BREDA Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 okay im going to start from the start, i met a guy 3 yrs ago, when I was young and immature, we went out a few times, but i wasnt ready for a relationship so I dumped him. A few mths later, i txt him to meet up and he replied and said he had moved to england. I said if ever he was home to get in touch. So next 2 times he was home, he contacted me and something came up that we didnt meet, but 3rd time he came home we met and had a nice wkend together. He went back to england and asked me over for wkend 1 mth later, however things didnt go so well the wkend we seemed to clash, he was wrapped up with his friends and I felt left out, but we met up for another wkend the following mth and that went worse i.e. once again (my)friends got in the way and we didnt get to spend time together which led to rows and after 2nd wkend he said thats it, but I REALLY LOVED him at this stage. I did something not too nice to him in the form of revenge. And we lost touch. One year later, I moved to england and we got in touch again. He forgave me for the 'revenge.' He wanted to get together, i didnt trust him this time so we kept it casual for about 4/5 mths. On the 6th mth, he told me he had had a girlfriend when he had first got in touch with me. He had been with her for a yr and cheated on her with me. She had dumped him on the 4th mth (for other reasons) and that is when we sorta got together properly. When he told me about her, I was gutted and felt I had been used at the start. We fought again and he decided we didnt really get on, but he also told me he loved me, I didnt reply. I wasnt sure he meant it so I didnt answer, also I was shocked he had said it. I LOVE HIM SO SO MUCH. However, he left early that weekend (to get away from me I think). He has been living far away for the lst mth due to work. I begged him to come to see me again when he can. But he said he wont be down (wont make the effort again more like - he drove 6 hrs each way to come down the weekend he told me about his ex) for at least 6 mths. So thats it, but I cant move on, there is such a thing as loving someone to death and I really do. I cant bear to lose touch with him, wud settle for just being his friend. But I dont know if he realises how much i love him, as Im cool to his face also I think he still loves his ex. She was everything he wanted and i was just second best. She has sent him nasty txts since they split, she broke up with him as he was always working I cant understand why she is so angry with him. The msgs she has sent were horrible, they will never get back together for sure. But neither will we, Im afraid. But im lost without him, there is no one else in my life and im at the stage where I need someone to love me, I know he is too. But the past seems to haunt us. When we are together I doubt his feelings for me as he is a bit of a joker and I cant take him seriously. But he has been a part of my life for so long, even when we were apart for that year, he found someone but I couldnt find anyone to match him. Im afraid, hes ruined my life....as my heart is literally breaking. Sorry this is so long, there is much I have left out....pls tell me what to do...im tempted to ring him all the time just to hear his voice and ask him whats he up to, but I should keep my distance I know and get on with my life.
Chinook Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 but I should keep my distance I know and get on with my life. then I don't see that you have another option. Keeping calling him and staying in contact will just prolong the agony. It is better to move on.
BeHappy Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 It is better to keep your distance. You guys have too much history and you want someone who treat you like a princess, not second best.
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