HopelessOne Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 I have recently come to the conclusion that you know what... I will not be getting married or having any kids. I do not want to sound like a quitter(hypocritical to say), but I really have no clue how to throw myself out into the real world and interact with people on a social level. I have a VERY small ring of friends. I am the only person in my small network that is either not married or never been married along with having no children. I feel very awkward around people I don't know and please do not even think about telling me to go walk up to a woman. No way!!! I see attractive women everywhere, but I don't really have anything to offer them. I am just resigning to the fact that some people can have it and others don't. I don't. A simple case of the haves' and have not's if you will. I have looked on the net, I have read books, I have talked with my parents and relatives about fixing whatever is in my head and you know what... I think the sooner I just accept my reality, the happier I will be in the long run. In all honesty aren't I covering a stab wound with a band aid? Chances are if you aren't a ladies man by 27, chances you won't be. Come on, there is no way I could ever have a gorgeous women as inexperienced as I am? An besides it would only be a matter of time anyway before some smooth talker with a smooth suave attitude rolled up and convinced her to leave me. I will never be the type to walk into someones' house and everybody turn around and say "what up!!!" Funny I say that because I actually had someone tell me when they saw me in a bar that I gave off an impression of "I just want to blend in with the wall, no one pay attention to me..." I don't know how, but whatever... Thanks to Caliguy... I think your posts are very insightful...
monkey00 Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 With that kind of negativity, i can see how you wont get anywhere with women. Dating is a game, breakups happen, fights happen, rejection happens...if you're not going to take the risk of meeting someone. then nothing's going to happen, no girl will instantenously fall onto your lap...well unless if she's a gold digger. hey its your life, no one can tell you what you should or shouldnt do
erika2610 Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 I have recently come to the conclusion that you know what... I will not be getting married or having any kids. I do not want to sound like a quitter(hypocritical to say), but I really have no clue how to throw myself out into the real world and interact with people on a social level. I have a VERY small ring of friends. I am the only person in my small network that is either not married or never been married along with having no children. I feel very awkward around people I don't know and please do not even think about telling me to go walk up to a woman. No way!!! I see attractive women everywhere, but I don't really have anything to offer them. I am just resigning to the fact that some people can have it and others don't. I don't. A simple case of the haves' and have not's if you will. I have looked on the net, I have read books, I have talked with my parents and relatives about fixing whatever is in my head and you know what... I think the sooner I just accept my reality, the happier I will be in the long run. In all honesty aren't I covering a stab wound with a band aid? Chances are if you aren't a ladies man by 27, chances you won't be. Come on, there is no way I could ever have a gorgeous women as inexperienced as I am? An besides it would only be a matter of time anyway before some smooth talker with a smooth suave attitude rolled up and convinced her to leave me. I will never be the type to walk into someones' house and everybody turn around and say "what up!!!" Funny I say that because I actually had someone tell me when they saw me in a bar that I gave off an impression of "I just want to blend in with the wall, no one pay attention to me..." I don't know how, but whatever... Thanks to Caliguy... I think your posts are very insightful... Monkey is right.. you really are a negative Nelly. It's all about self confidence. You've been posting these posts for about a year now about how you just can't get girls. Have you done anything in the last year or so since you've started posting to meet girls? I'm 27 and single.. only one basically within my little social circle that doesn't have kids or is married either, but I don't dwell on it. It'll happen. You can't go up to a woman with the attitude, 'hey I have nothing to offer'.. everybody has something to offer.
SuperMonk Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 There are things you should know that I will share with you. If a woman is single in her late 20s, Something is inherently wrong with her. If she's been divorced, then there is some slack, until her early 30s. then there is something wrong with her. If a man is single in his early 30s, something is inherently wrong with him. If he has been divorced, then there is some slack, until his late 30s. then there is something wrong with him. This is my judgement passed on from what I have observed in dating/marriage rituals in most cultures. Most good women are taken in their early 20s, and if not by late 20s then they start become psychologically crazy. This is a fact from a psychological study, search on the internet for that. Most good men marry in their late 20s, by their early 30s they start becoming psychological crazy if they're single. So if you're a single guy at 27, you got a couple years left before you should seriously consider yourself a loser, I'm not saying you should be desperate, but you should take the time now to definetely reassess your life. besides a late 20s guy can date an early 20s girl. At this point in time, I would *NOT* date a woman at your age or older, they're at the desperate stage at that point. I would avoid dating women older than 30, something's up with them, not sure..but from the female acquantainces that I know that are 30 something, man my judgement is right on the spot. To further emphasize what psychologically crazy means, it means that they are set in their ways, and have not emotionally matured enough to find someone that is right for them.
kitten chick Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 I'm sorry, I just had to laugh at SuperMonk's post. That was completely assenine.
