target-d Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 Something I saw on a couple of other threads got me to wondering about this. Were any betrayed spouses actually or semi-separated at the time of the affair? If so: who initiated the separation, you or your SO? Did the separation affect your response to the A? In what way? Are you now separated, divorced or reconciled?
mopar crazy Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 Something I saw on a couple of other threads got me to wondering about this. Were any betrayed spouses actually or semi-separated at the time of the affair? H and I were seperated when their PA started but their EA started b4 our seperation. If so: who initiated the separation, you or your SO? My H was the one that initiated the seperation Did the separation affect your response to the A? In what way? Yes, it did. When my H said he wanted to D and we seperated I heard from friends that him and the exOW were involved. Rumors (which were true) went all over the plant that they were screwing around. Both exOW and H denied any relations. H even lied to his lawyer about having inappropriate relations w/ ex-OW. His lawyer wrote my lawyer a letter stating this. Don't know why it was such an issue as my state is a no fault. Are you now separated, divorced or reconciled? We have reconciled the M
silktricks Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 Something I saw on a couple of other threads got me to wondering about this. Were any betrayed spouses actually or semi-separated at the time of the affair? we were living separately in the same house. him upstairs, me down If so: who initiated the separation, you or your SO? I did. had been both unhealthy and unhappy, and was trying to get myself re-focused. Did the separation affect your response to the A? In what way? I don't really know, but I don't think so. I was still devastated. Possibly (probably) I had a greater feeling of guilt due to the fact that I had left. He felt I no longer loved him. Looking back, if I had it to do over again, I would have communicated much more (and he says he would have too) Are you now separated, divorced or reconciled? reconciled and doing well. (I haven't been here much lately as I recently had surgery adn am still recuperating.)
Curmudgeon Posted April 22, 2006 Posted April 22, 2006 Something I saw on a couple of other threads got me to wondering about this. Were any betrayed spouses actually or semi-separated at the time of the affair? Yep! Both times. If so: who initiated the separation, you or your SO? She did, both times. Did the separation affect your response to the A? In what way? The first time I wanted to reconcile and we did. The second time I wanted nothing to do with her and I filed for divorce. Are you now separated, divorced or reconciled? Gratefully divorced for 12 years and married for 10 years, but not to her.
johan Posted April 22, 2006 Posted April 22, 2006 Mopar, your avatar makes it impossible for me to focus on any of your messages. Sorry. I have no idea what you said.
mopar crazy Posted April 22, 2006 Posted April 22, 2006 Mopar, your avatar makes it impossible for me to focus on any of your messages. Sorry. I have no idea what you said. LOL, she is too cute isn't she? Wish she was mine! One of these days I will have one just as cute, only it will be a male. Just waiting for the right time to get another one.
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