target-d Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 If you were either a BS or MP, did your financial situation affect whether or not you decided to reconcile? Why or why not?
mopar crazy Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 If you were either a BS or MP, did your financial situation affect whether or not you decided to reconcile? Why or why not? Since I was a single mom I got housing, food stamps, child support, and alimony. However as soon as I got a FT job my food stamps stopped and I didn't get much for housing. As for H, it did effect him b/c w/ child support and alimony I was taking one of his paychecks. I had to LMBO when I found out I was going to take half of his monthly income. He also had to pay $1,500 retainer fee for his lawyer and $450 for mine. I told him I hope the OW was worth it (at the time it was getting messy).
brashgal Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 Thank God I didn't need his financial support, I'd still be listening to his crap. ooo that sounds bitter
fisher-man Posted April 22, 2006 Posted April 22, 2006 I was MM. No finances had nothing to do with me staying with my wife, but I wanted the OW woman to think they did.
Author target-d Posted April 22, 2006 Author Posted April 22, 2006 I was MM. No finances had nothing to do with me staying with my wife, but I wanted the OW woman to think they did. So you told the OW that you couldn't afford to leave your wife? What, that she'd "take you for all you were worth"?
fisher-man Posted April 22, 2006 Posted April 22, 2006 So you told the OW that you couldn't afford to leave your wife? What, that she'd "take you for all you were worth"? Not quite. I said that my wife made the money. I knew that would be believable as I worked from home and she worked outside the home. Before you ask why, it was simply because of the pressure I was getting from the OW. I didn't want a divorce.
CastingPearls Posted April 22, 2006 Posted April 22, 2006 My ex husband broke off his affair when I filed for divorce. He said he didn't want to lose the security of two incomes, good insurance and a comfortable lifestyle. That wasn't what I needed to hear after being so hurt by his actions. I divorced him, I'm not his old age backup plan. He didn't go back to his girlfriend, he now has a new one. I hear his former affair was quite devastated, she thought it was only money issues keeping them apart. If only she were rich, they would still be together.
Author target-d Posted April 23, 2006 Author Posted April 23, 2006 Not quite. I said that my wife made the money. I knew that would be believable as I worked from home and she worked outside the home. Before you ask why, it was simply because of the pressure I was getting from the OW. I didn't want a divorce. Then why did you have an affair? and/or why didn't you end it instead of lying?
Curmudgeon Posted April 23, 2006 Posted April 23, 2006 Nope! I lost my happy hat, ass and coat (old military parlance) in the divorce, including half my retirement funds. The divorce from the cheater would have been cheap at twice the price! If I had it do do over again, I wouldn't change a thing. It got the job done!
scammy Posted April 23, 2006 Posted April 23, 2006 money was not a consideration. I am a poor college student now after 10 years of marriage... but all this is worth more money than I can fathom. Can't put a price on caring about yourself. They say you can't love another unless you love yourself; nothing is more self-depreciating than dealing with infidelity.
fisher-man Posted April 24, 2006 Posted April 24, 2006 Then why did you have an affair? and/or why didn't you end it instead of lying? It was an EA. I convinced myself that it wasn't anything but a friendship. I did end it, but it never ever should have happened at all. I've never been so ashamed of anything in my life. I don't honestly think that anyone ever stays in a relationship or leaves one because of money.
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