaving. I told him it wasn't for sure, and he told me not to go. To that I just said, "Well, it's really not up to me," and he said "of course it is." So I kindly reminded him that I don't have a job or anyone to stay with. He said: "You can stay here with us."

 

Wtf?! I told him, "Uh, yeah. I don't think you'd want me there," and he said, "Yes, you're my friend," so I chuckled and said, "Thanks, but no."

 

He kept saying that yes, I could stay there and telling me to not go. He said he had to go because he had to go to work, but that he would call me later. I stupidly asked him when he would be home, he said 9 pm, and said, "Oh, nevermind." Of course he asked me what I was going to say, so I told him I was just going to ask if I could swing by, but that it was too late. He said it wasn't and told me to go . . . I said no, he said yes, I said no, he said yes, until he said: "Yeah, yeah, come. You shouldn't be by yourself. Wait for me here, okay? Please." I kept saying no because all of a sudden I felt sick, but then he said, "Either you come or I'll go to your house."

 

. . .

 

I know he would have come, and my brother doesn't really want to see him right now, so . . .

 

I'm going to go. And now I'm scared because I have not talked to him since we broke up--not even after his stupid wannabe "contacts."

 

I just got set back to day one. Sigh.

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Oh boy, in a bit of a rough situation I see;

if you do go and talk to him, keep it straight to the point and reassure yourself about how you don't want him in your life for [insert reason(s) here]

Because honestly, you don't want to go back through all of the mourning you went through when you broke up, do you?

I also think that you shouldn't dress up, wear anything he gave you/said he likes, etc. or he will feel in control and think you want him back. Don't give in; don't give him any signs of this. Right now, you're in control; he's the one that want's to talk to you. Don't let him turn it around, don't bring up the past with him, and don't make it seem like you're enjoying yourself with him. Just keep yourself to the point.. be sure not to hint that you want to be seeing him anytime soon. If it comes up, tell him not to come to your house no matter what. You don't want to see him there, and you don't want him to feel wanted.

If anything comes up about the relationship, comment about how it was a good experience; because now you know what you don't want in a man or something along those lines.

I hope this helps and although you may not want to right now; stick to getting over him and moving on, because otherwise this will turn back and you'll be in his situation; wanting to talk to him.

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Hey A-

 

I'd love to give the usual "stay away from him" speech, but I'm madly jealous that at least you ex is contacting you. :(

 

 

But I think the question you need to ask is: What do YOU want?

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I'd love to give the usual "stay away from him" speech, but I'm madly jealous that at least you ex is contacting you. :(

 

Why would you be jealous? Being contacted by an ex sucks.

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Why would you be jealous? Being contacted by an ex sucks.

 

 

its true. the idea is nice..and you may want it...but when it happens, tailspin.

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Have to agree with MadDog I hate it when I get emails or mails from her. It is enough to send a whole weekend down the tubes...

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why is that? aren't you here because you still love them and want to be with them? so when they contact you, you hate it? I'm confused...

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its true. the idea is nice..and you may want it...but when it happens, tailspin.

 

I wrote that last post late last night after hanging with my group of friends that my ex was member of until our split. My friends spent a good portion of the night talking about weddings (two of them are getting married next month), engagements (wondering when two of our other friends who moved out of town will get engaged), and married life (two of them were married in aug when I was still happy). Even the only other single person kept going on about this stuff and I wanted to scream at them for talking about those things in from of me. I've stopped talking about it, my break-up is never referenced within the group, but I've been waking up with these feelings of deep despair for days now.

 

That's why I was jealous that Alchemyst ex was at least talking to her. Do I know it would be a bad idea? Yes! Does my heart know? NO!

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My friends spent a good portion of the night talking about weddings (two of them are getting married next month), engagements (wondering when two of our other friends who moved out of town will get engaged), and married life (two of them were married in aug when I was still happy).

I've never really understood fully why women are so obsessed with getting engaged, getting married and having kids. It confounds me. It must be the having kids thing cause everything leads up to it.

 

No wonder there are 6.5 Billion people in the world...:lmao:

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I've never really understood fully why women are so obsessed with getting engaged, getting married and having kids. It confounds me. It must be the having kids thing cause everything leads up to it.

 

No wonder there are 6.5 Billion people in the world...:lmao:

 

 

I'm NOT. That's one of the reasons my relationship tanked- I DIDN'T want to get married. But when you just keep hearing about how in love everyone else is...

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But when you just keep hearing about how in love everyone else is...

many of those people will be divorced or broken up in the future...thats the reality.

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many of those people will be divorced or broken up in the future...thats the reality.

 

That's pretty bitter. But possibly true, who the heck knows.

 

Unfortunately the couple who is getting married I think have a 99% of the whole "together forever" thing. I have to go to the damn wedding shower in a few hours. More pretending to be cheerful...

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Unfortunately the couple who is getting married I think have a 99% of the whole "together forever" thing. ...

Many times its the couples who you don't think are going to stay together who end up staying together, and vice versa.

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Many times its the couples who you don't think are going to stay together who end up staying together, and vice versa.

 

Yeah, that would be me and my ex.

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why is that? aren't you here because you still love them and want to be with them? so when they contact you, you hate it? I'm confused...

 

 

Maybe there is a chance for a second chance with her but when she does make contact it is just for BS reasons. As far as I am concerned it is just a waste of my time and energy...

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