jawpllc Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 I'm in my mid-50's, divorced, a nice looking guy, and searching for my last partner in life. But I have had to file Chapter 7 Bankruptcy. I am in a solid profession, so I know that I will get back on my feet enough to suit me. But, apparently, most potential dating partners don't feel the same way. When I have let them know about my situation up front, it has pretty much spooked them and run them off. (Even if they are not golddiggers, I admit that the idea of becoming tied to someone with a bad credit history is scary stuff.) On the other hand, when I have let the relationship develop for a while and then told them, the same result has occurred, not so much because of the financial situation, but rather for not being up front with them. Any ideas or help? Run 'em off up front with the ugly financial truth, or run them off later when the truth comes out? Surely there's a middle ground. Busted in Bangor
Outcast Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 I should think it would depend on the reason for the bankruptcy - did you drink or gamble away all your funds? Are you just bad with money? I dated two flat broke men. I was trying to not judge them because of their financial situations but it turned out there were reasons for them being flat broke - one drank and the other was a serious impulse buyer. If you can allay their fears that they'll have to carry you, you should be fine.
Guest Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 I think financial issues are a personal matter and I don't think it's wrong to hold back on revealing that part of your life until you've gotten to know someone better. I'm a bit shocked, frankly, that you are rejected based on the bankruptcy. Are people really that shallow? Maybe you need to fish in a better pond.... In any event, I'd just keep trying and eventually you will meet a woman who can accept the fact that life HAPPENS to people.
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