Sleeps w/Butterflies Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 I have been with my boyfriend for two years and while we have had our ups and downs. Things between us seem to be going along just fine except for one issue I am having. My boyfriend has an older brother in his early thirties that he lives with, this brother is actually married however gets tired of his wife and decides to bunk up with his younger brother (my boyfriend). I do not live with my boyfriend but when we do spend time together I feel mood swings from the brother and feel like he treats me in a rather cruel manner. My most recent example would be sarcastic comments such as “What are you doing here?” my boyfriend and him are very close as both their parents are deceased. So many times I feel like I am intruding on their little circle. I have been patiently waiting for either the brother to go back to his wife or go with another woman but he seems comfortable the way his is. He basically lives off his younger brother and saves all his money I know this is not my business and I keep mum about their financial dealings but I wanted to add this into the story. I have never been rude to him because I don’t want to be disrespectful and I know my boyfriend loves his brother dearly. The entire time of our relationship the brother has been living with my boyfriend. He is basically a commitment phobe and maybe he is scared of losing his younger brother to me. I am pretty self sufficient have my own house and my own business. One of the reasons why I have been avoiding moving in together with my boyfriend or the whole topic of marriage is because I don’t want to play wife to both men. There have been times where my boyfriend has asked me to fix him dinner and then will add in make sure you fix some for my brother too. What I basically need is some advice or viewpoints. Am I doing the right thing by ignoring his rude and immature behavior? Am I doing right by being patient? Thanks SWB
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