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Hi everyone,

to start of i decided to join these forums in search for help! i am 19, male, and haven't had a girlfriend since year 7 in school... never been kissed and yes still a virgin.. i would consider my looks above average... so no probs in that department..

 

however, there is this girl i am specifically after... we share come from the same culture and share the same religion... anyhow, she has given me mixed feelings... first couple of weeks she was interested in me like she'd come and sit next to me in college lectures, however, one lecture she saw me sitting next to all females so since then she hasn't sat next to me and is now sitting with other guys in lecture... She seems pretty queit and reserved type of girl compared with other extroverted preppy chicks ... but yea i had this conversation on MSN last night and was wondeirng if I am doing something wrong..

 

 

[06:58:32 PM] Benny: hello sophie

[06:58:42 PM] Sophie: hey how r ya?

[06:58:50 PM] Benny: pretty good actually, you?

[06:59:37 PM] Sophie: good thanks

[07:00:14 PM] Benny: that ur dog?

[07:01:24 PM] Sophie: yer it that urs

[07:01:30 PM] Sophie: is**8

[07:01:34 PM] Benny: yeah, she's much bigger now though

[07:01:44 PM] Sophie: aww... what is her name??

[07:01:54 PM] Benny: Charlie

[07:02:36 PM] Sophie: ok mine is tiger

[07:02:59 PM] Benny: tiger yeah! what's behind the name?

[07:04:27 PM] Sophie: not much

[07:05:29 PM] Benny: think i may of seen ur sister last fri

[07:05:39 PM] Benny: and ur bro

[07:06:26 PM] Sophie: ok where???

[07:06:30 PM] Benny: at church...

[07:06:37 PM] Benny: ur brother got thick black hair?

[07:06:55 PM] Benny: ur sis was wearing all black, big yellow earings?

blonde streaks?

[07:06:58 PM] Sophie: nahh my bro was not there... my sister,

best friend and cousins where

[07:07:04 PM] Benny: agh k

[07:07:04 PM] Sophie: nahhh

[07:07:44 PM] Sophie: that is us there

[07:08:04 PM] Benny: ur brother got an afro

[07:08:28 PM] Benny: chick in the white looks like my cousin

[07:08:36 PM] Benny: u the one with yellow pants?

[07:08:51 PM] Sophie: yer

[07:08:59 PM] Benny: s*** u got a good figure

[07:09:26 PM] Sophie: hahah thanks

[07:10:21 PM] Benny: that was uncalled for !

[07:13:07 PM] Benny: so what u been up to ?

[07:13:20 PM] Sophie: not much....

[07:13:23 PM] Sophie: u

[07:13:55 PM] Benny: highlight of the day was getting a new share

account...*-)

[07:14:29 PM] Benny: do u know much about the stockmarket?

[07:15:03 PM] Sophie: no not at all

[07:15:05 PM] Sophie: i gtg

[07:15:08 PM] Sophie: nice talkin to ya

[07:15:10 PM] Benny: ok cya !

[07:15:35 PM] Benny: when we gonna catch up for coffee?

[07:16:06 PM] Sophie: when uni starts....

[07:16:08 PM] Sophie: i gtg

[07:16:09 PM] Sophie: cya

[07:16:10 PM] Benny: ciao

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haven't had a girlfriend since year 7 in school... never been kissed and yes still a virgin..

 

Did you really have to tell us you're still a virgin? I don't think too many guys out there have never kissed but have done the nasty. :)

 

[07:08:36 PM] Benny: u the one with yellow pants?

[07:08:51 PM] Sophie: yer

[07:08:59 PM] Benny: s*** u got a good figure

[07:09:26 PM] Sophie: hahah thanks

 

That's where you went horribly wrong. You told us earlier that she's somewhat shy and conservative. "s*** u got a good figure" probably isn't the type of compliment she was looking for. You have to somewhat adjust the way you talk to girls based on their personalities. Save "s***, you're hot" for some girl you meet at the club, not a girl like her.

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I am also noticing, because i have MSN PLUS ( a program which logs the users on my lists events) that this chick is comming online and offline really fast..

 

i am thinking could be to see if i am online, cause when i am online she seems to stay onine as well?? but when i go offline she usually goes offline too..

 

another behaviour i noticed was she would come online as busy for a few hrs then when i come online, change her status to online, then i go offline and she would change it back to busy

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I am also noticing, because i have MSN PLUS ( a program which logs the users on my lists events) that this chick is comming online and offline really fast..

 

i am thinking could be to see if i am online, cause when i am online she seems to stay onine as well?? but when i go offline she usually goes offline too..

 

another behaviour i noticed was she would come online as busy for a few hrs then when i come online, change her status to online, then i go offline and she would change it back to busy

 

What's all this supposed to mean?

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I love the delusional MSN flirting code ...

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It sounds to me like she's interested in you, but perhaps is waiting for you to make the moves. Is she very religious? That right there would make a difference. Seems like she adjusts her behavior according to yours. She doesn't sound very forward. Why was the MSN banter so short? I'd go for it. If she's not that into you, move on. When I was in college there was always someone else waiting in the wings....

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It sounds to me like she's interested in you, but perhaps is waiting for you to make the moves. Is she very religious? That right there would make a difference. Seems like she adjusts her behavior according to yours. She doesn't sound very forward. Why was the MSN banter so short? I'd go for it. If she's not that into you, move on. When I was in college there was always someone else waiting in the wings....

 

yeh she is queit religious, a good christian, don't think she sleeps around and attendend an all girls school so i am not sure how many boyfriends she would've had..

 

but as far as making the moves read this from previous conversations, this was from a few weeks ago..

 

[08:35:30 PM] Benny: gonna have a massive comming weekend too !! (Y)

[08:36:37 PM] Sophie: yer me too , i can't wait

[08:36:48 PM] Benny: nice!

[08:38:14 PM] Benny: u free friday night

[08:38:35 PM] Sophie: mm... i dunno.. i think i will be goin to

town

[08:38:37 PM] Sophie: what about u

[08:39:05 PM] Benny: i plan on going to the casino...then maybe clubbin

or to a bar

[08:39:12 PM] Sophie:: ok kool

[08:39:30 PM] Sophie: well if u do call or text me and i try to

catch up with ya

 

 

... I didn't call her on the night but just happend to come across her by COINCIDENCE!!! she was kinda tipsy and say "ohhhhhhh Bennyy!" so that was alright, only talked very brief though as she was with all her girlfriends...

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07:13:55 PM] Benny: highlight of the day was getting a new share

account...*-)

[07:14:29 PM] Benny: do u know much about the stockmarket?

 

I beg to differ with MadDog, I think this is where the convo when horribly wrong. Many girls in their twenties don't give a hoot about finance. It being the "highlight of your day" is kinda nerdish.

 

As for the generally situation: How do you know that she logs off when you do? Unless you're only of those people who og off to 'appears offline' and watches what people do. It's immature. If you like her, just ask her out IN PERSON. MSN is a romantic relationship killer.

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