tranceaddict Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 eg. when a someone tells them that: "they have a good figure" or "they looked hot the other night"?
Adunaphel Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 eg. when a someone tells them that: "they have a good figure" or "they looked hot the other night"? Each woman is different. Speaking for myself, if I perceive the comment as "just a nice compliment, no more than that" or if it comes from someone whom I like(either as member of the opposite sex or as a person) or who seems to be one of the "nice guys", it really makes my day. I love getting my ego boosted (not that I know many people who don't like it), but I tend to get very defensive at any compliment on my looks that comes from a stranger.
7on Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 Obviously because all women think they're too fat/too old/too ugly and us guys already think we're perfect so we don't need ego boosts
Walk Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 I think a good word in deciding if complimenting a woman is the correct course of action, would be "tact". If a compliment is given in a tactful way, then most women will be flattered. Tact, sincerity, less personal if you don't know the person. Common rules of politeness. I appreciate an honest compliment. Sometimes makes me uncomfortable because I don't know how to respond, but it's nice to hear.
Walk Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 Obviously because all women think they're too fat/too old/too ugly and us guys already think we're perfect so we don't need ego boosts Sounds like you have a healthy ego. It's funny you said this... I used to think men thought they were perfect. But after highschool, and being much older now, I've run into so many men who are affected by changes in their physical appearance. Weight, balding, muscle tone... I think men don't focus on quite the same aspects women do, but more on things that could affect their "manliness". It really came as a shock to me that men suffered from insecurity about their looks too.
whichwayisup Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 eg. when a someone tells them that: "they have a good figure" or "they looked hot the other night"? WHO doesn't like compliments? I think BOTH men and women like to have afew compliments. It's those little things that can make your day even better. As long as it isn't constant and the person feels the need to have to have their ego fed, then why not?
kitten chick Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 Obviously because all women think they're too fat/too old/too ugly and us guys already think we're perfect so we don't need ego boosts That was great 7on. That was actually a pretty good question trance, I don't think I've heard anyone ask that before. I would imagine that this is an individual thing vs. just women wanting their egos boosted. Personally, insincere compliments really get under my skin. I love sincere complements, it's really not difficult to tell the difference. The best compliments are the ones where they don't even realizing that they're complimenting you. I went to a show the other night and we were buying t-shirts and the girl selling them was having trouble finding sizes so one of my friends (who is a waif) told me to get the smaller one because I'm so tiny anyway. That was a great compliment, she doesn't even know how much I struggle with my weight.
RecordProducer Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 eg. when a someone tells them that: "they have a good figure" or "they looked hot the other night"?Compliments are always welcomed by any woman, especially by the not-so-good-looking ones. A hot woman hears it all the time so she appreciates it less.
Pyro Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 eg. when a someone tells them that: "they have a good figure" or "they looked hot the other night"? Compliments are fine, just don't go overboard. I would never compliment someone who is already full of themselves. My friends GF is so full of herself. She is stuck up and thinks that she is the worlds gift. I hear many of our friends tell her how pretty that she is. I make it a habit not to say anything in relations to a compliment to her.
2sunny Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 If it comes from someone in a genuine and honest manner, it is bound to make me happy. I never refrain from giving an honest compliment to a man or a woman - if it's warranted. 7on, As a gal in her mid 40's - I am neither fat or ugly or consider myself old. Actually, I think I am damn good looking and a very sexy lady. Even much more so than when I was 25 years old. I really do like most everything about myself, even without the plastic surgery that most women have these days. Please don't presume that women aren't happy with the way they are.... some of us are quite happy!
catgirl1927 Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 I would think that anyone would like hearing compliments. I don't think you have to be a woman to want to be appreciated.
tikigods Posted April 20, 2006 Posted April 20, 2006 Darn tootin! I love it when my hubby or someone in general tells me that I am looking food or something complimentary
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