a4a Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 There are things you should know that I will share with you. If a woman is single in her late 20s, Something is inherently wrong with her. If she's been divorced, then there is some slack, until her early 30s. then there is something wrong with her. If a man is single in his early 30s, something is inherently wrong with him. If he has been divorced, then there is some slack, until his late 30s. then there is something wrong with him. This is my judgement passed on from what I have observed in dating/marriage rituals in most cultures. Most good women are taken in their early 20s, and if not by late 20s then they start become psychologically crazy. This is a fact from a psychological study, search on the internet for that. Most good men marry in their late 20s, by their early 30s they start becoming psychological crazy if they're single. So if you're a single guy at 27, you got a couple years left before you should seriously consider yourself a loser, I'm not saying you should be desperate, but you should take the time now to definetely reassess your life. besides a late 20s guy can date an early 20s girl. At this point in time, I would *NOT* date a woman at your age or older, they're at the desperate stage at that point. I would avoid dating women older than 30, something's up with them, not sure..but from the female acquantainces that I know that are 30 something, man my judgement is right on the spot. To further emphasize what psychologically crazy means, it means that they are set in their ways, and have not emotionally matured enough to find someone that is right for them. :lmao: :lmao: what a dumbass statement.
littlepiggy1 Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 Chances are if you aren't a ladies man by 27, chances you won't be. Come on, there is no way I could ever have a gorgeous women as inexperienced as I am? You never know. I didn't really start dating until I was 26. Prior to that I had dated a little bit, but I was extremely shy and it took me quite awhile to come out of my shell. Better late than never, I say.
luvtoto Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 I would avoid dating women older than 30, something's up with them, not sure..but from the female acquantainces that I know that are 30 something, man my judgement is right on the spot. To further emphasize what psychologically crazy means, it means that they are set in their ways, and have not emotionally matured enough to find someone that is right for them. So...hmmm, I am over 30, SuperMonk. I am a single mother of two great kids. I run a household and keep a FT job. I have no debt. I am admired by my friends for doing such a good job being a single mother, and all. But, I am not married. According to you, I am too emotionally immature to find someone. Do you have ANY idea how rude your post is? In my opinion, 12 yr olds shouldn't be giving out dating advice.
Chinook Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 If a woman is single in her late 20s, Something is inherently wrong with her. If she's been divorced, then there is some slack, until her early 30s. then there is something wrong with her. Yeah, in my case I got cancer at 32 and the ar$ehole I was with stuck his head in the sand and basically ditched me whilst I had treatment. No loss there then eh. Most good women are taken in their early 20s, and if not by late 20s then they start become psychologically crazy. This is a fact from a psychological study, search on the internet for that. I'd like to see (a) the link for that research and (b) the credentials of the studies. I would avoid dating women older than 30, something's up with them, not sure..but from the female acquantainces that I know that are 30 something, man my judgement is right on the spot. To further emphasize what psychologically crazy means, it means that they are set in their ways, and have not emotionally matured enough to find someone that is right for them. Not emotionally matured enough..? Is that right..? So that explains why it is mostly women who walk away from idiots in their 30s..? I think you will find my friend that most women who are single in their 30s are that way simply because they chose to be so. Putting their own welfare and emotional well-being above that of a dick that they were either married to or living with. In which case, yes you will find that they are set in their ways because they simply will not settle for anyone who is going to give them less than they require. If you want to see that as emotionally immature... (shrug)
SmoochieFace Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 There are things you should know that I will share with you. If a woman is single in her late 20s, Something is inherently wrong with her. If she's been divorced, then there is some slack, until her early 30s. then there is something wrong with her. If a man is single in his early 30s, something is inherently wrong with him. If he has been divorced, then there is some slack, until his late 30s. then there is something wrong with him. This is my judgement passed on from what I have observed in dating/marriage rituals in most cultures. Most good women are taken in their early 20s, and if not by late 20s then they start become psychologically crazy. This is a fact from a psychological study, search on the internet for that. Most good men marry in their late 20s, by their early 30s they start becoming psychological crazy if they're single. So if you're a single guy at 27, you got a couple years left before you should seriously consider yourself a loser, I'm not saying you should be desperate, but you should take the time now to definetely reassess your life. besides a late 20s guy can date an early 20s girl. At this point in time, I would *NOT* date a woman at your age or older, they're at the desperate stage at that point. I would avoid dating women older than 30, something's up with them, not sure..but from the female acquantainces that I know that are 30 something, man my judgement is right on the spot. To further emphasize what psychologically crazy means, it means that they are set in their ways, and have not emotionally matured enough to find someone that is right for them. This post is ridiculous and way off base so much that I cannot even take it seriously.
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