This is what I got from him, NOW WHAT??? !!!

[jhurtinct]

If you feel like searching my other threads the story goes back on loveshack for awhile now.

 

I took him back , we went to couseling, we have a 4 yr son, been together 7 yrs, last night I told him I feel him pulling away it isn;t a relationship anymore we don't even get along anymore, we never talk you never tell me you love me anymore etc., etc., etc., and of coarse I had to wait until baseball was over to talk to him but I got you never tried to do what I wanted from you never once and I'm done trying. So he is doen trying... It is my fault because I don't dress sexy for him when he comes home, I come home from work 4-5 hrs before him and by then cleaning and playing with son I am usaully in sweats or pj's by then, I will admit He is right there, but I feel so unwanted how can I please someone else?

 

Last night he told me he was done trying and I could stay in his house as long as I needed with our son and our 2 cats 2 birds and 1 really big dog (so I will have trouble finding a place for all of us). My question to you lovely LSers is., is it possible to live with an ex or seperated spouse and child and how do you.

 

What can I do I would love for it to work but the reasons, I don't get dressed up (he bought 5 new televisions for his house never once gave me money for clothes, he supports my son and I will I stay home with our 4 yr old), but he is worried about what I wear. I should start sex with him, yet I can't even sit on the couch with him or talk to him for that matter. Because I don't do those things and he has asked me for so many years he is done talking he says I'll never change, and if I loved him I would.

 

He told me lastnight he would move into the other room what and how can I do please help I haven't stopped crying since last night, I really need advice..

[Touche]

Why not surprise him and dress sexy? It will show that you're willing to make the first move to try. And then you can ask for what YOU want. If he still doesn't give you want you want then quit trying and move on.

[jhurtinct]

I'm losing weight now I just don't feel comfortable with myself, he doesn't help that. I don't feel sexy enough to dress sexy, and I can't tell him that because he is very insensitive.

 

Tonight he still isn't home at 10:45 pm after coming home showering, smelling nice(I smelled the bedroom when I got home), I think he loves to hurt me and I think if it's possible to have a mid life crisis at 28 he is. Would you say so break uo, buy a motorcycle and a nose job all within 2 months, would you consider mid life or what?

 

Again is it possible to stay for my son and live through it and advice on how to make it easy.

[jhurtinct]

bumping up because I really need advice, should I sleep on the which he has to walk past when he gets home or sleep in the bed he said he would move to the other room right? I really need to know if this os possible??

[Touche]

This is a recipe for disaster. Sleep in the other bedroom for now though. And maybe you can still try for him. If he wants you to dress sexy sometimes HE must think you're still sexy, no?

 

Being roomates will not work in the end I don't think. You'll be miserable.

[flsgirl]

My question is why do you want to stay with this guy? He makes you feel unwanted. Why allow him to make you feel like that. He claims he's done with you because you don't dress sexy for him. You also said you couldn't talk about anything until baseball season was over. Are you kidding? What has he done for you lately? It takes two to make a relationship work.

 

From the sound of your post, you make it sound like you rely upon him for financial support which is not good at all. He knows that you won't do anything about it because you need the help with you and your son. You may want to thinking about find a new support system and get out of there. Becoming independent opens a lot of doors.

 

Good luck