Author luvtoto Posted April 23, 2006 Author Posted April 23, 2006 Would it not be smarter to just say "DOnt contact me anymore as we are not on the same page"? Wouldnt he then realise that you are no longer available to him? What happens when you are wanting to see him and he calls? Will you not agree to see him for YOUR benefit? Will you not think it is fine because it is on HIS terms? Tell him not to contact you anymore is my advice - Dont let him even think he can have you in his life when its convieniant for him! That will get him more than being off with him, he probably wont even realise it for ages! You want this man so you need to go for it or finish it in words and for real! Thats my $0.02 Lishy, your 2 cents is always welcome. I am just not sure that I still want him anymore. This time, when we got back together, my life had improved so much since the last time I saw him, that I thought it would be different. In the year that we were broken up, I found out what it would be like to not have him in my life. Wasn't as difficult as I thought it would be. I even started dating again. Got myself to the point where I didn't hardly think about him anymore. I almost felt like a dodged a bullet a few times, when I thought about our previous relationship. Then, his best buddy told *me* that D talks about me alot to him. His BB calls him an idiot for letting me go. He said their conversation was about what he should've, would've, could've, done to make things better between us. He regretted losing me. So, lo and behold, I let him back into my life. Doh! I should have cut him off at the gate when I had the chance. I guess I figured that I would have the power this time. So, let's try this again...... It was sooo great at first. He was very attentive and called me all the time, took me on dates. Also, when he hugged me it was not your typical hug. He really missed me. But, three months later, back to the same old crap. Too damn busy...hardly any calls. So, I don't know what else to do. I give up. In my honest opinion...I think he's a broken man. Unable to allow himself to be happy.
Lishy Posted April 23, 2006 Posted April 23, 2006 Honey if you HONESTLY think that you do not want to be with him anymore then finish it WITH WORDS and let him go! He will continue to hurt you because I think deep down you want this man badly! I see myself in your words and i know the words were bravado and me trying to convince myself that I didnt want him!
Author luvtoto Posted April 23, 2006 Author Posted April 23, 2006 Honey if you HONESTLY think that you do not want to be with him anymore then finish it WITH WORDS and let him go! He will continue to hurt you because I think deep down you want this man badly! I see myself in your words and i know the words were bravado and me trying to convince myself that I didnt want him! Would that be such a bad thing to convince myself that I don't need him? I just don't understand. He doesn't need me to spell out the fact that he needs to spend more time with me. I don't want to spend another day with someone that doesn't care about my feelings or needs. The way I see it is, if I DO call him to tell him how I feel...he probably would improve for a couple weeks...then, back to the same old s***. I am just thinking that this is the way that this guy is. period.
Lishy Posted April 23, 2006 Posted April 23, 2006 So finish it, but tell him, dont just cut convo's short and play the games he plays. Finish it and move on sweetie!
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